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Which one is dearer to man – sexual appetite or love of affection?

  1. H P Roychoudhury profile image47
    H P Roychoudhuryposted 8 years ago

    Which one is dearer to man – sexual appetite or love of affection?

  2. GAWjr profile image58
    GAWjrposted 8 years ago

    Abraham Harold Maslow, was an American psychologist. He is noted for his conceptualization of a "hierarchy of human needs", and is considered the founder of humanistic psychology

    Maslow's hierarchy of needs is predetermined in order of importance.

    1st- Physiological needs
        * Breathing* Water* Sleep* Food* Sex* Clothing* Shelter
    Because without these things mankind could not continue to exist.

    2nd- Safety Needs
        * Personal security* Financial security* Health and well-being
        * Safety net against accidents/illness and the adverse impacts
    These needs have to do with people's yearning for a predictable, orderly world in which injustice and inconsistency are under control

    3rd- Social needs
        * Friendship* Intimacy
        * Having a supportive and communicative family
    Humans need to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance.
    This need for belonging can often overcome the physiological and security needs, depending on the strength of the peer pressure; an anorexic, for example, may ignore the need to eat and the security of health for a feeling of control and belonging.

    4th- Esteem
       Also known as the belonging need, esteem presents the normal human desire to be accepted and valued by others.
    Maslow stresses the dangers associated with self-esteem based on fame and outer recognition instead of inner competence. Healthy self-respect is based on earned respect.

    5th- Self-Actualization
       The motivation to realize one's own maximum potential and possibilities is considered to be the master motive or the only real motive.

      ** Note-- Near the end of his life Maslow revealed that there was a level on the hierarchy that was above self-actualization: self-transcendence.

    With that being said; I believe and have heard from others that, the most coveted thing by man is the closeness of relationships with friends and family.  I am saying that, this takes priority over money and/or superficial sex.  But, this realization may not come to a person until a later time in life.

    Jay Walter

  3. jackiewilliam profile image55
    jackiewilliamposted 8 years ago

    I think  they are both very important. haha

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    nicole gilmoreposted 8 years ago

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  5. floating mind profile image78
    floating mindposted 8 years ago

    For the most part I think that, the younger the man, the more of a sexual appetite he will have. And the older the man, the more he develops his sense (and maybe need for) love of affection. 

    This may be one reason why you find older men with younger women, and older women with younger men!

  6. StarB12 profile image55
    StarB12posted 8 years ago

    From my experience of knowing and dating guys around my age (19), Love and affections means NOTHING!! As long as they achieve to have sex....the rest is NONSENSE to them.

    That's why they say whatever to get it...whether meaning it or not.

    Older, wiser and matured men may have a different outlook but for the most part....they are out for the same thing that a Squirrel is after!! lol

  7. Shreerekha profile image55
    Shreerekhaposted 7 years ago

    love of affection is pious,it must be accepted

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    Marina Lesterposted 7 years ago

    Wouldn't that depend purely on the man? Whether he lives in a world of instinct or soul? Beauty and the Beast, all posses both, but which rules? I am 20, I have a beautifully loving boyfriend who patiently waits for me to say yes to marrying him and I know through honest observation and his sweet genuinely true words that since meeting me he has not seen another woman, just people. He defies what most believe in men, and he is the happiest for it. I also have a friend who is the opposite and has a large sexual appetite and has many encounters with women but even he still hopes that special lady finds him and until then he plays games with women of lesser respectability..... with all the men I have known, it is plain as day which is dearer, to both, men and women more often than you think. Love of affection... Love.

  9. Jaynie2000 profile image92
    Jaynie2000posted 7 years ago

    Probably depends on the man in question, but speaking in general terms, I'd go with love and affection. I think all men need, want and even crave sex, but studies have shown that men are happier and live longer if they are married. Those statistics do not comment on whether they are married and having great or frequent sex. That leads me to believe that they are most happy being in love, being nurtured and sharing the joy that comes with being in a loving relationship.