Ways to Strengthen Marriage

Updated on October 14, 2012

Marriage can be likened to buying a second hand car...

... the rust goes with it hehehe.

Here are some essential tips to strengthen you marriage. I hope this will help in a way.

Spend a lot of time to your spouse, as much as possible. Sometimes even without budget you can still find ways to show your love and compassion to her, you can go window shopping and look for potential things that can be useful to your home, you can also watch your favorite movies using DVDs, hear music from your stereo, surfing the internet together, or perhaps experiment in doing something worthwhile just use your vivid and fertile imagination hehehe.

Argue but do not fight, it is just normal to have small quarrels, for dispute will determine the mistakes of both sides, but don’t let your argument transform into quarrels. Control yourself not to raise your voice and make sure you argument will last the day.

Don’t challenge your wife to leave or you’re the one to leave your home when quarreling. Pride will surely sow hatred to both of you.

Stick to your husband in times of crisis; help each other to overcome the challenge of time and life.

Be supportive of your every husband’s decisions.

Find quality time to bond with your children. Visit a near amusement or children’s park, eat in a fast-food with your family or perhaps do some shopping spree purchasing the much coveted toy of your kid. You can also tell some bedtime stories to your children play with them with their toys or join them in their games. A simple “I love you”, “sleep well”, “goodnight”, “sleep tight”, “sweet dreams” and many more can be easily uttered with compassion, little things your kids will appreciate for the rest of their life.

Most quarrels of a couple are more on financial matters. Try to be thrifty and manage your finances wisely for this is a secret of a happy marriage with secured future:

Set measurable goals – Set clear goals accompanied by time frames, get rid of those things that are impossible to accomplish, be specific and concentrate on doable goals hehehe like saving for a child’s education.

Make clear-cut decisions on how to spend your money, financial choice may affect your life. Your expenditures with your children’s education may force you to extent your years of work.

Get track of your long-term goals by re-evaluating your financial plan regularly (revision might be essential if necessary).

Develop good habits of saving, budgeting and investing.

Financial planning is a lifetime process; changing situation overnight is not possible.

Comments

jumbocd 7 years ago from Sacramento Area, CA
You touched on it, but have regular date night. My wife and go on a date (yes, with each other) once a week. Sometimes it is a simple Mocha at Starbucks, sometimes it is dinner and a movie. Just get some alone time.
cd :O)
beth811 7 years ago from Pearl of the Orient Seas
Great advice & very true.
Thanks for sharing. You remind me again by this hub.
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Gener Geminiano 7 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines
@Helen Cater --- thanks for the nice comments and dropping by. Nyahaha you have to live by it hehehe... I know you can pull through at the end.
@Anamika S --- Thanks too for dropping by... and for the very nice comments.
@sheabkr --- sorry, that one displeases you, i'll try to improve that in the days ahead, these are suggestions anyways you may apply it or not its okay with. But overall thanks for the nice comment and for finding time to read my hub(s).
sbeakr 7 years ago
Though overall a very thoughtful hub, I think this should be reconsidered:
'Be supportive of your every husband’s decisions.'
How about be respectful of each other's ideas and make mutually proactive decisions TOGETHER? I am divorced, quite frankly, because of all the stupid, selfish decisions my ex-husband made...including the one to divorce me.
Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India
Those are some great tips. Thanks for sharing!
Helen Cater 7 years ago from UK
This is very sound advice, and yes most arguments are over finace and teenagers. Teenagers being the No1 cause for bad feeling in my house.