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How Do I know If She Is Right For Me?

Updated on April 30, 2013

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I need your help Lord...!

The most asked question from a man with certain characteristics; an individual that is in search for answers to come up to terms with his manhood. At first, this question seems so simple to answer. Complexity of social interactivity and personal backgrounds can put any one to think. Here we are going to put our own experience and mind into the matter.


Honestly, we can come up with a clearer view of the problem. We can unscramble certain predetermined social trends and psychological views, and clear up certain attitudes. We know for sure that it can be hard for anyone to come out with a positive self introspection.

We can start fresh with some reasons for this straightforward question. Why do you want to know more about the other sex's unreachable reactions? Probably bad luck and embarrassing situations can put a load into our insecure mind. Let's break things down and then you will see where you stand at, personally and socially as well:

  • Insecurity
  • Certain immatureness
  • Status



Depending on your background, you feel where you stand against that 'world' that starts to 'breath' on its own, just a few inches from your physical body. You have come to the conclusion that you wanted this 'girl' so bad... However, you felt as though she was too much for you to handle. The reason why you are reading us is because your fears are somewhat being confirmed.

Insecurity is a state of mind, meaning that if you think the world hates you, then you will believe it to the end of the day. A mature mind comes with the years and experience. There is security in a job, security in a deal, but allocating security in handling your own feelings, that is another story. Successful men follow a natural pattern, that fem-mes notice right away by choice and by selectivity.

That sex appeal is learned through the years. And believe us, we all start somewhere in the art of love and feel loved. It takes time to learn how to drive a car. Why would it be easier to find that love of your life? Nature made it a little harder, so selectivity and survival of the fittest could become self centered and very particular... before taking eventually its normal venue.



Women want to have a man by her side, not a young brother playing to be a boyfriend. Just imagine our Babe... Babe... Babe..! Justin Bieber trying to date Carmen Electra? Is there a chance to make this relationship work?

Unfortunately women grow faster than us guys. So if you are, lets say16, and want to date a girl your age, beware and be careful; either she is using you or she felt sorry for you. Most girls at 16 are around 3 years ahead of our hypothetical 16 years old boy. Probably you have an older brother and this girl wants to just use you.

They actually dress to look older and don't want to look so naive. They even have their own minds set around 13-14 years old. Prince charm is gotta be older enticing and unique. Your best bet is to learn from the older guys... and little by little take the 'post.' How about the older dude? Well, he just let the years pass him by. The solution to a very personal problem has been put off, by him and by society.

Ever wonder why your older sister was already thinking ahead of you? Just trust your guts and your heart to see through that gal's eyes. Some will be honest and will be straight. After knowing the hard true, you will have to move on and take it easy for a little while.



There is no way Prince William could've ever met Kate Midleton if it wasn't for her studying at the same alma matter as the future King did.

No movie star would ever think of marrying an unknown guy. Even Knights in shining armors, looked into the best bet around their Kingdom. You need to be realistic and measure up your capabilities... and limitations. Daydream like us: We wanted to meet

Charlize Theron, but we know she would be too much for us. So we are being honest with you, if you want to try, you are free to do it, but don't come back to us in pain.

How do I know, then?

We are going to answer you with our heart. So, 'honesty' will flow from us toward you and your 'hope':

  • She smiles and connects with you
  • She bites her lips unconsciously, even if you don't look...
  • She wants to join you in silly deeds and trips to the end of the world
  • She can trust you with her life. Well, can you trust our advice?
  • She calls you with any excuse in mind, even if is just to say hi
  • She tells her best girlfriend about you, and her hidden 'sealed self commitment to you.'
  • She is willing to break some rules and make subtle advancements

Last words...

Know yourself better. Study the girl of your likeness, and see the signs. You are free to move on if you feel like you are already wasting your time. Easy to say it right? But you need to move heaven and earth in order to accomplish some goals that were left behind.


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    Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

    Morning LaThing,

    We don't even know sometimes...hwo did we cone up with ideas that flow into our normal thought processing. We read back and we read again: What in the world were we thinking? Is really a mistery. Some just call it inspiration, others the word from within adding a heart. Why Charlize? Well Martie Coetser knows better. She is a strong woman by all means. She can be pretty, but she has a brain. Thanks again LA!


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    LaThing 5 years ago from From a World Within, USA

    Hmmm.....Charlize Theron! WHY? :)

    Evidently you should have gone into human psychology rather then math.....always giving Great advice. Enjoyed this hub, and your down to earth approach. Interesting and sharing it....

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    Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

    Morning CJ Sledgehammer. We can agree on luck and simmilarities, which boils down to good intimacy? This is a very complex issue that can not satisfy anyone. Otherwise we would've been running for the Presidency. Excellent comment CJ. Seems that you have been around for a while. And if you liked our hub, we can tell you that we liked your wise response. Have a wonderful weekend, and yeah ! We are being good!-- So far!


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    CJ Sledgehammer 5 years ago

    I don't know, Lord de Cross, I think luck plays a big part when playing the game of hearts.

    I have known people who were high school sweethearts, dated throughout college, married, and had 3 beautiful children together, only to end up hating each other and thus embarked upon a long and bitter divorce.

    Then again, I personally know a couple who only knew each other for 48 hours before getting married, and have been happily married for over 40 years.

    Luck, therefore, plays its part, in as much as good sense.

    They say that "Opposites attract". I say, however, that this is an incomplete sentence. The complete sentence should read, "Opposites attract divorce attorneys."

    In the end, it is the similarities that a couple shares in common, that keeps them together.

    For the record, I completely disagree with Tammyswallow who said that women love the man, while a man loves how the woman makes him feel.

    In my vast experience, women tend to fall in love with the act of being in love and obsess over their feelings, treatment, and other peripheral considerations within each relationship.

    Men, on the other hand, tend to take a more practical approach to courtship - by focussing on the girl, herself. This is where the old addage comes into play, "Women marry men hoping they will change, while men marry women hoping they won't." In the end, they both are disappointed more often than not.

    Men marry women for what she appears to be, while women often marry men based on the potential of what he could become. In this day and age, if her gamble doesn't pay off...she ends the marriage and places her chips and bet on another guy. This is why American wives file for 80% of all divorces, in the United States.

    Good stuff, Lord de Cross, I enjoyed myself a little too much, I'm afraid. :0)

    Best wishes, behave, and be well - C.J. Sledgehammer

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    Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

    Thanks Christy! You are such a fine friend! always smiling away with your own adsense.

    Hi Marcy, A pleasure and have learnt from you too!

    Always exploring, you are certainly right! We need to take our time.

    Xstatic, early on, our response got deleted, and came back to answer again. Commitment the will of two souls can make a difference. Thanks!

    We understand your point Cardisa, fate and our desire to make it happen can turn the tide to our favor... if we find the one we want to join us in a journey of two souls


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    Carolee Samuda 5 years ago from Jamaica

    Will you agree that meeting someone in the right place at the right time has a lot to do with it? Take for instance a famous girl happens to be in town at a bar. A basic nobody guy happens to be there. He doesn't know that this girl is famous and they hit it off, fall in love get married. Now didn't you say there is no way a movie star would marry a nobody? I believe that everything happens in its own time for a reason and when your time comes you should take advantage of the opportunity. But as you also said, measure up your capabilities.

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    Jim Higgins 5 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

    Very interesting Hub! It takes time to "know" about the right partner in life. Infatuation happens quickly, sometimes for all the wrong reasons. Love comes with commitment and with a little time to let it grow. UP!

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    Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

    Interesting topic, In other words, take your time, why the rush? Total honesty comes with growth. Well done. Enjoyed..

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    Marcy Goodfleisch 5 years ago from Planet Earth

    Another great hub, Lord - so well written and accurately done! I wish I could say the maturity gap closes soon after people get into their 20s, but often, there are still contrasts for several years. Then, later on, you can get the reverse problem. Women can be more dynamic and active than men their age - which is why some women click with men a few years younger than they are.

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    Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

    Insecurities can certainly affect relationships. You are exploring relationships very well Lord! Lord of Love perhaps...? :)

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    Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

    Hi Tammy,

    This hub was written from our own heart's wisdom. Every single word was casted onto the paper (HP)and we hope to give our male friends a sound advice. Women need a winner and a strong hand to walk next to them. Men cannot jump overboard, when a woman has already set her mind and life into a pending relationship

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    Tammy 5 years ago from North Carolina

    I am going to start calling you the Love Guru. Great points. I have always learned that a woman falls in love with a man and the man falls in love with a way a woman makes him feel. You make some great points about insecurity and etc.. No one can love another if they don't love themselves first. Well done.

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    Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

    Ehsan121, So sorry to hear that. Just take your time, and life is too short to settle for less. You still look young and wait, as we said for the waters to settle. We all have gone through the same experiences one way or another. Have a good one!


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    ehsan121 5 years ago from Karachi

    Interesting hub:D This hub proved that mine one is not right for me.

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    Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

    Vnsatakopan, Nice to see you commenting. The process in everyone of us is complex enough and I agree with you and Anamika. We give a wider scope at the end of our hub, and hopefully will get to those guys that are looking for a lending hand. Undoubtely, we all can come with different answers as we see in our comments. Thanks for adding your valuable added support VNsatakopan.


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    Dr.Vangeepuram Navaneetham Satakopan 5 years ago from Chennai, India

    Agree with Anamika. One can never really find out. It is all about instincts.

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    Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

    Well, you are right Anamika. But how about if the other party doesn't know or pretend not to know...? Thanks for commenting!

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    Anamika S 5 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    I think... When you find the right man/woman you would just know... and you would connect with your mind...