Being a man I have to ask you; How do you know he isn't listening to you?
Communication is one person expressing an idea/thought and another person acknowledging they heard and understood what was said.
Communication is not an "Ask and it shall be given proposition". Communication also should not be confused with "action", Just because someone (does not give you what you want or change) does not mean there is a "communication problem". Remember people change when (they) want to change.
There are basically two reasons why someone you are in a relationship/marriage with would not give you what you asked for over and over again.
1. They don't have it to give. (It's not who they are)
2. They don't believe you are worth the effort to give it to.
Either way you have a decision to make. As I wrote in my book; My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany), Our epiphany moment arrives when we realize our expectations for this (particular person) are unrealistic.
There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in a relationship. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. You are responsible for your own happiness!