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What if the people who envy you are your relatives?

  1. Cleanclover profile image44
    Cleancloverposted 8 years ago

    What if the people who envy you are your relatives?

  2. JennTellsAll profile image55
    JennTellsAllposted 8 years ago

    Good Day,

    This can be a very common problem in many families. It also can be devastating, because you are  seeking the happiness of your relatives for you , in the same way that you are happy for them and you find that they are filled with envy .

    This is something that is a weakness on their part. They are not happy with themselves, and all that they feel they lack they will tend to project onto you.  So for example if they say that you are greedy, it is because deep down this how they view themselves.

    I know that it can be hard to not allow your relatives make you feel bad, but this is part of being human and learning how to overcome all, even if the negativity comes from the family.

    You can love your family from afar, you can pray for them wish them the best and not allow them to hurt you. You will not see a change in them until they begin their journey of self discovery and until then they will always use there insecurities to lash out at those who are safe , such as family.

    I know how complex all this can be, but have hope and do not allow anyone to make you second guess your purpose and how well you are doing.

  3. 4Me2you profile image48
    4Me2youposted 8 years ago

    JennTellsAll, said it all really...I concur and that is the best advise, run with it.  At the end of they day, your success are shining light on their failures and they don't like it.

  4. Cleanclover profile image44
    Cleancloverposted 8 years ago

    Thank you Jenntellsall, I will try to avoid them and focus on what makes me happy and successful

  5. andromida profile image61
    andromidaposted 8 years ago

    Since you can not ignore your family totally, you should talk to them about the issue you think might the reason of envy. Envy is just a misunderstanding nothing else.

  6. Jennifer Richards profile image57
    Jennifer Richardsposted 8 years ago

    Since this fact have become very common these days so nothing to worry about.
    Try to talk to that person and settle the matter , might it be a totally misunderstanding or you can have a chance to ask sorry.
    I think mutual settlement is good solution rather than you too envy with those persons in relatives.

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    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    Very sad case......then it is for you to keep a safe distance from them for now you know and more than likely they will try every tactic in the book to try to discourage you every opportunity they get.  This is not a healthy situation at all because you want those that are close to you in your corner to support you in all that you do, but instead they are trying to bring you down and to realistically deal with it as well as accept it mentally can be extremely difficult.

    Vonda G. Nelson