Is it necessary that all good girls fall for bad boys only?

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  1. SakinaNasir53 profile image97
    SakinaNasir53posted 2 years ago

    I have read many books and seen a lot of movies depicting this. A good girl would try to stay away from a bad boy as much as she can. Then slowly, she would fall for his charms. The bad boy would have  been in many flings in the past, while the girl would be single, naive and shy.

    When they both meet, the guy would fall for her head over heels. Either it would be love at first sight or a challenge to prove he could win her over. This is so cliche.

    Why can't there be stories like good girls with good guys. Or even bad girls with bad boys? Is there even a person who is all good or all bad? I don't think so. People have both good and bad in them.
    What do you think? Let me know by commenting. ☺

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Books and movies about love and relationships would be considered boring if there was a linear progression of their love.

      One the most common devices used to make a story interesting is having {obstacles} for the couple to either overcome or learn things about themselves that help to define where they go from there.

      In reality (compatibility trumps compromise).
      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys.
      However if you're paying $10 or more to go see a movie you're going to want to get some bang for your buck. No one wants to pay for boredom.

      Unfortunately lot of people who read these novels and see these movies tend to embark on relationships that have similar elements.
      "Bad boys" are considered a challenge, a mystery, exciting, unpredictable, and oftentimes are respected by their male counterparts. Sometimes chemistry and sexual fireworks makes it hard to let go of a "bad boy".

      Some women are also drawn to guys who they deem to have "potential". They take on a project much like someone taking in a stray cat. It helps the woman to feel needed and there is less competition for him than it would be if he had his act together.

      Drama is also often mistaken for passion and love.
      Having said that most "nice guys" have their eye the "hot" girl.
      They too are looking for thrills that come with being with a "bad girl".
      Eventually both men and women mature and seek out someone they feel they can settle down with. For most people the "bad boy/girl" is a phase.

      1. SakinaNasir53 profile image97
        SakinaNasir53posted 2 years agoin reply to this

        You have put it together very well dashingscorpio.
        Thank you for your time and valuable comments. ☺

  2. Codester0391 profile image59
    Codester0391posted 2 years ago

    People want what they can't have, plain and simple.  A good girl falls for a bad boy because it's something she feels she can never have...

    Many other things may come into play, such as father/mother figure, pheromones, mental state, etc... However, in the end it comes down to one thing... We want what our inner self tells us can never be.

    Answer this, is attraction purely an electrochemical reaction in the brain? Or is there something more?

    P.S. Never believe in any love story bs... 99.9% of the time you'll be disappointed.  Love is work...after the "love" chemicals have worn off in the brain it'll always be a struggle to keep the relationship going smoothly.  If it's the right person, you'll know because the pain you endure will be worth it.

    1. SakinaNasir53 profile image97
      SakinaNasir53posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, you are probably right. ☺
      Thanks for your valuable comments.

  3. Kathryn L Hill profile image79
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    Girls want what they themselves can NEVER be!  Girls are under huge pressure from within to be "good." They always try to do the right thing, to please everyone, to be sweet, to be pretty, to be constrained, to be obedient, to be what teachers and parents want them to be.

    And along He comes. Daring to be himself, show moods, react to injustice. be direct / intelligent, feel anger ...
    Is he bad, R e a l l y ?

    1. SakinaNasir53 profile image97
      SakinaNasir53posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      He isn't bad. But why is he depicted as a "bad boy"?

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image79
        Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years agoin reply to this

        Usually because he is depicted as a rebel.
        But, they are the ones who have had a rough childhood.

        1. SakinaNasir53 profile image97
          SakinaNasir53posted 2 years agoin reply to this

          Yeah, you are right.

  4. Kathryn L Hill profile image79
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    Eventually, we find out he is immature and troubled. He is selfish and egotistic. He is not good for himself and he is not good for you. He is basically damaged goods and you thought you could help him but you can't. Because the die is cast at age fifteen.


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