You have fallen in love with him but he seems not to be making any move. Will you go ahead and seduce him? If yes, how will you do it? Give me a reason for your answer.
Men like to act macho, but most of them are scared to make the first move. I made the first move with almost every male I dated, and I proposed to my husband. Otherwise it takes them ages to work up the nerve.
I agree with you WryLit. They are attracted to a lady and actually have fallen in love with her but they have no guts to face her. The lady rescues the man by making the first move and this does not mean that she is loose.
it has more to do with fear of rejection than lack of guts, I think
If I know the man has feelings for me I will subtly pull him in. Some men are good at hiding their feelings so sometimes it's hard to tell.
Here is a true story: I was in love (not really, more like infatuated), he wanted me and there were hints and signs and I thought he was taking too long. I would always make sure I get a ride home. The ride home would end with a kiss on the cheek. Then after a few rides home, I would invite him in for a drink or something innocent.
At one point I wasn't feeling so well (really) and he rubbed my neck so I started hinting at a massage and he offered (nothing happened then). He gave me several massages that made him so hot that he was the one to actually come to me.
The secret is to pull him in and make him want you so much that he comes to you.
I never really did the subtle thing. It's outside of my personality and it would be a bad start to a relationship to give him the impression that I had the ability to be anything but blunt
I would sit him down and say "I feel this way about you... so what are you going to do about it?"
Warning: This worked exceedingly well on my first husband and started a 13 year trip through all seven layers of hell. The second hubby actually pursued me.
Well as I said, it wasn't really love, more like lust. Other than that, I just let the guy do the chasing.
@MelissaBarrett, you were straightforward about your feelings. I surprised to hear that this worked out.
I would definitely - and have done. Flirting is the best and most fun part of an attraction so I wouldn't lay my cards out too early... but I don't believe men should be the only ones to face rejection. So I haven't let them be. The risk is low if you read the signals right.
Married now... flirting restricted to hubby ;-)
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