Gf lives with roommates. Privacy issues?

  1. imakeyouhappy10 profile image59
    imakeyouhappy10posted 12 months ago

    I’m kind of bothered with my current situation, you guys. A few months ago, I met my girlfriend through a romance tour. After my trip, me and my girl kept in touch and eventually, we got into a relationship. Now, the thing that’s been bothering me is the fact that she lives in a apartment which is shared with her and her friends.
    Being in a long distance relationship, I get that communication is important but how can I talk to her privately if her roommates are constantly in the picture? I’m getting to the point of getting annoyed but I don’t really know how to bring this up with my girlfriend. She might not like the fact that I have a problem with her friends always being there when we talk.
    I just really want to get this off my chest and find a way to deal with this in a good way. Has anyone tried this before cause I really need some advice on how I can handle this situation. Help me out here, fellas. I just want to talk to my girlfriend privately because there are alot of things I can’t say in front of her roommates! Any suggestions and comments would do! Please!

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 12 months agoin reply to this

      If you're not in a position to provide her a place of her own leave it alone.

      She had these friends before she met you and lived with them as well. What you're describing is similar to being someone who hates cigarette smoke who meets a person who smokes and now you want them to quit.
      You're not going to change her culture or her living arrangement by telling her that you don't like it.

      If you can't accept her life as it is move on or help her improve if (she) really wants to be living alone as opposed to living with her friends.

      If you love her you should not be embarrassed to say so in front of her friends. If you want to be flirty you can always email her or text her your "private messages".

      Long distance relationships were meant to be temporary.
      Unless there is a light at the end of the tunnel whereby one person will be relocating to be with the other a couple is likely to drift apart.

      It's the counting down of the months, weeks, and days until one is finally done with the inconvenience of being in a long distance relationship that keeps it strong!

      The only reason for being in a long distance relationship is the belief that you have found "the one". Otherwise if you're just dating for the fun of it you might as well do that locally.


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