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What constitutes as cheating in a relationship?

  1. JEDIJESSICUH profile image77
    JEDIJESSICUHposted 6 years ago

    What constitutes as cheating in a relationship?

    Some people define it as having sex, others think kissing is cheating. Where do you draw the line in relationships? At what point would you consider your significant other a cheater?

  2. pandy2323 profile image66
    pandy2323posted 6 years ago

    Hello again:)

    Well, I consider kissing, or even holding hands and hugging (but only when not simply in a "friend" way) cheating. It's common to have several crushes other than a current boyfriend or girlfriend, but anything along the lines of acting upon the crush would be cheating, in my eyes.

    Hope this answers your question well!

  3. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    You are right in that it varies from person to person. Someone having sex via webcam or "sexting" (not ever meeting) the other person is considered cheating to a lot of people. Others also believe there is a such thing as "emotional cheating" (chat room affairs). Naturally having sex with other would not be considered cheating if one is an "open relationship" or a couple consider themselves to be "swingers". The mistake a lot of people make is assuming everyone has the same definition of "cheating" or "betrayal". It's always good to talk about this subject early on before one becomes to emotionally invested. The sooner you know whether or not you are on the "same page" the better!

    In my opinion "cheating" always (involves lying directly or by omission) in connection with something you know your mate would not approve of.
    This could range from flirting, using sexual innuendo, secret meetings, exchanging love notes all the way up to having sex. I also agree with Dr. Phil's answer to the question.
    "If you are saying or doing something  with someone that you would NOT do if your mate were sitting right next to you then you are probably cheating."

  4. Cardisa profile image93
    Cardisaposted 6 years ago

    I strongly believe that getting physically and or emotionally involved with someone else is cheating.

    You may not have had sex or even kissed but you have developed an emotional attachment and secret friendship that you hide from your spouse. It may be online, through letters or in person. I believe it's still cheating, because you let your spouse believe that they are the only one you are attached to in that manner.

    Sex is definitely also cheating, but what hurts more is the emotional attachment. A person can have sex without the attachment, but it's hard to go on knowing your spouse fell for someone else.

  5. santomilitello profile image61
    santomilitelloposted 6 years ago

    I agree with dashingscorpio definition but I would further define it as not only doing something you know your mate would not approve but also doing something that YOU would not approve of if your partner were doing it.

    If you feel uncomfortable in a situation you're in - flirting, chatting, dancing, etc. you should want to remove yourself from that situation for your partners' sake as well as your own sake.

    The real answer in simplest form is - couples need to define it, follow it or face the consequences of it.

    "Things you have to keep secret are things you shouldn't be doing." - Hank Hill from King of The Hill

  6. alahiker28 profile image89
    alahiker28posted 6 years ago

    An emotional attachment to another human being may not be cheating, but when the chips are down, it may set you up for cheating.  I think kissing and not just sex, is cheating.  It may be more forgivable when discovered, but no less painful.