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Gratitude ~ When Lives Collide..

Updated on December 4, 2012

“In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but the gratefulness that makes us happy.” Albert Clark


This is the true story of two women. They come from two very different worlds, but - as the chaos and unpredictability of life is wont to do - are thrown together in a time and space where their lives suddenly collide..

“My riches consist not in the extent of my possessions, but in the fewness of my wants.” Joseph Brotherton


Zee came from adoration and wealth..

She was born into a well-known wealthy family to older parents, and was - as far as they were concerned - God's gift straight from heaven! Zee had never known what 'WANT' felt like - and certainly not 'NEED'!

She had the full run of a large, staffed, opulently appointed home. Descriptions of it's decor included adjectives such as: 'Over-the-top', 'unrefined', and 'crass' - along with 'very expensive' - of course!

Her parents didn't believe that their princess required manners OR discipline - and her life revolved around private schools, travel, shopping - and VEGAS! Yes, her impulsive, flamboyant daddy loved to gamble and - back in the day - was treated like royalty in Vegas!

He started taking his baby girl there before she was ten years old, and it wasn't uncommon for him to calm one of her oft-thrown tantrums with a quick zip to Sin City or Lake Tahoe!

Zee never held a position of employment and in her late fifties - while she was off living in Europe with her fourth husband - her mother took ill. In her absence, her parents made the decision to down-size and purchase a nice two-bedroom condo.

They proceeded to stuff it FULL of leather and granite and china and artwork.

And then they DIED...


Ell came from abuse and neglect..

She was born the second of two daughters to a mother who was not yet 20 - and a father who had never wanted children. When he found out that he was going to be a father, he first gave Ell's mama-to-be a black eye - THEN he demanded a boy!

It had not yet been discovered that the sex of the child is determined SOLELY by the man - and Ell's daddy was righteous in his bruising anger! After all, his wife dared to disobey him - TWICE!

Ell's young life was one that rarely saw a fresh flower or a kind word. Where cupboards were more often empty than not. Where no one encouraged ambition or displayed affection. Where rarely did anyone cook - OR clean..

Where the tall, skinny sister wore the same clothes as the shorter, heavier sister..

It was a life where the wetting of beds and the sucking of thumbs were but small indicators of the true level of fear, confusion - and abuse!

When Ell was just fourteen years of age, she left home armed with nothing but a talent - and her life took on an entirely new direction./

After years of working two - sometimes THREE jobs at one time - Ell found her niche in sales, and she and her children moved into a nice two-bedroom condo!

She proceeded to furnish it sparingly - but lovingly!


These two divergent life paths intersected suddenly on a beautiful summer's day at the condominium's swimming pool - where Zee was sobbing uncontrollably..

While groups of shocked and uncomfortable sun-worshippers did their best to not stare - Ell pulled up a chair beside Zee and asked if there was anything she could do to help...

Here's what was spat into her face: "YES - you can help! You can f***ing kill me right here and now!"

"I can't BELIEVE that my parents went and died and left me HERE - in this HELL HOLE! I HATE them for doing this to me and I'll NEVER forgive them."

"And - I can't do a thing about it! I'm on a f***ing allowance from a f***ing trust fund that my idiot uncle is in charge of - and - HE HATES ME!"

"I'm barely going to be able to stay in Mexico for a month this winter - then I'll be stuck freezing my ass off HERE for the rest of it! They couldn't even move to somewhere that had UNDERGROUND PARKING or an ELEVATOR"

"I'm putting diapers on my parent's mutt, (Poodles, the cowering animal on her lap), cause I'm sure as hell not running up and down two flights of stairs every time IT has to pee"...


That's all Ell heard as she rose and started to slowly meander back to her home...her warm, safe haven...her tiny piece of heaven that she couldn't be prouder of..

Her CASTLE...

True story - not one f***ing word of a lie!


“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful.”

Buddha


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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie, is there anything you do gently? LMAO.....I'm sorry for laughing, but this story is classic you! There are no easy lessons in life; just in your face, down your throat, up your butt, truth from Leslie! God I love you my friend! We simply have to meet some day and spend the afternoon kicking ass and taking names.

      your devoted follower,

      bill

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Absolutely fantastic story with such a glaring and important message. It is truly amazing how different two people can be, yet hardships for some end up being blessings and the other experiences the reverse. Reading this story makes me so proud of the parents who raised me. I am often reminded of why I am truly grateful. I wasn't raised in wealth but my house was full of love and necessary fair discipline when warranted. I may not be perfect in any way but I sure as hell appreciate what was given to me. Hard work, respect of others who deserve it and never forgetting that each person is worthy when given a chance.

      Great addition to this my friend. I am a proud of you! Voting up and sharing.

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      Martie Coetser 4 years ago from South Africa

      Excellent hub, Leslie. Gratitude brilliantly explained. I LOVE the quotes you've chosen and the cover picture is hilarious :)

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      FyrFytr234 4 years ago

      It's amazing to me how some people could be so miserable whebn they really have no worries. And even more amazing are the people that have little yet are so content and happy. It really does come down to perspective.....and gratitude. Good hub. Voted up and shared.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      wow I have to agree with everyone else.. this is amazing and excellent hub.. how true this us.. people that are spoiled and then because of life how grateful... I really like this and I am sharing..

      Debbie

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      ImKern, you've demonstrated the point beautifully, in your no nonsense way, of course!!... one man's happiness can be another man's agony, depending on where they're coming from.

      It is all about their perspective and mind set, some people can have the world at their feet and never know happiness, and others can be happy with very little, that is why I try never to envy other people. Voting up.

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Leslie,

      You go, Perspective girl...High Five for a fabulous take on Gratitude...

      This has been the coolest month getting to know you and you are as beautiful inside as you are out...!

      Love this lesson and love you even more...UP and UABI.

      Hugs, Maria

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      Dennis L. Page 4 years ago from New York/Pennsylvania border

      I sat in silence as I read your story. I didn't smile or crack any jokes. Instead Ms. L. I absorbed your words like a sponge, feeling the deep honesty in knowing hardships, abuse and being appreciative of the lives we manage to carve out for ourselves. I'm very familiar with Ell, even though we've never met in person. I know she writes with a flair for shock and awe, but always being true to her feelings. There's a saying that respect is earned and not given away. You my friend have my respect...for whatever that is worth.

      I mentioned to a mutual friend of ours just yesterday how people were different following 9/11. Did you notice that no one honked their car horns? Cars stopped and let pedestrians cross in front of them. Road rage took a siesta. Folks seemed more courteous and grateful. Of course, with time things slowly got back to where they were prior to that fateful day.

      I know that I'm thankful for so much in my life and for the people who I have crossed paths with and you Ms. L. are high on my list!

      That Buddha was one smart dude, wasn't he?

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      Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      Talk about a change of pace! A wonderful hub that should be read and reread by.... well... everybody! We do have much to be thankful for, and regularly overlook it in our rush to see the negative.

      Buddha got it right (again).

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      picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      I just love your hubs!!! Great and poignant story. Spoiled people drive me nuts....love Ell tho! Vote way up!!

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      Mohan Kumar 4 years ago from UK

      You are a modern Aesop. I love the way you illustrate the perspective of Gratitude with absolute clarity and unpretentious narrative. This story is a lesson to us all. the grass is never as green as we think it is... thank you for sharing - I'm glad you are part of this .

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      HLPhoenix 4 years ago

      So poignant... hit me in the solar plexis when they ended up in the same place, yet felt so different about it... While both Zee and Ell's lives are far from my own, my life was rich in love and support... when that disappeared the blow froze me in place for a long time, but I thank my mother for somehow instilling in me... what you quoted the Buddah saying "Let us all rise up and be thankful..." A very surprising, yet perfect example of perspective at work. Well done. Voted up and sharing.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      I wish, you ran into my "crew' The truth of this is baffling, Perhaps you have... thanks.

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      Nellieanna Hay 4 years ago from TEXAS

      Dear, dear Leslie. This is a masterpiece. Beautiful and totally true. I also loved your illustrations and quotations. Each person is truly living in his or her own subjective reality based on perception and perspective.

      Zig Ziglar talked about having an "attitude of gratitude'. That's what Ell in your story demonstrates, - making her rich in her experiences; while poor sad Zee is a pauper because she feels like one in hers.

      I'm so thankful to have gotten to know YOU! Thanks for another of your inimitable takes on important issues. You never disappoint! Hugs.

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      When my children were younger and Life would deal them a bad card, I would remind them that there were others who had it worse than they. Then I would tell them that Life was like that sometimes and while we can't control the circumstances we find ourselves in, we can control our attitude towards them. My oldest moved out six months ago and is starting to understand what I've been saying all these years. Her flat isn' t fancy but it is cosy and inviting. I put that down to her attitude of gratitude, her warm-hearted nature and her never say die approach.

      This hub is a good reminder of how much influence we do have over our own lives. All we need do is adjust our perspective of it.

      Voted up, interesting and awesome. Socially shared.

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      Graham Lee 4 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Well done Leslie. You really do need to come out of your shell and be a little more direct!

      Voted up and all.

      Graham.

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      Roberta Kyle 4 years ago from Central New Jersey

      An important life lesson, well illustrated-- If we really could walk a mile is somebody else's shoes, the world would be a better place. But sadly, we all filter everything through our own life experience and there is soooo much we cannot know. Our ignorance keeps us in chains. As my father used to say " It's not the hand you are dealt that counts in life, it's how you play the cards" and gratitude is a big part of that. Thanks for reminding us-- thumbs up across the board

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Billybuc: Lol...g e n t l y? Hmmmm...i always thought that was spelled with a J?...haha..

      i love you too, Bill - please know this. Even my fyrfytr loves you...LOL..

      You're amazing good people - you walk the walk - and i would love to one day meet

      my son works for microsoft and is often very close by to where you live...

      your devoted admirierxx

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Shiningirisheyes: I loved being a part of this group, Becky - no matter how bad i am with deadlines...lol..

      As far as this 'story' goes - i've seen opposite 'perspectives' as well...A person could grow up as 'Ell' did - and have a 'hate-on' towards the world forever! I truly believe that people have the ability to CHOOSE to seek what's outside their 'norm'..I also believe that it's far easier to not. Also - it gives one a lifetime of excuses: What do you expect - look at my childhood, kinda thing...

      It all depends on the person and how willing they are to expose themselves to reality...and change..

      I am 'grateful' for your friendship and support, my friend..

      thanks for sharing - it means a lot!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @MartieCoetser: Thank you my comrade in writing...lol..i had a blast!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Fyrfytr234: It's amazing to me just how MANY folks seem to be - and stay - miserable! Is it just me or does the amount of money they have often equate to the degree of miserable? Often seems so, eh? Guessin' we'll never have to worry bout such nonsense...LOL...

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @DeborahBrooks: I guess i coulda sugar-coated it, but - it was SUCH a shock to me that i wanted you to get the full impact! She did this in front of children! i saw more of her after that and - she NEVER changed! Always whining about how far she had 'fallen' - and how miserable her life was now that her daddy wasn't around to take care of her. THIS from a 60 odd year old woman...OY...(clearly a new soul...lol)

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Tobusiness: 'Perspective'...the word of the day! It means everything when it comes to a person's thought process and opinions! Too bad we didn't just have a nice 'Adjust' button, eh?

      one for perspective...one for attitude...hmmmm....i'm liking the idea..lol

      Thanks for taking the time, my friend!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @marcoujor: High 5 backatcha, Maria! This was sooo cool, and i'm honored you...took a chance on me..lol..

      Sooo grateful that we've gotten to know each other better - and i do so love what i've learned! You're 'good people' Maria - and that's saying tons! Hugs AND Hubsxx

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @pagesvoice: Even your comment almost moves me to tears, D! I'm sooo glad to see you've penned another D-licious hub - I cannot wait to D-vour it! Doncha wish people's memories actually worked for longer than a nano-second? It's like Bush - did you ever hear a republican mention the name? It's like - he didn't exist and obama cause all the problems the moment he took office! It's wild...Same goes for blacks - hardly EVER do you hear anyone mention that perhaps - just perhaps - the history of and bias towards blacks has SOMETHING to do with the issues of today? NAHHHHH....

      btw - that 'thankful' thing? Goes both ways...xx

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Xstatic: lol..either a quick-change artist - or desperately bi-polar..(please - don't answer..lol)..

      Yeah - Buddah da man - even if he could use some exercise...lol

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Picklesandrufus: I love that you're lovin' on it my friend! I mean that sincerely! Thank you...

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Mhatter99: lol..i've run into a few interesting 'crews' in my time, M - no doubt you have as well...

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Docmo: Hi, Doc - so nice to see you - i am grateful that you took the time! I loved this experience even though the 'deadline' freaked me out...lol

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      Justsilvie 4 years ago

      Excellent perspective!

      It is amazing how different two people can be in the same situation and have such different views of them and also amazing that you could switch the characters backgrounds and still get the same final outcome. Another thing this made me think of how often you hear that someone became wealthy through the lotto, or through some talent at a sport, or in the theater , only to lose it all, because they so envy those who have always been wealthy, and work so hard to emulate them they lose it all. Some are lucky and say it was fun while it lasted and go on to lead a normal if not wealthy life others wind up dead or on the street.

      Well done! Vote up and shared!

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Leslie, I was curious to see what spin you would add to this theme. I was not disappointed! The clarity with which you've illustrated the difference between gratitude and ingratitude is right on! I'm so glad you joined us this month. The beauty of inviting guest writers to this series is the friends we make. Bantering back and forth in personal emails (Mickey and Maria are just aweful to each other, aren't they?) creates stronger friendships. I'm glad to call you a friend.

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      Cynthia B Turner 4 years ago from Georgia

      Excellently written. It is all about perspective, the lens we see life through, that produces the gratitude. Sometimes it's the ones we perceive to have so much that we must feel sorry for and that give us pause to be grateful for what we have and who we are. Well done.

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Hee-hee...Thanks for loving us, Leslie, as we now all love you!

      Oh Sha, I am aren't I...?! I just couldn't have it any other way...

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      Dana Strang 4 years ago from Ohio

      Before I comment, I would like to share that my life has beenan unusual mix of the lives of these two girls. I can relate intimately to both, and your telling of it is dead on!

      An amazing illustration of how one's life experience can influence their perspective on life and how that perspective influences gratitude.... I find myself feeling sorry for the girl who had everything and happy for the one with nothing, because in the end everything turned to nothing and from nothing came everything.

      Not only is this a wonderful examiniation of perspective and gratitude, but it is a wake up call to a lot of people to look at their life and make sure they are looking at it through a heslthy lens.

      One last thing - Your writing is incredible! Don't ever stop!

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      MickeySr 4 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

      My wife and I come from very different backgrounds, and I've always counted that as one of the features of our relationship that makes each of us better as 'us' than either of us are as our individual selves. Leslie, you are a perfect fit both with our little group and with the idea behind 'Perspectives:' . . . I hope you can join again sometime soon on an upcoming topic to provide the 'perspective' only you can provide.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      A true story for sure. As i read your story about childhood pain, i could relate. Often a beautiful rose grows among brown ugly weeds. How much better to have struggled than be like Zee who had no compassion and was miserable. I have had the very best and the very worst. I will take happpiness over ' things ' any day. You have a writing skill that is uniquely yours and i love it..Cheers

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @HLPhoenix: Life takes all kinds of twists we don't expect and i know exactly what you're talking about- i kinda watched it happen..ya know? It all comes down to dealing with...anything..and knowing you have the inner strength and proper 'PERSPECTIVE"...

      lol..that words comin' up a LOT lately...

      Hugs&Hubsxx

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Nellieanna: Wow Zig Zigler...haven't heard that name in a while..lol..What wasn't in this story was how much therapy Ell got to understand certain dynamics and let her anger go....

      Nothing's easy...

      ya know? I know you do, Nellie!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Phoenix2327: Wow - what a GREAT parent you are! for people to understand that they 'can't control the circumstances' - only their response to them is one of the greatest revelations there is - i believe!! What great tools you armed your kids with, Phoenix - they have no idea how lucky they are! When i was young my aunt told me that there would always be people with more than me - always be people with less than me - and to always appreciate what i had! It stuck with me...

      Thanks so much for caring AND sharing!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @OldAlbion: Lol..i know, eh? I'll try harder, Graham! Thanks for keeping me in line...haha..

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Robie2: Doesn't it seem as if those 'life filters' you speak of are getting narrower and narrower lately? I agree that ignorance keeps us in chains, but - we do have the power - if we choose to use it AND are courageous enough! That's why we have thumbs connected to brains...lol..

      But...it's that 'courage' thing that's the hard part...

      Thanks for dropping in and offering your excellent 'perspective, Robie..Please - come again!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Justsilvie: OR - those folks you speak of who just....came into money without REAL work - just don't really ever appreciate it! Inheriting it, or winning it - or being good at a sport can come too easily for those without the proper - PERSPECTIVE! It looks like it doesn't matter where someone comes from - it's their ability to introspect, respect - and appreciate!

      I 'appreciate' your support, Silvie - thanks for caring AND sharing!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Bravewarrior: Welcome, my friend! This 'group' experience has been very...um...satisfying for me! It was my first as well - so - i shall never forget! LOL...

      Seriously though - it's been an amazing time getting to know everyone better and i HIGHLY recommend others to jump in and give it a whirl...

      (and YES - they are awful to each other...and yet - all i can feel is love...LOL..)

      There IS HUB-LOVE...i've never been anywhere where i've felt it soo strongly! (now..if only the powers that be would accept me...haha)..

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Cyndi10: Wise, wise words, Cyndi! I noticed from a very young age that too many folks who YEARN for success, attention, and wealth - such as entertainers of any ilk - seem to be some of the least happiest! nothing against ambition - it's a beautiful thing - it's more about wanting something so badly as to be blind to what cost it demands - and what collateral damage it does..

      blahblah..tired - don't know if that made ANY sense whatsoever...LOL..

      Long story short - Thanks for stopping by, Cyndi! Please come again!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Marcoujor: You would be such a fun - yet most trusted - friend! I adore how you abuse Mickey - clearly - it keeps him in line - although - he CAN bite back, can't he? LOL..

      Getting to know you has been the BEST silver lining to an already bright cloud, Maria! I had already gotten a 'feel' for your aura before the 'gratitude' thing - and knew i would feel safe with you!

      Love you all tooooooooo......

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @DanaTeresa: Hmmm...that must be an interesting story in itself, Dana - experiencing BOTH lives! I promise you that your sweet words and encouragement won't go to my head(there's no room anyway) - but that doesn't mean I don't deeply appreciate it! Thank you, my friend..

      btw..i left a sub-comment on Escobana's nagging hub...

      sweet dreamsxx

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @MickeySr: Thank you sir for taking a bit of a risk and allowing ImKarn this opportunity - it was a first for me and i thoroughly enjoyed it! I left a comment on your hub which i mean sincerely - you are inspirational in your vision of life - and not only do you talk the talk - you walk the walk - BIG TIME..

      Sooo impressive...When i grow up i wanna be just like YOU! (Billy will understand...haha)...

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Alwaysexploring: You make my day when you say that you truly enjoy my work - while i do it for the libra within, first and foremost - it's VERY satisfying and encouraging when others enjoy...agree...and come back!

      Thank you my friend! Cheers!

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thank you, Leslie, for your very kind words. I don't consider myself a 'great' anything. Not being modest, just stating a fact. I think I'm like most people trying to do the best they can for their kids.

      My husband and I are not rich people in the financial sense, so I don't think the kiddies well get much in the way of inheritance. The next best thing we can leave them is life lessons they can use to help them reach whatever goals they have set for themselves. Money comes, money goes, but wisdom never loses its value. In fact, it can only become richer as we get older.

      Once again, thank you for your generous words.

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Thanks for understanding the relationship I share with our boss...

      He is my boy toy and Mickey so dearly needs to be kept in line.

      Now then, whoever does not accept you, every bit of your beauty, wit and compassion...well, they are JERKS!

      Come and join us any time...and thanks for chatting up the Perspectives!

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      This has to be my favorite hub yours.. Your best write .. I do love it.. great job..

      sharing

      Debbie

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @DeborahBrooks: Ooooooo...i did NOT like the deadline, but - i LOVED the experience and the people! You should definitely pick and topic and jump in Deb! It's challenging but - look what happens - YOU said it's my best write..lol..

      HUBSxx

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Ahhhhh, Leslie....perspectives.......everything is relative. Not a single doubt about it. This story is positively EYE-opening....anxiety-killing and gratitude-brimming.............all of it.

      I love this story. My entire life has been one encounter such as this, after another.

      It has taught me tolerance, patience and not the least of all, it has armed me with my sense of humor and command of sarcasm......

      Had I not built a good reserve of these virtues, I would be sitting behind bars....for having knocked these f***ing whiners on their cushy asses....

      Get OVER yourself, Zee! UP++++ and shared..

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      ahorseback 4 years ago

      You are just a plain awesome woman aren't you now Leslie ? Never to do anything half way , or being careful to make the wrong step while dancing her beautiful life up and away , Man where were you when I was ..............Oh hell I was never young !........But you were always awesome !.......Ed

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Fpherj48: Sigh..You and I would be like 2 peas in a pod if we ever met face to face..Sarcasm - i mention in a poem that sarcasm my defense mechanism - and humor my sword - and hopefully the 2 meld together to create something worthwhile! I believe the purpose of life is for one thing - to improve ourselves! Well 2 things - to improve ourselves and NOT hurt anything..

      sadly, i can safely say that Zee won't be learning anything in this lifetime...maybe the next...here's hoping..

      Otherwise - what's it all about, eh? (now how philly-so-fical is that?)

      HUBS, my friend!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Ahorseback: Can i say i miss you? I know you've arrived and all, but - i was concerned that you thought i hadn't responded to a direct question...which i thought I did - but apparently - it...disappeared - the way of socks in dryers..

      blahblah...lol..

      anyway...happy to see you. Cowboy..

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      Sondra 4 years ago from Neverland

      ImKarn, wow is all I can say. Perspectives huh? I have a perspective for Zee - as in Zee Brat! But in her small mind her circumstances really were the end of the world (to her). Too bad some people really live and think like Zee and they dont bother to see the true suffering of those around them.

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Ardie: HI, Ardie! Sooo nice to see your beautiful face floating around my neck of the hub-woods! Zee brat is right..lol! I find it offensive when folks don't/won't learn - all it takes is a single glance past the end of one's own nose to see what REAL suffering is!

      Sigh..sadly...noses are becoming longer and longer...and longer...

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      Joseph De Cross 4 years ago

      I think you are the incarnation of Zee-brat and Ell! Tow stories that meet like lovers do. But these are chicks, so I don't think they have a thing going between them.... not giving you ideas in here. You know how staff is. Either you slow from triple x sultry to double xx, or you will become famous with those hot hubs. You make up your mind. Glad to see you back. I don't think "Homer Simpson" would make it in here. He is too chubby!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @LordDeCross: Ya know what popeye used to say, Lord J - 'I yam what i yam' - and, i certainly can't improve on that perfection!

      Glad you enjoyed the 'homer woman' - omg...haha

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      Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain

      Fabulous account of the real truth of life. I really don´t know how I would react to someone so selfish. She didn´t even mention the loss of her parents.!!!

      You brought home , so well, the point of appreciating what we have.

      Voted up and across the board.

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @DimFlaxenwick: I understand how you feel, Dim - she was NOT easy to be around - and never improved or evolved...

      She actually frightened me in her singular focus - herself - and it really brought home the fact that there are people like her everywhere...

      Thanks for stopping by and for your positive comments..

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Leslie!! Tough lesson for Zee, the amusing part is that she doesn't seem to be learning it!! Pretty much speaks for humanity. So many people are blinded by what they DON'T have that they do not see what they DO have. When we're thankful for what we have, then we can have more...and if only these folk see it that way! Moving, and I share.

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Amazing! Your point of view and 'perspectives' are right on. How different - different people perceive their live and wonts. Of course you've described it all so colorfully! We can only hope there is a karma or "what goes around comes around"....reward for those who truly deserve it!

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Midget38: Sadly, Michelle - you're only too right! Zee never learned anything. Apparently - there are always those who can be easily manipulated who feed right into such a person as this - and they seem to find a way to get...MORE...out of them..

      it's quite interesting to observe - from a psychological standpoint - and quite nauseating - from a human standpoint..

      Most appreciate the share, my friend - thank you..

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Tillsontitan: How can i not adore you? You agree with me! LOL...i am a believer in Karma as well - the good, the bad and the ugly, but - when i don't see it coming around where perhaps it ought - i try not to sweat it either!

      It's all about the quality of OUR life as well and - i've learned and SEEN from experience that anger is a life-crusher...

      i choose to be grateful - consciously...

      And i am grateful that you find my perspective 'right on'!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You haven't written since this???? did I miss something? What are you doing, lady? Feed me!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Billybuc: OOOOOOOooooooo - too close for comfort, Bill! AS you were leaving this comment - i was preparing an entree for you!

      You absolutely sure you ain't my brotha from anotha motha? (and..anotha fatha'?)

      LOL

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Hi Leslie,I agree 100% with billybuc's comment and I am so glad to have you as a friend. I love your forthright manner and enjoy your talent.

      Have awonderful day and here's to so many more hubs for us both to share on here.

      Eddy.

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      Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      You held my attention throughout with your great writing style. What a lesson--and beautifully told!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @VictoriaLynn: You'll forgive me, but - i feel just a touch of pride when you stop by and leave such generous compliments!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Eiddwen: It's hard to not agree with most if not all of Bill's comments and observations, eh? lol..

      I'm also very grateful to be able to call you 'friend', Eddy!

      Namaste, dear!

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      freedomspirit 4 years ago

      Oh God Leslie, you are the best! Lmfao

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Freedomspirit: (spread the good word...before whatever you're smoking wears off...) LOL..

      In other words - thank you!

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      freedomspirit 4 years ago

      Lol, okay....Just being honest, you are very funny/entertaining , wish I was smoking something like that lol. you're welcome. keep churning out those funny hubs- i love them- they're like butter melting the depressed heart. j/k lol. ok.

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Freedomspirit: Lol...ok, ok...who am i to argue with someone with obvious high intelligence AND great taste! LOL..

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      SilverGenes 4 years ago

      Wow! Your perspective on perspective is nothing short of brilliant! And you did it with such style! Not a bit crass or over-the-top! LOVE this!!!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @SilverGenes: Lol..over the top? Crass? Moi???

      Maybe we should call my 'style' crass class'....

      (lol again..)

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      manofmystery24 4 years ago

      If you want more out of life, gratitude is the key. Voted up and shared!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @Manofmystery24: Well, well, mystery man - very well said!

      Please - come again!

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      Sheri Dusseault 4 years ago from Chemainus. BC, Canada

      So good! We are so spoiled in our society....stuff..stuff...stuff! What hole are we trying to fill with all that stuff? I have recently given away a whole pile of stuff and do not miss it. You are an amazing writer!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      @SheriFaye: THANK YOU! That is such an amazing compliment!

      Also - so well said - 'what hole ARE we trying to fill with all that stuff" - PERFECT!

      The coffee's always hot, my new friend - and so is the conversation!

      Please -come again!

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