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Long Distance Relationships

  1. i_am_Legend profile image57
    i_am_Legendposted 7 years ago

    Long Distance  Relationships Good or Bad?

    1. figment profile image79
      figmentposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I'm in one... I think it's an artificial illusion of a relationship

      1. donotfear profile image91
        donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


        I heard somebody else say the exact same thing. Interesting.

      2. tobey100 profile image60
        tobey100posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        That's a very polite, sadly realistic way of putting it. sad

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        sophsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I agree sad

      4. Rod Marsden profile image76
        Rod Marsdenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Who cares figment if it works for you and makes you happy.

    2. Daniel Carter profile image88
      Daniel Carterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Truly wonderful until reality sets in.
      Always BAAAAAAAAAAAD thereafter. Like falling off a cliff in slow motion.

      But that's my experience. Others may have better results than me, but really, what's the longest time period you've ever known for a long-distance relationship? A couple of years? That's not long.

    3. Hokey profile image60
      Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Don't really work. Fun at first but not being able to really share things gets to be a drag.

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      sophsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Depends on the people. I think a long distance relationship would work well for me, as I like my own space and love to be with friends alot of the time. A weekend partner would be nice, or even fortnightly smile haha

      1. Hokey profile image60
        Hokeyposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Ok. I accept. We are now official!   tongue


        Oh yeah!  Where are you?  hmm

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          sophsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Haha! big_smile

          Sunny England! :p very distant!

    5. NunezWillLearn profile image55
      NunezWillLearnposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      What's harm in it. Let me know if you find anything wrong with it.?

    6. marcel285 profile image70
      marcel285posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Good..If you are connected mind and soul.. You can still feel the presence, the energy..

  2. KCC Big Country profile image85
    KCC Big Countryposted 7 years ago

    They are tough to manage.  Some can make them work.

  3. Ohma profile image75
    Ohmaposted 7 years ago

    Run for the Hills.

    1. greeneyes1982 profile image55
      greeneyes1982posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      lol

    2. i_am_Legend profile image57
      i_am_Legendposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      LoL

  4. KCC Big Country profile image85
    KCC Big Countryposted 7 years ago

    If you think about it, some people can have a better relationship long distance than some have living in the same bed if people don't effectively communicate.  Communication is extremely important to a good relationship.  When it's long distance, that's pretty much all you have.

  5. Hmrjmr1 profile image80
    Hmrjmr1posted 7 years ago

    when I was in the Army my late wife and I had to have them by necessity it depends how you look at life I think If you really find a way to just live the day then the time and distance apart can be an enhancement. I have to admit though that many of our freinds and my troops had many problems with it. (as they do now)

  6. efeguy profile image58
    efeguyposted 7 years ago

    nt bad,it cld be sucessful in d long run

    i mean both party can finally meet  themselves

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    pinkyleeposted 7 years ago

    they can be really hard and require A LOT of trust but they can work

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    alstersjakposted 7 years ago

    some people can have a better relationship long distance than some have living in the same bed if people don't effectively communicate.  Communication is extremely important to a good relationship.  <a href="http://www.sports-picks.biz/">sports picks</a>

  9. emievil profile image78
    emievilposted 7 years ago

    It depends. I've seen long distance relationships that did not work and I've seen some that did work. My husband (then boyfriend) and I had a long distance relationship for almost 3 years. Guess it worked for us smile.

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    blatvaposted 7 years ago

    They can work  smile  Mine did. And now, I live with him

    1. i_am_Legend profile image57
      i_am_Legendposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I hope for the same. i have been in a long distance relationship for two years now.

  11. Aya Katz profile image87
    Aya Katzposted 7 years ago

    In the case of unrequited love, it can last for decades, or even an entire lifetime, and it does not even require the other half of the relationship to take residence on the same planet. Of course, some would argue that's not even a relationship. However, someone is definitely relating to someone else. So the question is: how important is reciprocation? If not important, it can last forever!

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    Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago

    Good if it involes her sending me money so I can have a good time... bad if it's the other way around!

    But seriously it all depends on what you mean by relationship and long distance. For example, I have long distances "relationships" with a number of hubbers here. There's no sex or money exchanging hands just good conversation from time to time.

  13. sexeducationnow profile image56
    sexeducationnowposted 7 years ago

    It ain't good or bad..it's tough to manage and not so practical in the this materialistic world.

  14. Rafini profile image88
    Rafiniposted 7 years ago

    a long distance relationship in what capacity?

    married & one is in the armed forces?  I sympathize, it isn't easy.

    engaged or "just" dating & one went away to college?  Good luck on keeping interest in each other and not someone else

    met online & haven't met yet?  RUN!!

  15. Princessa profile image83
    Princessaposted 7 years ago

    They can work.  Mine started as one and now we have been married for more than 10 years!

  16. Greek One profile image77
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    The most important thing is to make sure you use a cordless phone during phone sex.

    Otherwise, the chaffing really starts to burn after a while sad

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      sophsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Eeeeewwwww! Haha!

    2. i_am_Legend profile image57
      i_am_Legendposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      lol

  17. purple sunflowerz profile image53
    purple sunflowerzposted 7 years ago

    It could be good and/or bad. It all depends of the maturity of the individuals in the relationship.

    1. i_am_Legend profile image57
      i_am_Legendposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I agree

  18. yenajeon profile image82
    yenajeonposted 7 years ago

    If its real, it can work. The reason people think its impossible is because its rare for a relationship to be 'real'.

  19. aliceone profile image59
    aliceoneposted 7 years ago

    I've written about the subject on my dating site (it's in my profile, if anyone is curious). I have been in several long distance relationships, both lasted through the time apart and both went on to become wonderful partners in my daily life.

    These types of relationships allow you to focus on what matters most- communication, real conversation, getting to know the true person with whom you're dealing. They are a great way to know someone's mind and heart.

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    Inoko Clan-Clanposted 7 years ago

    It's real but more difficult to make it work than a short distance one. smile Experience.

    1. i_am_Legend profile image57
      i_am_Legendposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      i agree

  21. Rod Marsden profile image76
    Rod Marsdenposted 7 years ago

    I have been in a long term relationship with an older woman now for about twenty years. We correspond. We've never actually met face to face. It has been going great. Who knows what would happen if we actually met.

  22. Black Lilly profile image59
    Black Lillyposted 7 years ago

    1. Long distance relationship is first of all an illusion - you're in a relationship with someone, whose image is subconsciously altered by your own wish and according to your own needs. That's NOT reality though.
    2. Being in a relationship with your own illusion is at least a waste of time; it can be dangerous too.

    I've been in such relationships, but I don't believe them. When it comes to real life without phones or internet, it does not work (at least not the way you would expect them to work).

  23. Moon Goddess1854 profile image58
    Moon Goddess1854posted 7 years ago

    Distance is not always the issue.  There are always two parts in a relationship. One is physical and the other one is emotional and psychological. Couples may be living in the same house sharing the same bed but they can be emotionally, psychologically and physically distant.

    So what am I saying here? It matters how you prioritize your needs and trust is also an issue between couples. Long distance decreases the amount of physical contact between couples which can translate into frustrations for some. On the flip side of the coin, the distance also could allow the courtship to extend despite having been married for a number of years which again may also result to keeping the mystery and excitement for one another alive and active.

    Nuf said.Not a guru so I'm shutting my mouth.

  24. TREX80 profile image60
    TREX80posted 7 years ago

    What's yours and their track record for long distant relationships? First one, go for it. Life is short. Many? never worked...hmmmmm.

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    china manposted 7 years ago

    I now have the perfect relationship with my ex - we never have any contact and she is 5498.9 miles away - I just went to 'how far' site to calculate it for you.

  26. profile image0
    china manposted 7 years ago

    Isn't every relationship in these pages a long distance relationship ?  Doesn't matter if you are the other side of the world or next door it is just as distant online.

    seems to work fine for most people here big_smile

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    hippychick67posted 7 years ago

    I have just started a long distance relationship (148 miles, to be exact!) We met on a dating site, texted and talked on the phone, and despite falling out with each other TWICE because he wasn't over his ex, over 5 months we fell in love. He finally decided that it was ME that he wanted, cut his ex out of his life and we met 3 days ago. It was AMAZING! We went for a drink and never stop talking! I agree that in some ways it is harder, I am missing him so much already, but I have always believed that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and that goes for relationships too! I really hope this works out, I haven't had this sort of connection with a man for a very long time. X:0)

  28. arepblury profile image50
    arepbluryposted 7 years ago

    i have another story.. i've meet my old girl friend when i was in 14years old.. separated for about 8years.. hahaa.. now meet again in facebook.com hhahaha.. in that period... really going crazy without her.. but. really being a player...

  29. dyonder profile image79
    dyonderposted 7 years ago

    I'm in a similar scenario, having just re-connected with a love from twenty years ago. In a sense, it's as if the intervening years and geography didn't happen or don't make a difference as far as the abstraction of romance goes. Although, I'll find out when I go 2 see her either this spring or summer. With age has come patience and not sweating the small stuff; both of which seem to enhance the quality of the relationship. With the passage of the years has come a true appreciation of what we had and of what we can have. The dream between, the passage of time and vastness of distance, lose meaning in face of the hope.

    1. arepblury profile image50
      arepbluryposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      dyonder..you a quite centimental persn man... but.. think of that.. she is personally will be happy if she read this.. hehehe

      1. dyonder profile image79
        dyonderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I hope so. Picked up a practice I haven't had since her & I dated two decades ago; writing a poem a day 4 her. She inspires me. It's nice to have a muse

 
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