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What do you consider too much public display of affection (PDA)?

  1. Rosie2010 profile image78
    Rosie2010posted 7 years ago

    What do you consider too much public display of affection (PDA)?

    A public display of affection (also referred to as a "PDA") is the physical demonstration of affection for another person while in the view of others. Holding hands or kissing in public are generally considered acceptable.  What is not acceptable to you?


  2. divacratus profile image75
    divacratusposted 7 years ago

    Making out in public, for sure smile I mean, yeah, some pervs would like to see that happening on the streets -- but not everyone! big_smile

  3. Nicky Bantham profile image70
    Nicky Banthamposted 7 years ago

    What a strange question:)I generally would like to believe that we live in a fee-thinking and unjudgmental society, giving us the licence to display our feelings in animated ways or not,but sadly this is not so.  I think there is something lovely indeed about watching happy lovers sharing affectionate embraces, kisses or whatever demonstrations of love they need to show towards each other, publicly.There is a big difference between distasteful exhibitions or tacky displays of love like groping and fondling inappropriately, where people are made to feel uncomfortable, and sharing the sweet aura of love. Hope this makes sense:)

  4. Jaymeyaroch profile image60
    Jaymeyarochposted 7 years ago

    I think that whatever you are comfortable with is acceptable.  That being said, please keep your love display within the confines of the law, and in consideration of those around you and children that may be watching.

    If what you do could be considered soft-core porn, maybe finding a more private place to be together is a good idea.  I don't want to see it, so I look away.  It's a general policy I think everyone can live with.

  5. BobbiRant profile image61
    BobbiRantposted 7 years ago

    Seeing people kissing and holding hands is wonderful.  More people should be doing it.  Now, if you feel the need to tell someone to 'get a room' that may be when they should take the activity inside.

  6. stricktlydating profile image80
    stricktlydatingposted 7 years ago

    Any hands underneath clothing, or any 'thrusting' movements would be too much to display out in public.

  7. home witch profile image83
    home witchposted 7 years ago

    Hmm... this is an interesting question, one I hadn't really thought about. I guess kissing and hand holding is fine, especially if done in the spirit of true love. Folding, especially in a very sexually explicit manner is just a bit bad taste really for public places. It all depends on your social surroundings though, and your place in society. If you are a school teacher for example, then you need to be even more careful because you never know when a child at your school might notice you making out with your honey.

  8. profile image0
    ssaulposted 7 years ago

    if you are feeling each other at their private areas and having sex that's too much affection in my opinion other than everything else is fine. Time has evolved so much that people hardly pay attention to what one is doing unless you are the 50's, 60's, 70's and 80's era.

  9. ajuvr profile image67
    ajuvrposted 7 years ago

    man is distinct by the way he honors  privacy. if that you mind to be true , why should there be PDA

  10. Dave Mathews profile image61
    Dave Mathewsposted 7 years ago

    Rosie2010: As long as the public display of affection stays within the laws of the land, I believe all is good. Holding hands, kissing, giving a little pat on the bum, as soon as affection steps outside the confines of the law and becomes indecent, you are out of bounds and subject to arrest.

  11. Wayne Brown profile image84
    Wayne Brownposted 7 years ago

    I have no problem with a bit of affection...a quick kiss, a hug.  But, after that, take it home or get a room.  Part of the problem some folks have with gays is their desire to do the "hey look at us" thing in public.  I don't care for it with hetrosexuals and I certainly don't need it with any other group.  After a bit, it starts to get a little cheap and sends the message that you, as a couple, are more interested in putting on a public display that anything else...shock jocks! WB

  12. kalinin1158 profile image100
    kalinin1158posted 7 years ago

    I love PDA. Almost nothing offends me when it comes to the behavior of the consenting adults. First of all, there is nothing inherently offensive in people showing tender or sexual feelings for each other. So lets keep it in mind.

    To address a previous comment, seeing gay couples delights me even more. To see 2 men or 2 women kissing or showing other signs of affection is like an instant affirmation that we live in a great country where such occurrences are not followed by stoning to death. It's like a breath of freedom and a reminder that love is out there, whoever you are. And if you don't like it, you can always look the other way.

  13. Ruchira profile image77
    Ruchiraposted 7 years ago

    Holding hands and a quick kiss is fine but more than that they need to get a room or head home...
    Sure, it is the 21st century and people don't mind PDA's but it can be distracting and can also put wrong thoughts in children's minds who will have lots of questions seeing the above...

  14. freecampingaussie profile image61
    freecampingaussieposted 7 years ago

    It is good to see people of all ages holding hands , hugging & having a kiss especially the older generation they generally are the ones that have stuck together no matter what and are truly in love.
    They could teach the young ones a lot ! ( I am 45 , husband 63 ) we hold hands , kiss etc & are very happy together .

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    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    when whoever is around can visualize what you normally do or you're about to do in your bedroom.  Yes we all get carried away, just get a room!

  16. Iontach profile image85
    Iontachposted 7 years ago

    I LOVE to see couples holding hands, no matter what sexuality they belong to. Even a few kisses here and there is lovely to see and brings a smile to my face. But one thing I don't like at all is when you see a couple up against the wall and seriously getting it on in plain view...I think there is a time and place for more raunchy acts, the bedroom (or outside when nobody is around).

  17. brimancandy profile image80
    brimancandyposted 7 years ago

    I don't mind it, as long is not too close to me, or in full view of small children. The worst place to see people going at it, is at your local amusement park, especially while you are herded together while waiting for a roller coaster ride. The worst of the public offenders are young couples, and teenagers, usually lip-locked and blocking the line, with no care of who is around them.

    My brother and I were behind this one couple, and she had her hand down the front of his pants, and they were very grossly lip-locked. My brother tapped the guy on the shoulder, and said, unless you are going to share that with the rest of us, I suggest you spit the bitch out, and move along.

    My brother, is kind of a scary type, and they stopped what they were doing almost immediately, and the lady behind us said.
    Thank you very much! If I wanted my girls to watch porn, we certainly wouldn't be at an amusement park. Why don't you get out of here and get a room you pigs.

    You see parents going through the line covering their kids eyes when stuff like that happens. Another one that pisses me off is those people in line who insist on smoking a cigarette while they are right at your ankles. One bitch even burned a hole in my shirt. Even though there are signs every where that so no smoking while waiting in line.

    I guess they should also include no pole smoking in line too!

  18. profile image52
    OnlyDGHposted 7 years ago

    I believe that everybody has the right to show affection in public, but it is not necessarily the polite thing to do.  I think couples should just wait until they are alone, you never know how perceived PDA affects other people!  They could be going through a serious breakup!

  19. Drew nite profile image59
    Drew niteposted 7 years ago

    Just looking at each other is too much PDA for me. it's like gezze, just  get a room already!

  20. rikabothra profile image60
    rikabothraposted 6 years ago

    It is alright to display your affection towards your partner, however, not at the cost of making other people around you uncomfortable. Also, what is acceptable and what is not differs from culture to culture.. hence, we should also keep in mind where we are.

  21. vintageglamour profile image61
    vintageglamourposted 6 years ago

    it's unacceptable when i can hear it. if i'm not looking at you but i can hear that something is going on.get a room.