At what point does flirting become more than just flirting?

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  1. cjcarter profile image77
    cjcarterposted 12 years ago

    At what point does flirting become more than just flirting?

  2. livingsimply profile image59
    livingsimplyposted 12 years ago

    I guess this can only relate to the physical.  If we are just flirting we are using our eyes, voices and perhaps the slighest of touches.  Once we go beyond that it becomes something else.  I believe all humans flirt, but some are better at it than others.  There is a line though and if we cross it we start a pyhsical relationship.

  3. Matt in Jax profile image61
    Matt in Jaxposted 12 years ago

    I am most definitely a major flirt. Something well-known to the male side of my family. I don't think the significant women in my life ever read too much into it because they just know how I am. I see it more as general conversation and the occasional joke.
    Nothing should be read into it unless it becomes a physical relationship or if he and she see eachother more than just the "every now and again." Something could then be up to no good.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image84
    dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

    "Flirting" is nothing more than (testing the waters) to see if there is a chance something could develop. If you are ignored or shot down you can always chaulk it up as "playing'.
    "I can't believe you thought I was serious!" ha ha ha

    Flirting becomes something more when the other person "flirts" back. It's as though they're saying, "I'm game. let's play or have some fun together."
    And before you know it you're saying things like, "We didn't plan this" or  "One thing led to another "
    One day you find yourselves goofing off with each other or laughing about something and your eyes connect. Someone leans in for a kiss....etc

  5. JayDee Sterling profile image61
    JayDee Sterlingposted 12 years ago

    I agree with some of the other comments, but at the same time, why even bother to flirt if that is all that is intended?  Flirting typically is an indicator that the desire or ultimate goal goes much further than just in the eye or the mind, the attitude is what is key.  Intention is the door.  Flirting is the intiation of intention.

  6. danthehandyman profile image70
    danthehandymanposted 12 years ago

    You’ve received some great answers, and I’m not sure I can add much, but I don’t believe flirting is always ‘testing the waters’ for a love affair. It can also be an acknowledgement or acceptance of friendship or just a compliment. An innocent flirter may just be attempting to make the flirtee (is that a word?) feel good, and it is often only that.
    Obviously you would not flirt with someone you didn’t like and think attractive. Flirting will be taken as an insult if you are ingenuous. You wouldn’t ‘test the waters’ with the ugly or stupid guy/girl in the room (unless you’re desperate). That’s what makes flirting a compliment.
    When the flirter and flirtee exceed the friendship/compliment line, it crosses the plutonic barrier. If you can’t define that line for both yourself and your flirtee, it is best to not flirt at all, unless you actually are ‘testing the waters’.
    It crosses the line from innocence the moment the flirter clearly understands he/she is attracted beyond friendship and continues flirting. That is the definition of ‘testing the waters’. If both you and your flirtee are single and uncommitted, there is nothing wrong with that, and hopefully the water’s warm.
    There are two places all flirting is inappropriate, at work and anywhere your better half is present. Innocent or not, it will assuredly lead to problems, with one exception. A salesperson will sometimes flirt with a prospect to maintain interest in the proposal. Usually it is clearly understood as a gesture, and is not a serious attempt to ‘test the waters’, although I know of many instances where the technique hugely backfired. Even trained salespeople can’t always define the line correctly. Sex sells, but not always.
    Flirting is an American pastime. There should be an organized National Association of Flirters (NAF) with contests, trophies, and huge audiences. Opps, except for the organizational name, there already is one, the local singles bar.

  7. eneueneu profile image58
    eneueneuposted 12 years ago

    At the point when you stop looking and start touching

  8. Diodrin profile image60
    Diodrinposted 12 years ago

    If you have to ask yourself whether or not you're just flirting, then you've past the point.

  9. LuisEGonzalez profile image80
    LuisEGonzalezposted 12 years ago

    Don't know how most people feel, but in general from my experience and that of my friends both male and female, flirting is mostly a friendly way of complimenting each other and its natural. If there is a stronger attraction, and this usually becomes the case the longer that flirting goes on, then the possibility is greater for flirting to become something else.

  10. Niki Hampton profile image60
    Niki Hamptonposted 12 years ago

    When action and intent is behind it. And I have to say in contrast to some of the answers- primarily don't flirt in front of your better half- I believe that is wrong. My husband and I don't flirt. It's disrespectful. Besides I am in love with him and I don't notice other men. It's one of the benefits of being in love- the need to flirt is removed.

  11. profile image0
    Indigitalposted 12 years ago

    Being a teenage boy I think it becomes 'more than flirting' when one falls for another. The ways I notice this is: instead of the girl trying to be funny by perhaps taking jibes against things I dislike (i.e. my hairs too messy, she'll call me ugly) she will start being nice & cute, trying her hardest not to upset or annoy me.

    Having a laugh with each other > Being nice on an almost unnecessary bases.

    My personal view, I'm no expert at relationships.

  12. Zainejaz profile image61
    Zainejazposted 12 years ago

    Intense Feelings
    The key emotions that are involved in flirting are light heartedness and a nice feeling. Two people who are on a flirting level have an unsaid connection between them. These unsaid emotional strings build a friendly feeling between them. But if you feel that your partner’s emotions are more deep and intense than usual then it’s an indication of romance relationship on the bloom.

    More than Just a Friend
    Flirting relationship is generally on a friendly level. You enjoy drinks together, hang out and simply have fun. But suddenly if your partner starts holding your hand all the time or moves her fingers along you leg then it is a bit more than just flirting. If your partner’s action becomes serious and very much obvious then you have a lover standing in front of you.

    Eye Contact
    Eye contact speaks more than a thousand words. When you are in a general kind of relationship the eye contact shared between two persons is not deep and intense. You chat casually and have a casual and broken eye contact with the person you are talking to. But if your partner is giving you a deep and long eye contact then there are feelings behind those eyes. Another hint that your relationship is much more than flirting is that she looks intensely at your body language. There is a feeling of  closeness as you talk. Whether these actions are done on a conscious level or an unconscious level there is love definitely around the corner.

    Flirtation is always fun and enjoying. It just comes and goes with time. Since there are generally no deep emotional connection and feelings involved in flirting it comes and goes with time. However if the two of you are flirting for quite some time now, then it can’t any longer be defined as simple flirtation. Maybe you both have deeper feelings attached. So you can look back at how these feelings have evolved and what is the current stand of your relationship. If one of you still wants to linger on with flirting then probably you are unclear about your emotions and want more time. Give it a thought and then decide, do you want to flirt more.

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  13. JoanneDoubtfire profile image66
    JoanneDoubtfireposted 12 years ago

    I believe it's when you initiate action. You can flirt with somebody as much as you like but as soon as you or they hint that something is actually going to happen it becomes something more.

  14. JMHeller profile image63
    JMHellerposted 12 years ago

    Your question reminded me of the movie Anger Management.

    "Flirting is cheating's ugly cousin" Jack Nicholson

  15. 1lovejojo profile image61
    1lovejojoposted 12 years ago

    Depends on what kind of flirting,some flirting can lead to teasing or kissing or physical contacts but as well as holding hands.

  16. iamsuper profile image62
    iamsuperposted 12 years ago

    when I get what I want why I should do it

  17. carolp profile image76
    carolpposted 12 years ago

    the moment you know her/his name and start dating.

  18. chloe's hub profile image60
    chloe's hubposted 12 years ago

    it is more than flirting if actions are taking into place.... it is beyond imagination...

  19. ravenlt04 profile image60
    ravenlt04posted 12 years ago

    when you are doing things against your spouse's or significant other's wishes and when feelings get involved

  20. profile image49
    privic4ruleposted 12 years ago

    friting can become more than what you call it when it exceed the very first plan you had in mind, and beyond what you could call fun.

  21. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

    When you make arrangements, swap numbers or have physical contact.

  22. selfdefenselesson profile image60
    selfdefenselessonposted 11 years ago

    When things get sexual. Anything up to this point might as well be flirting.

  23. felicitylovespari profile image40
    felicitylovespariposted 11 years ago

    When there is an emotional involvement and when you find yourself always looking for that person

  24. starsweightloss profile image40
    starsweightlossposted 6 years ago

    When some asks the person to go out on a date or if they exchange telephone numbers.

  25. marsona profile image60
    marsonaposted 6 years ago

    Well i think most, if not all of those love stories, began in "flirting". You knew it yourself that you are not playing the game right when you are not playing it dirty anymore.


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