How can I keep the 1 I love out of trouble If it's har for him to listen to me now?

The one thing you can do is not give up if you know he is better then what he is thinking about doing then you make him see what you see if it's finding a job then you look for him. Many men are hard headed and they have us stronge women in their life to guid them when they fall off. Some times we really just have to take them by the hand and make them really see what they are doing and how wrong they will be if they do it. I have been there and we have over come it, it took a few months but we are in a better place in are life it made are relationship better then ever. Good luck!