If your best friend oversteps a boundary with you how would you confront them?

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   Born2care2001posted 12 years ago

   If your best friend oversteps a boundary with you how would you confront them?

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   gmaoliposted 12 years ago

   I've had this happen several times.  If they are a real friend to you, they will listen.  Friends are there to make each other feel good, but they are also there to look out for you even if it means they need to hear something from you they don't like.  Otherwise, by sitting back and letting them step over that boundary, you are just enabling to keep at it no matter who they hurt.  It's not fair to them or to you.  Real friendship means real honesty, so that's the way to go.

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   Jynzlyposted 12 years ago

   My best friend for almost two decades never oversteps any boundary, or if ever, maybe I didn't notice it. Some people would tell me that my best friend backbite me or said bad things against me, but I just said "She is my best friend, she is allowed to say anything even if it's against me." she will realize one day that she is wrong and I am ready to forgive, in fact I had already forgiven her even for those "over-stepping" or offense that she had not done yet; if ever she would do it. The answer then is FORGIVE, without confrontation.

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   karthikkashposted 12 years ago

   I have had some of my best friends overstepping boundaries sometimes. My initial reaction is definitely to lash back. However, thankfully that mood doesn't stay for a long time. So, I calmly request them not to do it again since I don't like certain things. I've thankfully got good friends who understand that and don't overstep again.

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   jpcmcposted 12 years ago

   I've always been straightforward.  Of course this does not mean I will disrespect my friend.  After he is my friend.  Being objective about the situation is important.  this way we can iron out whatever differences we have.

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   TENKAYposted 12 years ago

   I hate confrontations. What I'll do is stop seeing my friend for awhile, let time heal my pain, if I'm not hurting anymore I will tell her honestly about how I felt about the situation.

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   ikechiawazieposted 12 years ago

   I will be nice enough to let him know that he has crossed the boundary with me and i say nice because sometimes people do things without conciously taken note of how their action affect others, it is therefore neccessary to convey your mind to your friend so that he can take note of this.

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   momsterposted 12 years ago

   I wrote this hub about a question someone asked. Not sure if it will help ya but it might give you an idea how to deal with the situations.
   
   http://momster.hubpages.com/hub/Love-ha … -take-them

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   freemarketingnowposted 12 years ago

   I would just tell them in person. My closest friends are pretty receptive to feedback.

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