How do I greet my date on our first date, do I shake his hand or give him a pec

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    polite154posted 9 years ago

    How do I greet my date on our first date, do I shake his hand or give him a
    peck on the cheek?

  2. PJ Stuart profile image59
    PJ Stuartposted 9 years ago

    Great question. I think a hand shake is always appropriate, however if this person is someone you are really attracted to and someone you have been wanting to date for awhile, then a quick peck on the cheek will let him know you are very interested without giving away too much of yourself on the first date. Just remember, he may not expect a kiss on the cheek and going in for the kill could prove awkward. Head butts do happen, be careful. Most of all enjoy the date and be yourself. I am an advocate of letting the guy do the chasing, that way you will always know where you stand. That may seem a bit old fashioned, but it really isn't, it's more about never letting them see you sweat! A man will never let you very far out of his sight if he's into you. If he isn't, it's better to know right away and not waste a minute trying to guess what he's thinking. That whole fallacy of, he isn't calling because he's too shy, confused about what he feels, intimidated by your beauty and all those other lies or just that; lies. A man who wants a woman will chase until he has her or until she says no. Men are natural hunters, let them hunt! All the best. PJ Stuart

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    TypingTornadoposted 9 years ago

    smile and be yourself.  if you're passionate about the guy, be passionate. if you don't want it to go any further than wherever you're going for the date, use your common sense.

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    propeshkaposted 9 years ago

    Really depends how you met.

    If you met through a circle of friends or if you have some other regular contact with this person, you're assuredly better off with the handshake. You don't want to gamble too much on an already good reputation and even a peck on the cheek may send the wrong message for how you mean to pace and grow this relationship.

    However, if you met this guy cold (I'm not talking temperature) then your option are open. If you're truly the kind of girl that goes after guys for whatever you want and the devil may care how you really feel at the end, then the option is certainly open.

    If he was the one that approached you, you can still give him the kiss, but he has to show something that he's after you. It may have been the way he has flirted with you or called you. It might even how he carries himself at the door. It may be even necessary to kiss him on the cheek when he walks through the door. If he's a catch that dates frequently, then a handshake could possibly ruin your chance for another date. He might possibly be the kind of guy that rather to work to gain the interest and attention of a woman expects it suddenly for reasons mostly dealing with his self presentation.

    Really, doing this really puts yourself out there to either your success or ruin. The expected norm is for the male to initiate any kind of touch.

  5. Queen_Kevyn95 profile image59
    Queen_Kevyn95posted 9 years ago

    shaking hands is too formal.  why not go inbetween?  while hand shakes are too formal and a kiss may bee to edgy, why don't you go for a hug? can't go wrong, there, it's between formal flirty and friendly. smile

  6. Megamorphosis profile image60
    Megamorphosisposted 9 years ago

    Hi there
                You really have to go with your gut instinct on this one. You will only know the right way to proceed when you are in that moment of meeting. If you are attracted to him and you feel he is the sort of guy you can give a kiss on the cheek to - go for it. If you are uncertain about your attraction on any level or you feel he is a bit more of a man that needs to be coaxed out of his cave - a firm handshake ( no limp fish) is a great way to start. Remember the alchemy between any two individuals is always unique so there is never a right answer to your question. Just go with how you feel in the moment and have fun.  To learn more about dating please follow my hub on Conscious Dating or visit my website I am a professional dating and relationship coach x

  7. stricktlydating profile image87
    stricktlydatingposted 9 years ago

    It depends on the person, if it's your first date, you might  not need to do either, just smile and say hello when you arrive.

  8. uptodateshl profile image59
    uptodateshlposted 9 years ago

    yep, good question... we are a dating group that offer consultations to members, from first dates to proposals - in response to your question it first depends on how long you have known one another, if its days or weeks, even months in some cases... your much safer staying with the handshake - having said that you also need to consider the other persons race, some may consider it rude etc.

    May sound strage, but i always say on a first date talk about it with your date before hand, make a joke of it before you meet and get their opinion... that way you never fail!

    Good luck!

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    LivingAndLearningposted 9 years ago

    I think the greeting really depends on how well you know the person. I think a hug is the best way to go in most situations. A hand shake may be too formal for a date, unless it is a blind date. A hug starts the date off on a warm, friendly note and its not too forward.

  10. whispers of faith profile image60
    whispers of faithposted 9 years ago

    a hug or a kiss on the cheek. me personally i like the kiss on the cheek cause i dont feel like a hug is way to up close and personal for me. plus ive never been a hugging person lol. all my friends have to ask me to give them a hug

  11. DatingDragons profile image59
    DatingDragonsposted 9 years ago

    do whatever feels comfortable to you.  chances are he is just as nervous as you are when you first meet.  so if you move in for a peck or extend your hand to shake his he will just go with the flow.

  12. micahjoy profile image60
    micahjoyposted 8 years ago

    A handshake is wayy to formal.  Like you're welcoming collegues to a business meeting.

    Its a safe bet to go for a quick hug, or if even that feels like too much, nothing at all. Just smile and say "hi!"

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    peter565posted 3 years ago

    Why don't you just be yourself. I think you are thinking too much.


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