Sometimes it’s difficult separating our personal bias from situations that need to be settled in an equitable manner. When our friends, children or spouses find themselves in a compromising position; how do you handle the issue without being too judgmental?
You simply put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself where the line should be drawn separating genuine concern from being judgemental..obviously you will deal with kids differently from adults...if its an adult you care about don't show so much concern and attempt to play the patriach. You should instead provide a comforting shoulder and present your genuine concerns as your opinion and make it clear they don't need to agree with it but it would be good to try considering it.
I try to step back mentally, remove myself from the situation, and see the differing sides. Through the years I have learned that judging someone else's actions is shallow of me and often would lead to dissension.
I have learned to refrain from judging most of all those made in haste.
Sometimes choices and decisions someone makes (many times actually) are not ones I would make; but far be it from me to decide for someone else if it is wrong for them.
I actually wrote about this topic on my blog last week when confronted with a situation. For some this may sound cheesy, but the first thing I do is pray and ask God how He sees the situation so I look at it through His eyes. Many times we don't realize why a person is doing things and they may have a valid reason we don't understand.
Think Abuu made some good points to consider when this happens. Leading with compassion will always help us see the other side more clearly no matter who it is or their age.
The older I get, the less judgmental I become. I suspect that is pretty much true for all of us.
I find that my adult children have become extremely judgmental toward me in these latter years. They have become so used to me jumping at every opportunity to help that when I say “no” or when I ask them to do something for me; they think that I am slacking. In truth, I am more aware of my limitations now and I don’t mind saying “no” or asking them to do things for me after years of sacrificing for them. The weird thing about it is that it doesn’t bother me and I find myself chuckling about it.
It takes a rare, evolved person not to be judgmental. Most people sadly are judgmental in one degree or another. It is part of human nature. It is the nature of humankind to be critical and judgmental, particularly in areas they are unfamiliar and disagree with.
Lu 6:37“Moreover, stop judging, and you will by no means be judged; and stop condemning, and you will by no means be condemned. Keep on forgiving, and you will be forgiven.
Good advise given here, if all would attempt this , the world would be a better place.
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