QUESTIONS OF LIFE
Why do people say good things about bad people when they died?
Simply because a person can't be all bad.
there has to be some good even if it's tiny.
There's what people say in private, and then there's what they say when others may hear/read what they said. So there's that (not too many people outside the closest circle ever hear any bad stuff that's said).
Other than that, I think people are most often decent and caring and don't want to say something disrespectful about the deceased person because of that person's family members/friends. When someone is "bad" (or even just a jerk to some people) that person not have not have been bad or a jerk to the people who think nice things should be said.
So I think most people tend to err on the side of being respectful to anyone who thinks the deceased person deserves some respect/dignity in death. It isn't going to kill anyone to either say nothing or come up with something respectful, at least in some circumstances and for a certain amount of time. There's a different time and place for bad-mouthing the person or saying negative stuff. Indulging in some need or wish to "also highlight the bad stuff" about someone who dies serves no purpose most of the time. In some instances maybe it does, but I don't think that's true in most instances.
I think most of the time people either stay away/stay silent completely or else say something positive (or positive-ish) because it's the decent thing to do while family/friends mourn. Besides, much of the time most of the bad stuff that really isn't a secret has already been talked about (so a) why re-hash it, and b) doing that serves little purpose).
Not everyone is bad people and not everyone is good people. Situation make them good and bad.
Everyone born as good child but our environment change us to bad. Even though they are bad to you definitely they will be good to one or two persons. Nothing we are going to take after death everything gone so why we have to mention their bad things if so there won't be any use of it. In the end just mention their good things and let the soul be happy. No one is perfect in this world so no need to blame others let it be and think only good is enough.
Because many people go with the flow of literally lying in order to be nice. I say that more often than most people are comfortable with, people need to stop this practice. It is not healthy or nice to lie and there is no such thing as "white" lies. A lie is a lie. For instance, even at a funeral. The deceased may have been a truly horrible person, why lie about that? What good comes from lying? How is lying "paying respect" and why should people give a bad person respect? And yes, there are some people who are truly 100% bad, some people are good, but many are in between in varying situations in their lives.
Well, because, if they are dead they can't do harm anymore, so, why keep hammering them for all the bad thing they did, it isn't like they did anything bad to you in person. And not speaking ill of them, doesn't mean we have forgotten about the bad thing they did or now think what they did isn't wrong.
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