Name the ONE WORST THING parents often do to diminish, even destroy a child's se

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  1. gmwilliams profile image82
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    Name the ONE WORST THING parents often do to diminish, even destroy a child's self worth and his/her

    chances of ever fulfilling his/her potential?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    A parent who is a "Dream Killer" can wreck havoc during a child's formative years. It's a destroyer of confidence and self-esteem when the people who brought you into the world tell you that you can't become what you want to become.

    1. Dr Billy Kidd profile image91
      Dr Billy Kiddposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, I've seen that. One person I met was told he was an unwanted child and was treated that way. He turned out to be totally antisocial and liked to fight. Another was told he'd never be whatever it was he suggested he wanted to be. That went ugly.

  3. Aniket Lawand profile image70
    Aniket Lawandposted 4 years ago

    Parents impose their failures on their children They do not let the child be self. They see the child from the eyes of their personal experiences in life.

    1. gmwilliams profile image82
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, SO MANY parents DO this on a habitual basis.

  4. Sri T profile image76
    Sri Tposted 4 years ago

    Beat them when they are too small to defend themselves. Then use constant threats and intimidation over petty things. Never give compliments or praise, only criticism, anger and hatred. Never apologize even when they are wrong. It all comes because of the parents low self worth.

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    Nicole Nichols-Smposted 4 years ago

    I am kind of embarrassed to share this but my family destroyed my self-esteem and I have learned the hard way not to share things with them as they (my mother) squashes my dreams and even minimizes my achievements. I am 47 years old and this has affected me in my professional and personal life. I have raised three children on my own and finished three college degrees too. I am the only one in my family with a high school diploma and a college degree. The way I had been treated has caused me to doubt my own abilities and has lead me to low wage jobs below my skill level.

    1. gmwilliams profile image82
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      There are soul destroying parents who purposely destroy, ruin, or diminish their children's dreams, goals, and self-worth.  Many of such parents have a subconscious/underlying envy of their children.

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    Nature Lover77posted 4 years ago

    I agree with Aniket who said parents who impose their failure on their children. 

    My parents were loners and didn't really have friends of their own.  The genesis of this was that their parents (my grandparents) considered them their favorites in each of their families.  My father and grandmother (his mother) were really mean to his sister because he was the prince in his family. We would go to my aunt's house, and my father and grandmother would expect her to wait on them.  It was ugly.  The situation was similar in my mother's family, with my mother being the princess of that family.

    Consequently, people outside the extended family didn't enjoy being around my parents, and my parents didn't have friends of their own.   Most of the extended family didn't like them either, but my father was the only person to go to college in either family and made more money, and it always seemed like they were intimidated and that's probably why they never spoke up. 

    My oldest sister got the brunt of my parents' abuse, especially from my mother.  When she started kindergarten, my mother began to actively encourage her schoolmates to make fun of her. And this lasted years.  My sister basically believed something was wrong with her and that she was somehow unlikable.  My mother did the same thing to me but later, starting when I was about 9, so it did not affect me as much because I could see what was going on.  My mother's behavior was motivated by her jealousy because she never had any friends of her own.

    My older sister has been estranged from everyone for a couple of decades.  There isn't closeness among the other siblings that are technically still talking to each other.  While we were all growing up in that abusive environment, we were constantly throwing one another under the bus because none of us wanted to be the focus of either of our parents' rage.  As a result, my other siblings and I don't have much of a family bond, and we just see each other once or twice per year, and it's fairly perfunctory.

    For some reason, it wasn't until after my father died that it occurred to me that all these peripheral adults who were aware of what was going on when we were children did absolutely nothing.  We went to a religious school, where they just reinforced lessons like, obey your parents, etc.  there was one time that our family doctor told my mother off, one of the few times I saw someone actually challenge my mother.  I'm thankful he did otherwise I would have thought I was crazy.


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