Spouse. Your job is a means to live, it should never be a way of life. Your spouse should be your partner in every facet of life, and should be valued at least as much as you wish to be valued by them. You can always find or create another job, and any job that would ask you to do something that could destroy your family is not a job worth having. I have often told my husband that I'd rather live in a cardboard box with him than in a mansion with a well-to-do workaholic, and that pretty well sums up my view of it. We have had financial difficulties, we're far from anyone's definition of financial wealth, and there are times that I've made career decisions that were bad for finances but necessary for my family. We're a happy, tight-knit family and my husband and I truly are best friends, so it's certainly been worth it.