Is it wrong to have a dream about another person, when you're with someone?

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  1. Mind Unsettled profile image60
    Mind Unsettledposted 11 years ago

    Is it wrong to have a dream about another person, when you're with someone?

    I mean, we can't control what we dream about while asleep, right?

  2. Dardia profile image61
    Dardiaposted 11 years ago

    How can it be wrong? Unless you are practicing "Lucid Dreaming," you are not in control of what you dream. If you intentionally set yourself up to dream about the other person then, yes, you would be cheating. If it is just a random dream as most of us experience, it is believed that every person in your dream is actually a part of you.

    I had a dream about a  neighbor once and was concerned about it, but then I realized I had no intentions of being with this man out of dream state. I pondered what it was about him in this dream that I could be attracted to. It turned out to be all about my nurturing side. He was me in my dream, comforting the less confident side of myself.

  3. Cookinmom11 profile image60
    Cookinmom11posted 11 years ago

    No, it can't be wrong. For something to be right or wrong, it has to involve a conscious choice. You have no choice what to dream about, so the content of your dreams can't be wrong.

    Sometimes, though, our dreams are influenced by what we've been thinking about when we're awake. So, if you're spending a lot of waking time thinking about someone else, that would not be the wisest choice.

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    lostwithinmyselfposted 11 years ago

    I would't say it's wrong. As you said, we can not control what or who we dream about. x

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    will345davisposted 11 years ago

    I don't believe that it's wrong. You can't exactly control your dreams. Depending on the type of dream, though, it could probably be an indication of something in your life. You dream about the things that you dwell on most when you're awake. If you think about a person enough that they manifest themselves when you're asleep, it's probably a sign that the person that you're with isn't the right one.

  6. WindMaestro profile image58
    WindMaestroposted 11 years ago

    It is not wrong, and you are right in when you say we can't control what we dream. It is only wrong if you act upon things like that. You are entitled to thoughts, and you are titled to opinions. The only time these things can be labeled right or wrong, is if they leave your brain. smile

  7. Mind Unsettled profile image60
    Mind Unsettledposted 11 years ago

    Thanks for the responses thus far...

    I didn't intentionally set myself up to dream about this person or anything, it just happened, but the dream was really vivid; I remember most of it clearly.  I found this odd because I normally wake up with only blurred fragments of the dream still in my mind.

  8. JEDIJESSICUH profile image80
    JEDIJESSICUHposted 11 years ago

    This is a good question because I tend to dream about men from my past every now and again. There's no reason for it and most of the time it's the same couple guys who I don't talk to anymore. But I'm always left spending the rest of the day thinking about them, wondering why they had to pop up in my dreams that night.

    I don't think it's wrong because you're right, we can't control what we dream about. But it does make me feel guilty sometimes because it makes me think, "I have a husband. Why don't I ever dream about him?" I don't often know how to feel about it and I just hope that it stops happening.

  9. POWERS1205 profile image77
    POWERS1205posted 11 years ago

    I don't believe that dreaming is controllable, but what you do with it is. If you truly love your spouse, then the dream is simply a culmination of certain images. Unless you find your thoughts are now constantly about this dream. then you may want to reflect a bit on where you are and what you want. The dream in and of itself isn't a problem, it's all about how it's handled by the dreamer!
    Sweet dreams!

  10. Sunny2o0o profile image62
    Sunny2o0oposted 11 years ago

    It's a dream.  Get over it.  Nothing happened,

  11. ArockDaNinja profile image70
    ArockDaNinjaposted 11 years ago

    It might make you feel guilty, but it's ok. You can't even help what you dream about. My suggestion though is to NOT tell either of the people you had the dream, just put it out of you mind and move on. Interesting question by the way.

  12. MarieAlice profile image74
    MarieAliceposted 11 years ago


  13. R.S. Hutchinson profile image74
    R.S. Hutchinsonposted 11 years ago

    no .. dreams are our way of defending ourselves. dreams put us in "real life" situations so that IF that scenerio actually does play out in real life you will be prepared to react with less fear because you have already "lived" through it in your dream.

    Having dreams about someone doesn't mean anything more than having dreams about a bottle of ketchup.

  14. Andrew McKenzie profile image61
    Andrew McKenzieposted 11 years ago

    Nope. At least not from my perspective. Like others have said, dreams are beyond control (sometimes). I think how you might react to the dream when you are awake might be "wrong" if the dream somehow sparks an interest that you pursue.

  15. stanwshura profile image72
    stanwshuraposted 11 years ago

    What?  Absolutely not.  We do not have physical, and thus any willful, control over our thoughts or emotions.  This is why it is likewise a fallacy to classify "covetting" as a sin - as to covet is to want. 

    Our ACTIONS - our deeds and behaviors, alas our actual CHOICES, decide and demonstrate who we are.

    Something is "wrong" aka "immoral" only when we choose, or ignore or dismiss alternatives or solutions, to doing something "immoral. 

    We are not accountable for what we cannot control. 

    Thus, we are not accountable for our dreams, and as such cannot be judged as having "wronged".

  16. ArtAsLife profile image61
    ArtAsLifeposted 11 years ago

    I personally believe it isnt wrong, But it is wrong to act upon the dream. Just cuz a dream says a person is how she/he is, Or what life will be like with them, That doesnt mean it is completely true

  17. edhan profile image38
    edhanposted 11 years ago


    There is nothing wrong with us dreaming of someone as long as it belongs to the dream. We can dream or having fantasy of someone as long as we do not commit the wrong thing.

    I believe that even in marriages, it is okay to look at other girls and admiring them. God creates women for men to look and admire at. So, it is not wrong to admire or even having fantasy about them. But it must remain as that only.

    It helps to keep marriages strong as long as you do not go beyond that limit. So when we dream of someone, as long as we are happy in dreams, then it should be okay to remain as that.

    Remember that dreams or fantasy should remain as it is and nothing beyond that.

  18. SoleiMarie profile image57
    SoleiMarieposted 11 years ago

    I think no. For me dreams are just pigments of our wild imaginations and it goes out when we are sleeping because we our unconscious.

  19. Rastamermaid profile image64
    Rastamermaidposted 11 years ago

    It's only wrong if you tell,somethings you keep to yourself!

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    ExoticHippieQueenposted 11 years ago

    How can it be wrong to have a dream about another person when it's only a dream like you say?  We have no control over our dreams. Dream away!

  21. whiplashinfo profile image61
    whiplashinfoposted 11 years ago

    For me its no. Dream is the product of our subconscious mind, and we can't do nothing about it. What is important is the reality.

  22. mottiandbander profile image62
    mottiandbanderposted 11 years ago

    No nothing is wrong if you seeing another person in your dream.This is something you have in your mind and when you sleep you just remind that in your dream.

    Yes we can not control this thing .And if you are control your real life for what you are fearing about then there is no problem.

  23. Horse Feathers profile image60
    Horse Feathersposted 11 years ago

    Like the person you dreamed about would say and I say too, "Dream On".


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