Boring People

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   realtalk247posted 8 years ago

   OMG. Does anyone want to share their most boring date ever and how it came to an end?
   
   I see boring people. While there are many different personality types it is so disturbing to interact with a boring person.  Who has dinner and barely talks to the person across the table from them?  Who invites you over to spend time with them and then refuses to interact with you?  I mean literally they sit down and watch tv .....literally without interaction for hours.  These same people will call you and want to do something and wonder why the answer is no. You know the type - a person that goes to work and comes homes, groundhog day 24-7. You wonder if the person ever goes on vacation, takes a picnic, attend forums, or attends the occasional concert.  Something other than work, sit and eat.
   
   Have you ever been so bored with someone you are dating you literally could not go on?  Did you tell the person they were boring?  Did you tell them that you were going to leave because you are literally dying from boredom?  Were you honest enought to tactfully suggest that they download a personality?
   

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   psycheskinnerposted 8 years ago

   There are many things worse than being boring, like being judgemental.

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      janesixposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Everyone is judgmental.
      
      It's part of human nature.

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         Kathryn L Hillposted 8 years agoin reply to this

         And is it worse than being boring?
         For me, No.

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            janesixposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            I doubt it.
            
            But I'm both boring and judgmental, and I think being judgmental is probably worse.

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               Kathryn L Hillposted 8 years agoin reply to this

               Really, all you have to do is listen to people and get them to talk by asking appropriate questions.
               Then, you will seem very interesting to them… especially if now and then you add an honest opinion of your own.
               TWISI
               
               ( I really do not mind judgmental, but I do mind blatant unrelenting criticalness. Which I just recently witnessed. So, maybe I agree with you.)

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                  janesixposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                  Yeah, I agree. I'm pretty good at faking it when I want to. I don't naturally have great social skills, but I grew up in a large family so had to learn it by default. Then I got better faking it when I waitressed for four years.
                  
                  About being judgmental, I think there are different levels, but we need SOME simply for the sake of figuring out the other person for safety reasons, etc. Like you need to be able to make snap judgments about a stranger for instance, and I think that's how it evolved.

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   Kathryn L Hillposted 8 years ago

   If you are invited on a date, I agree... the person who did the inviting needs to amp it up and make the effort to show he is enjoying your company.
   
   When a person at least tries to show a little character, it is appreciated. Not everyone is good at this, however, especially if shy.  Shyness is one thing, boring is another. Shyness is forgiveable and sometimes appealing. Boring is lazy and reveals no joy of life. RED FLAG! Don't think you can infuse this person with joy of life. It is a mindset already established. Also, If a person reminds you of blue eeyore, steer clear. Repeating: don't try to help them.
   
   
   I would say, if a person has no interests and /or is depressed in general, he/she has no interests and/or is depressed… including being interested in and/or excited by you. If that sounds good enough for you, go for it.
   
   PS Being discerning and being judgmental are two different things.
   Discernment is always VERY valuable, wouldn't you agree, psycheskinner?

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      psycheskinnerposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I think being discerning is wondering why the person is withdrawn and considering that your respective temperaments may be a poor match
      
      Calling them boring is just judgemental. Some people are more low key and introverts.  Some people can have quiet and polite dates and fall madly in love in the process.

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         Kathryn L Hillposted 8 years agoin reply to this

         - good point.

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         realtalk247posted 8 years agoin reply to this

         I am aware of introverts. I'm not saying that introverts are boring. Some of my closest friends are introverts.
         I'm talking about boring people. Not low key...........low functioning. LOL

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            janesixposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            What's even worse than boring people are "interesting" people who think they are interesting.

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               realtalk247posted 8 years agoin reply to this

               ha ha. okay.

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   janesixposted 8 years ago

   Are you interesting, realtalk?

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      realtalk247posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Janesix I plead the 5th.  I think you are setting me up. LOL.

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   janesixposted 8 years ago

   You have "moxie", so you must be interesting.

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      realtalk247posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      thanks

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         Castlepalomaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

         Tried to have sex with a beautiful woman as she laid their like a corpse. I was so turned off, that she appeared to have lost her good looks. Never date anyone from the afterlife.

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   jacharlessposted 8 years ago

   Tactful enough to be polite and continue consuming enough whiskey to forget why I was even there. The {lovely and refreshing} barkeep apparently took me home in a cab, which she paid for and left me a note saying, "Ugh! You really shouldn't go on dates. I know it isn't called cheating because we're not dating, but seriously, HELLO I'm right here! Anyway, sleep tight superman. {smiley face}. PS nice boxers. Your friend [Lois] E Lane. {heart-shaped exclamation point}".

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      chuckandus6posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      when I was younger my brother set me up with his friends little brother,it was really boring date, he took me bowling but he didn't know how to bowl. he didn't say more than a couple words the whole night, I think that the reason was fear cuz my brother told this boy that if he didn't treat his sister right he would kick his..well you get the point. I found out about his pep talk later on.

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         realtalk247posted 8 years agoin reply to this

         Hilarious chuckandus6.

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