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What is Considered Cheating?

  1. Phil Perez profile image81
    Phil Perezposted 2 years ago

    People have their own personal opinions of cheating. That's fine, but what I'd like to know are the classifications of cheating, specifically, factors to prove something is deemed cheating. How does cheating begin?

    1. chuckandus6 profile image74
      chuckandus6posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      i believe that flirting, in any way with someone else is cheating regardless of how society accepts it.i believe it.it is wrong.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      The underlying definition of cheating is "breaking the rules".

      In other words it's agreeing to conduct yourself a certain way and then through secrecy, deception, and lying you break your promise or vows.

      Dr. Phil says if you're saying or doing anything that you would not say or do (if your mate were sitting right next to you) then you're cheating!

      All cheating begins with having "secret friendships" and all relationships begin with some form of flirting or the use of sexual innuendo.
      The word "yes" is the green light whenever an opportunity presents itself.

      Everyone is entitled to have their own "deal breakers".
      Under the ideal scenario each person should know what their mate considers to be cheating. If they are in disagreement they should move on.

      The problem is a lot of folks (assume) they agree on what constitutes cheating. Rarely is this topic discussed beyond having sexual contact with someone outside of the relationship. And yet if someone showed them a photo of their mate having lunches with another person, in a bar having drinks and laughing with them, or arm in arm walking along the beach odds are they'd feel like their mate was "cheating" even though there is no evidence of kissing or sexual contact! The same holds true for emails, chat room activity and sexting photos with people they've never met in person.

      Clearly this proves that cheating goes beyond having sex with others!

      Some people don't like the idea of their mates having platonic relationships with people of the opposite sex or remaining friends with their exes. Instead of moving on they'll try to get their mate to see things their way! In other instances they'll "secretly" engage in those friendships.

      If it's a  "secret" it's cheating!

      1. Queen Christine profile image77
        Queen Christineposted 2 years agoin reply to this

        I totally agree with you.  If you feel something is wrong in your relationship, then there probably is something going on.  Keep investigating.  It is better to find out earlier on rather than later.

        1. dashingscorpio profile image88
          dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

          Assume you're right!

          Unless you are someone who is paranoid or insecure there is no reason not to trust your instincts. If something doesn't feel right to you it's probably not right for you. The regret most people have is ignoring "red flags" and not trusting their own instincts!

          At any rate once you no longer trust someone the relationship is over whether you can prove they're cheating or not!

          Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself!

  2. Aime F profile image84
    Aime Fposted 2 years ago

    I think the only proof required is the person saying they felt that they were cheated on. Ideally you discuss the grey areas (porn, flirting, going to the strip club, etc.) with your partner when you enter into the relationship so that there's no confusion.

    Cheating could begin for any number of reasons. Something like watching porn might start because the person watching porn doesn't feel that it counts as cheating even if their partner does. Something more 'serious' or committal like actually sleeping with someone else could be due to a multitude of factors, like being insecure, not being sure they want to be in their relationship, feeling neglected, etc.

  3. Phyllis Doyle profile image95
    Phyllis Doyleposted 2 years ago

    Any type of cheating begins with a thought. Temptation creeps in and the thought is "This is not what I should do, I know it is wrong, but I am going to do it anyway because I want to know the outcome." Maybe not those exact words, but similar. Cheating is satisfying a temptation to do wrong, sometimes to gain something that is really not yours.

    1. Kathryn L Hill profile image81
      Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Cheating is the effect of ego addiction. Pure and simple.

      1. Phyllis Doyle profile image95
        Phyllis Doyleposted 2 years agoin reply to this

        Yes - simple,but, not pure.

        1. Kathryn L Hill profile image81
          Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years agoin reply to this


  4. Kathryn L Hill profile image81
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    Cheating is when your partner is just not activating your ego
    Don't cheat.
    Get up and LEAVE!
    Unless you are using that person for survival. If that person is letting you use him or her for survival (and loves you despite your egotism)… be thankful and
    do not cheat.


  5. michelleonly3 profile image91
    michelleonly3posted 2 years ago

    Cheating is any act, emotion, or intention that you would not feel comfortable telling your spouse about. If you exchange emails and feel like you have to keep it from your spouse there is a reason, if you flirt and would not flirt in front of your spouse, there is a reason. Cheaters are usually passive aggressive, in other words chicken $hit. If you have to ask yourself if what you are doing is cheating, then you are cheating.

    1. Phil Perez profile image81
      Phil Perezposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      You made my night with that term, "chicken shit."