I like Seeker7's answer. I'm not a fan of such a defeatist and passive way of thinking. If there's someone I'd otherwise have wanted to "beat" that implies they're someone who has very different thinking/aims than I do. I'm not one to "join anybody or anything" that isn't in keeping with my own aims, values, beliefs, principles, etc.
I may not necessarily try to get them to do things my way (in fact, most of the time I've fine respecting whatever it is someone else prefers). I won't join them, though. I'd rather stand alone on something. Worst case, I remain alone. Better case, some people start joining me. Best case, the people I couldn't "beat" eventually realize they couldn't beat me - and join me and those with me. Either way, I win. :)