If you knew that your best friend's significant other was cheating on him (her),

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   pstraubie48posted 11 years ago

   If you knew that your best friend's significant other was cheating on him (her), would you tell?
   
   Do you think you should keep your mouth shut or would you give your friend a heads up? Do you think you should myob or is this a time to butt in?
   
   

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   MickSposted 11 years ago

   Why?  Why not mind your own business?............................

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   Sherry Hewinsposted 11 years ago

   With my best friend, I would. I feel sure that she would want to know. Not everyone would want to though. If it was someone I didn't feel like I knew very well, I would not tell.

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   kellyanne828posted 11 years ago

   If it was my best friend I would tell her! Even though it would be hard she would deserve to know. What if later on she found out I knew, but didn't tell her?!

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      Rayne123posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      well as part of my story, I did find out what my bf was doing and let me say this, I was happy it was "him" who ended up telling me the truth. I understood exactly what was going on afterwards. That was my experience anyway.

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   DaceyDposted 11 years ago

   Assuming said significant other is a contemptible person, a serial cheater, yes I would tell my friend.  I think my friend has the right to know and make an informed decision.  If the situation were reversed I'd want to know.  And should my friend later discovered the cheating, that I knew and didn't say anything, it would undermined if not completely destroy any trust we had.   
   However I know some of my friends would not want to know if their partner cheated on them, even if said partner was a serial cheater, I would respect my friends wishes.

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   Markie Wposted 11 years ago

   I would absolutely tell my best friend if they were being cheated on! If I didn't then I wouldn't consider myself a very good best friend. If my best friend didn't tell me that I was being cheated on even though they knew then they would no longer be on my friend list.

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   ShootersCenterposted 11 years ago

   I would probably confront the cheater and give them a chance to come clean first.

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      ExpectGreatThingsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      This is exactly what I would do.

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      intelpagesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Same, I would do the same.

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   Lilbittybettyposted 11 years ago

   I would tell in my own special way so that it won't backfire on me.

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   Livingtwentyfirstposted 11 years ago

   Thanks.This is a good one.I once told my best friend about a cheating boyfriend.result,they ganged up against me and insulted me so i said this i would never ever tell anyone anything..iam better off doing my things

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    Rayne123posted 11 years ago

    I also would confront the cheater first, depending on the circumstances. This I know by experience. it happened to me.
    
    Quite a few years back, talking like 20 a guy I was seeing was cheating on me.
    
    My best friend at the time, knew but did not say a word to me. Being friends with my bf at the time she confronted him first. She told him if he did not fess up in a week she would tell me. She said it was up to him to make things right.
    
    She did however tell him that hurting someone was wrong and if he didnt want the relationship he was to come clean.
    
    So you know what it worked as he told me everything. Now when my friend and I discussed the circumstances she explained to me that she did not want to make it worse. By that she meant. sometimes when we are young or even as older adults we tend to blame our friend for the mishap. She explained that one reason was for the mere fact that if she would have told me I would of not believed her and been upset with her. I would of found her to be jealous and just causing trouble.
    
    I believe she is right. Being much much older now, I realize when I look at young relationships that jealousy is a big part of them and girls and guys in that certain relationship do not want them talking to other girls/guys it seems to cause a problem in the relationship between the friends. Not that should cause any problems if trust is there, it just does at that age and I guess it will never change.
    
    So it works better if the cheater is confronted,from my point of view anyway.

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    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    Yes, I would tell my (best) friend. To me a best friend is equivalent to being a (sibling). On the other hand if this person were simply an acquaintance or someone I knew (casually), I would stay out of it.

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    peachpurpleposted 11 years ago

    Pardon me, but i really like your kitty photo! Now to the answer; NO, i will not butt in my best friend's affair. Even though I am being kind to tell the truth, she may not appreciate because she may feel embarrassed or lose face. It's better for her to find out on her own and i will give her a shoulder to cry on.

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    adorablebabyposted 11 years ago

    yes it's been known on what would you do tv show

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    j-hallposted 11 years ago

    Maybe...If it was one of my close friends then I might know whether she/he would want to be told. Sometimes people don't want to face an unpleasant truth.

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    Doannaposted 11 years ago

    yes........... because she my bff , i tell her ur bf cheating on u...

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    JessBrazposted 11 years ago

    I would. My best friend and I have been friends since kindergarden, so we know each other very well...So I know what she would want me to do, and vice versa... We would both want each other to confront the cheater and tell them to come clean...if they didn't within a certain timeline, we would tell each other.... If they truly are a good friend, you would know what the other person would want and how they would want to be told... It depends on the strength of your friendship and how well you know each other, I suppose... Every situation and friendship is different.

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    thecatgalleryposted 11 years ago

    Well, if my female cat was cheating on my male cat, I'd figure it was just a passing fancy and it was her business not his. But if she produced a litter of a strange color, would he be confused or suspicious? Would he then take off and spread his color around the neighborhood? It's had to tell how individual cats would respond in such a situation. It's all very personal, and it's their own lives.

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    momfirmsposted 11 years ago

    I would confront the cheater and ask that he/she come clean. It is his/her place to say in the first place. I would give the person a time limit and advise that if he/she does not fess up that I would go forward with telling my friend directly.

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