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Single Motherhood and Dating Part 5: Who to Date? Single Dad or Single Guy
Part 5 in the Single Motherhood and Dating Series
This is a choice that has not been given much thought on and it all depends on who writes the article too you get advice and tips on this. The question is what kind of guy do you actually want to date? I do not mean the Good guy or Bad boy type I mean the Single Dad or the Single Guy. In being that I am a single mom I really did not think on this idea or gravitate to hunt me a fellow single dad, which made me wonder should I? What about the guy with no kids who may want kids in the future? This thinking then brought up the Pros and Con’s for Single Dad or Single guy. I have experience both and it’s quite enlightening.
The Single Dad
The Pro‘s- 1.He is a parent as well and is more likely to understand you and your rules. For an example a single dad would not at 10pm at night ask to come over to your house while your child is sleeping on a weekday which is school night.
2. If you accidentally talk about your kids too much on a date its more than likely he is too so you won’t feel like you’re boring your date. Sadly I’m a full time mom and play dough and Sponge Bob Squarepants are my life. I have not watched an R rated movie in like forever!
The Con‘s- You would think there is none but oh yes there is.
1: The mother of his children could be psycho
2. Your parental raising skills could clash
3. The kids could clash
I think pro’s out wins the con’s though.
The Single Guy With No Kids
The Pros- He may be interested in wanting kids and a family and wants to accept you and your child. That is if you tell him you’re a Mom so there may be that dilemma there. I make a rule first hand to mention this because then you can save yourself from a lot of losers if you do. Still some losers still slip through which leads us to the cons.
The Con’s- He may say he likes kids but may not really mean it. He also will be less understanding when you say that your kids come first and that you really cant be that selfish or spontaneous. I need like a week of advance for a date. To ask me on Thursday for a Friday or Saturday date will likely end in a no, and sadly no you can not come over to my house at 10pm (Knew what was on his mind mmmhmm). He also may and constantly forget you are a mom and keep trying to break you down to just dump your kid and be with them. For an example, I got asked to drive out of town to see this guy at 10pm at night um… I have a child REMEMBER. This continually may annoy and frustrate the guy to disappear into the distance never to be seen again. Even if I didnt have a child, no I would not be driving out of town to see you at 10pm at night.
So there you have it. Good Luck!