Is getting a massage with a happy ending considered cheating if you are in a com

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   dosborne08posted 12 years ago

   Is getting a massage with a happy ending considered cheating if you are in a committed relationship?
   
   This is something a couple I know is currently dealing with. When she met him, she knew he went to these places. When hey became serious it wasn't discussed until he recently found that he had been to one of these places recently.

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   eye sayposted 12 years ago

   yep, yes, you bet, you need to ask? if he needs it that bad to sneak around he knows it's wrong too.
   A wise quote "if you need to keep it secret you shouldn't be doing it" anonymous

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   daizhiningposted 12 years ago

   yes it is, but its already a given fact that man cant avoid hunting for other flavors. I know some woman who tend to over look this things unless the man has a favorite massager that's a different thing.

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Contraire, contraire, daizhining. SOME men cannot avoid hunting for other flavors, while others insist on a steady diet of their very favorite. :0)

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   Any physical relationship outside of the marriage is really a no-no.  Of course going to a place like you are talking about is cheating.  Why would he even do that to his wife?

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   Faceless39posted 12 years ago

   Of course it's cheating, unless both partners are in agreement with it.  That said, she knew what she was getting into.  Unless he had agreed to stay away from this stuff, she should move on.

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   InterestCapturedposted 12 years ago

   I would have to say it is cheating, though it is not unheard of for people to find sexual satisfaction with different partners and still have a healthy relationship with their significant other.

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   Elena Zunigaposted 12 years ago

   Well Its a yes and a no Tbh For one its Yes bc ur getting physical contact with a-aNother woman when u could get a massage from ur wife and Its a no bc If ur just getting a massage and nothing more i really wouldnt see the problem Like if i was in a commited relationship and my bf really wouldnt  gimme a massage hisself tbh I would get a massage But Next time if u get a massage go to a man so ur wife dont think anything unless shes crazy enough to thing ur gay k? LOL

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      My wife stopped giving me massages as soon as we were married. :0)

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   CJ Sledgehammerposted 11 years ago

   I cannot come up with a reason why it should not be considered "cheating". If nothing else, it is just plain immoral and tacky.

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   skytreeroadposted 10 years ago

   Tough question. It wasn't cheating before when he went, and suddenly it is an issue. I think a sane and rational discussion between the two of them would be the best way to find out if it is cheating or not, it sounds as though this man is very surprised to find out that his usual is now taboo. Yes, in a committed relationship it is cheating unless there is an agreement between the two of them that it is allowed.

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