Should you really live with someone before you marry them?

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  1. fatmoney profile image57
    fatmoneyposted 7 years ago

    Should you really live with someone before you marry them?

  2. the clean life profile image79
    the clean lifeposted 7 years ago

    Well, in my opinion I would say no, reason being is that true love we should know without living with someone. I dated my wife for only 4 month and knew how much we were a like and our interest and our feelings for each other and married in 4 months and have been married now for 30 years!!! I know this doesn't always happen like this but when you know your in love you know it.

  3. EllenDean profile image79
    EllenDeanposted 7 years ago

    If you have the opportunity to do so and it doesn't inhibit your value system, why not?  Many people say that the first year of marriage is the toughest...I actually think, the first year of a new roommate is the toughest.  Living together is yet another way to see if you are compatible.  Some people change in a live-in situation.  Some relationships become closer, and others find faults.  I do think it's a worthy experiment if you can.  Especially since the divorce rate is so high (50%), it'd be good to really know how your other half lives prior to to the commitment of sharing space.

  4. QudsiaP1 profile image61
    QudsiaP1posted 7 years ago

    No, simply because the idea was marriage was created to go and live with someone else.

    When you live with someone, you tend to take them for granted, the gap between engagement and wedding makes couples usually value each other all the more.

    Simply stated, if you already know about the gift you are about to get, when you actually open it from the wrapping you are hardly enthusiastic about it.

  5. LeslieAdrienne profile image80
    LeslieAdrienneposted 7 years ago

    No... once you live together, you mess yourselves up for marriage.

    Marriage puts you into a "you are supposed to do..." attitude. If you don"t live together before you get married, you can more easily adopt this attitude.

    If you live together, you will have a more difficult making the mental and emotional switch.

    Not to mention the moral implications.

  6. wychic profile image85
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    This is a very individual decision, and obviously one that changes drastically with belief system and culture. Personally, I believe there is nothing wrong with living with someone before you're married, though I generally have a problem with it if two people haven't already made a serious commitment to each other. That said, if casual daters want to meld their home and finances, there's nothing anyone outside of the relationship can say about it.

    I lived with both my husbands for a time before marrying them -- which was sufficient time for me to know that I shouldn't have married the first, though I was too inexperienced and stubborn to not go through with it. With my husband, we may not have lived together first if circumstances had been different, but we lived far apart and he moved here shortly after we got together. It just plain didn't make sense for him to get his own place when we were already planning on forever, and we were married a few months later.

  7. glenn wallace profile image72
    glenn wallaceposted 7 years ago

    Everyone is different, but if you want to I'd say go for it!

    Like EllenDean says, living with someone teaches you a whole lot about them, as well as yourself. And if you are going to pledge your heart and soul to another person, simple stuff like figuring out if you have the same housecleaning mentality can help ensure marital bliss.

    If simply being roomates is enough to make one of you start to take the other for granted, well then it's probably a good thing you don't get married.

  8. phiphi profile image56
    phiphiposted 7 years ago

    Nope, I don't agree with this idea. No, simply because the idea was marriage was created to go and live with someone else, once you live together, you mess yourselves up for marriage. but everyone is different, but if you want to I'd say go for it!

  9. Maxjaf profile image51
    Maxjafposted 7 years ago

    Well yes
    Party 1 night

    is better party every night ;


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