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Hurt Sometimes Make Us Stronger

Updated on October 27, 2010

Why would I say this? Think about it; you walk down the same street everyday; how many times are you going to trip over the same crack in the side walk? How many times can your friends play the same trick on you? Ever watch a baby that has focused on something, they get tripped up maybe once or twice, but, you can bet they watch, learn and remember and that third time is a charm. Think back to your school days when you had that one math equation you continually had on a quiz and you couldn’t get it right, finally you got it and you never got that equation wrong again.


Most of us humans are the same way. We are all intelligently made. Now, how we use our intelligence is totally up to the individual mind. You’re in a relationship that is abusive, hurtful and demeaning. You muster up the strength to get away from the hurt or get help and fix the problem. If you’re the one to get out and away from the hurt and pain, an intelligent person knows and wouldn’t forget that type of pain. They know the signs and they watch the every action of a prospective mate.


Those jealous possessive ways are not cute anymore. The rude comments are not funny jokes either. They can look behind the smile and look straight into their eyes and know something is not right. Those days of stumbling out of clubs and bars are no longer impressive. The fits of anger to as one would say, “Protect your honor,” is unwarranted.

Yes, the hurt you got away from has made you wiser and more in control of what you will and what you will not accept.


For the person that has gone and received help and was able to work their relationship back to a respectful place will not allow either side to return to the old ugliness. You know the signs and can identify the scary returnable actions. In an instance the hurt thoughts will simultaneously return and whatever methods it took to recover your relationship will again be reiterated not to fall back again.


For lots of us hurt is strength. Hurt helps us to remember and realize what won’t ever be tolerated again. Hurt helps us take a closer look at ourselves and ask yourself, what you will or will not accept ever again. Hurt makes you stand up straight, wipe your leaking eyes and proceed forward without looking back. There may be some regrets but those regrets turn into valuable lessons learned. If you never experience any hurt you have nothing to base your own strengths on. Everyone has trials to strengthen that inner you. So take your hurt, stand tall and don’t look back. Use it to grow and make a better person out of you. However, always remember you don’t have to take the same hurt twice. 



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    • MissGYD profile image


      7 years ago

      I am going through hurt right now, so running across your hub gave me something to think about. My relationship with a man has ended after nine years, he decided to cheat on me with another female (won't call her what she really is here,LOL).

      Sure, I am hurting really bad, especially since he was cheating on me for some time, unbeknownst to me. I just found out about it last month, because she came to my block and told me. I am so hurt right now and I just want the pain to go away! Any suggestions?

    • Captain Jimmy profile image

      Captain Jimmy 

      7 years ago from WV

      Good Hub! Keep seeking truth!

      Romans 8:33 Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God's elect? It is God that justifieth.

      Romans 8:34 Who is he that condemneth? It is Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us.

      Romans 8:35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?

      Romans 8:36 As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.

      Romans 8:37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.

      Romans 8:38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,

      Romans 8:39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.


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