These days Tristane Banon is in spotlight because of what she says was a rape attempt by Dominique Strauss-Kahn, former managing director of the International Monetary Fund. She is telling the world about the traumas she has gone through.
Maina Sunuwar was one of the many women who was raped and killed during the decade long armed conflict in Nepal. She was just 15 years when she was killed.
The media is attacking the victim and cowtowing to this IMF leader.
Of course he is innocent until proven guilty but it seems the media has already determined his innocence.
Disgusting!
A few common ideas:
- Men feel that the woman will get 'swept away' and start enjoying what he is doing (raping her). This is because in the media (such as movies) the woman starts out by saying no and then eventually saying yes.
- Much like the previous point - when women say 'no', many men do not really think she means no. These men just think that she is saying no because she does not want to appear to ready and willing. This is most often not the case, though. Most of the time, the woman really means no. Sadly enough, a woman has to say no an average of three times before the man actually starts considering that she might mean no (I read this in an article - I will find it - remind me).
- There is this predominant myth that guys who rape are these geeky creeps that wander dark alley-ways at night. Research has strongly suggested, though, that many non-partner rapists are actually really 'hot' and feel like they are 'god's gift to women'. These men don't think that any woman in the right mind would actually want to say no, or say no and mean it. So, they think that the women want to have sex with them, even though the women are saying no.
- Many researchers of rape have suggested that there might be two distinct drives for sex: sexual desire, and dominance. They have suggested that rapists are not interested mainly in fufulling a sexual desire, but more interested in dominating another. Consequently, rape could often occur because a man wants to show dominance over a woman.
In 2007, there were 248,300 victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.1 (These figures do not include victims 12 years old or younger.)
Every 2 minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted.
Here's the math. According to the U.S. Department of Justice's National Crime Victimization Survey -- the country's largest and most reliable crime study -- there were 248,300 sexual assaults in 2007 (the most recent data available).
There are 525,600 minutes in a non-leap year. That makes 31,536,000 seconds/year. So, 31,536,000 divided by 248,300 comes out to 1 sexual assault every 127 seconds, or about 1 every 2 minutes.
That is so sad. Here in the U.S. we have so many pedophiles that it is disgusting! They look for children on-line and try to friend them in public places. I wrote a new hub about it. I don't know what country you are in, but laws need to change. Maybe you can become an advocate based on Tristane's loss of life and bring her to the publics attention that this has to stop! My heart goes out to that young girl and to you for being a strong woman and publicly letting us know that this problem is all over the world.
I don't think there's a particular reason. One reason may be people's ignorance. Teasing has increased in a very quick way and now people don't even bothers much about the teasers. Maybe this gives them an extra confidence. People in high position takes the advantage of their position. Or maybe the way of dressing triggers the intention to commit such a crime. And sometimes people have strong desires of some particular things. So maybe when they get the chance they don't believe to let it go. I don't think I can explain a man's thinking properly. There maybe some other reasons as well. Let's see what other people says here.
AEvans, I live in Nepal and this is the photo of Maina Sunuwar, the 15 years old girl who was raped and killed. The perpetrators of this heinous crime have not been brought to the book despite the war between the Maoist and the Nepal Army has virtually ceased to exist. I wanted to do a hub in this topic, but then I thought Forum is a better place to discuss.
why do men rape..is a deep and profound issue..
http://www.newsweek.com/2009/06/19/why- … round.html
Men who rape do so for the same reason that men who commit violence do: They are convinced that their needs are more important than the life and well being of another human being.
It is as simple as that, but that doesn't make the solution simple. The question is why do those that perpetrate these crimes feel the way they do?
There are as many answers as there are people.
Until society takes this issue for what it is: violent assualt and punish it accordingly (ie: no drunk defense, no 'she asked for it' defense, no 'she dressed provocatively defense', no 'she's just a woman/child' defense) it will continue.
No one even tries to make the argument that a bank robber was incited to rob because the bank looked like it wanted to give him the money.
No lawyer would defend a purse snatcher because the purse looked tempting.
If I get punched in the face, no one asks what clothes I was wearing.
A persons body is their own. No one is entitled to it unless that person has offered AND CONTINUES TO OFFER.
No means no.
Now, society. Back this up. Charge them. Punish them. There is no mitigation for sexual assualt. No one rapes in self defense. And no one can make a convincing case that it was unclear. If she's saying no, no matter what she says up until then, you stop.
Your strength is for controlling yourself, not controlling others.
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