For How Long Should A Man Live With A Woman Under The Same Roof Before marriage?

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  1. ngureco profile image81
    ngurecoposted 14 years ago

    For How Long Should A Man Live With A Woman Under The Same Roof Before marriage?

    The Girl Need Enough Time To Unmask That Mask The Man Is Wearing.

  2. H P Roychoudhury profile image40
    H P Roychoudhuryposted 14 years ago

    A man should not live with a woman because a woman is the wife of another person. But a man can live with a girl so as to marry her. If a man lives with a girl, the emotional sex will rise which is not ethically good for a healthy marriage life. If it is so a man should live with a girl so long the adjustment of mind is perfect to accept each other but not in the same roof to avoid free mixing until finally accepted each other to marriage.

  3. Star22 profile image60
    Star22posted 14 years ago

    You should never live together before marriage. Tests have proven that this would increase your chances of the marriage failing.
    That's why you date smart. You get to know your partner when you date by paying attention to how he/she treats you, and how he/she is around different people to get to know his/her personality.

  4. Silver Poet profile image71
    Silver Poetposted 14 years ago

    People who are thinking of getting married should spend lots of time together in many varied situations to see if they are compatible. 

    They should not live together until after marriage.  That would be like opening your presents before Christmas or eating an undercooked meal.  Some things are worth the wait.

  5. M. Rose profile image78
    M. Roseposted 14 years ago

    If they're going to live together before marriage, I'd say shoot for as little of a time as possible. I think it's easy to get to a place where you've been living together for so long that marriage seems unnecessary (especially for a man or woman who may be gun-shy about taking that next step). It makes already live together, so what would be the big change after marriage?

    Couples these days live together quite often before marriage, and I'm sure many make an easy transition into getting married. Living together shouldn't take the place of getting married though, so it's a fine line to walk.

  6. dashingscorpio profile image80
    dashingscorpioposted 14 years ago

    There really is no set timeframe. It varies from one man to the next. Honestly it's not about the "time" but "who" you are with is the most important factor. In this day and age there are many couples that moved in together NOT as a pre-marriage requirement but simply because it became more convenient than packing an over-night bag and driving across town.
    One person was always over the other one's house and they were paying rent for two places...etc

    In fact my guess is more than half of the couples living together moved in without having any "future marriage discussion".

    If you are serious about getting married to someone the discussion of marriage should come up (before) moving in together.For example a couple dates for a year or so, a proposal is made, they move in together, a year later they get married.

    I tell women all of the time that men do not go "looking for a wife". More often than not "we discover" we have found her in the woman we are with over time. For some guys they don't realize she's "the one" until after she moves out.

    I would say by the time you have lived together for 2 years or less.That's plenty of time to see if you can live with their various habits for a life-time. :-)

    One more note for any woman that is tired of waiting to be proposed to....It's 2009! There is nothing wrong with you proposing to your man. (You don't need to buy a ring) to ask.
    If you are rejected or get a less than enthusiastic response then move on. Life is short!

    Generally speaking men and women reject one another differently.

    Men reject women by NOT asking them out. (Indirect rejection)
    Women reject men by saying NO when asked out. (Direct rejection) If a man is not asking he's rejected the idea of being married to you.

    If years are rolling by and a man is not asking his woman to marry him it's because he does not see her as being wife material nor does he want to risk going through the legality of making it "official" knowing deep down inside his view of your relationship is day by day, month by month, and not "forever".

    Some couples live together longer than many marriages last. Examples: Goldie Hawn & Kurt Russell or Tim Robbins and Susan Sarandon. Whether you get married or live together there are no Guarantees in life. Nothing is written in stone.

  7. livenlearn87 profile image68
    livenlearn87posted 14 years ago

    None! Otherwise, what is the big difference after marriage?

  8. profile image0
    WildIrisposted 14 years ago

    It really depends on the man and his relationship to the woman and their shared view of marriage. If their shared view of marriage means a sacred and a religious vow in front of family, friends and community, then living together may not be a good option.  If on the other hand their shared idea of marriage does not hold a significant sacred value, then it probably doesn't matter.  I think the emphasis is on a shared idea of marriage. I personally do not think living together determines the health of a long term relationship, although I know studies contradict this sentiment.

  9. dawnM profile image57
    dawnMposted 13 years ago

    well if you want to be honest about the question, most of the time, not all of the time, but statistically speaking living together is one way  not to get married.  Most people that live together before marriage end up breaking up, because when you have several fights, there is no foundation.

    on a second note because I like to address both issues, marriage unfortunately is no guarantee for a couple staying together, but if you are a woman and want to get married don't live with a man before hand, big mistake.

  10. omcj1234 profile image59
    omcj1234posted 13 years ago

    I think the question has more to do with how much time you spend together. Spending an hour together before bed is not the same as being in the same apartment all day. Once you know you can spend days on end together (and still want to spend that kind of time together) then you're set.

  11. Journalistmommy profile image69
    Journalistmommyposted 13 years ago

    Never ever. If you are marrying someone for better or worse, then you are accepting their habits and quirks. You will learn to find a way to live with the fact that she snores or that he leaves his socks in the kitchen. Better yet, you will learn to love your wife if she gets ill and can't be the person she used to be. If your husband gets paralyzed, you are still there, regardless. Living together before being married means that one person wants to be able to jump ship should things go wrong. That's not what commitment is about.

  12. juiwei2000 profile image58
    juiwei2000posted 11 years ago

    I say minimum one year, you want to see if the two of you are really good together.  Also, when you are dating, some girls might pretend to be somebody other then who she is e.g. she is really a bitch, but she pretend to be a very nice girl.  If you live together for over 1 year, there is a good chance, you would eventually see what sort of person she really is


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