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Do you think that if someone criticizes overally of.someone that their is envy?

  1. chuckandus6 profile image74
    chuckandus6posted 2 years ago

    Do you think that if someone criticizes overally of.someone that their is envy?

  2. Link10103 profile image76
    Link10103posted 2 years ago

    Its certainly possible, but that wouldn't be the first thing I assume about someone unless they criticize every little thing into oblivion.

    1. chuckandus6 profile image74
      chuckandus6posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Yes i mean someone whp criticizes everything about u

  3. ChristinS profile image95
    ChristinSposted 2 years ago

    I think people who criticize everyone and everything are more insecure in themselves than jealous of the target of their criticism.  That isn't to say envy couldn't be part of it, but more I think it's just negativity.  People who are hard on others are often the hardest on themselves.  It's more about subconscious thought patterns and things of that nature I think.

    1. chuckandus6 profile image74
      chuckandus6posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Very valid point like the bullies at school are usually insecure about themselves

  4. MarieLB profile image82
    MarieLBposted 2 years ago

    Like the other responders Link10103 and Christin Sander I do think that there are many reasons why someone criticize someone else too much.

    However, I am also mindful that what you consider "criticizes overally" is a vague term, and what is too much to one person in a given situation, may well not be so to another.

    1. chuckandus6 profile image74
      chuckandus6posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      sorry i do mean that they criticize everything about you

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    Joshtheplumberposted 2 years ago

    I would say this is often the case. The other main reason would be correction. Depends on the situation. I met a man named Constantine once who went to a Catholic school. He said those nuns were mean, but you sure knew your multiplication tables. Drill sergeants criticize endlessly, but who do you call when things can't go wrong? The soldiers they trained.

    I've caught myself being overly critical of people I envy. People who I perceive to 'have it easier' or 'get away with more.' I try to make up for it if I can. If I'm lucky, they'll let me know I crossed a line and we can come to an understanding.

    I get criticized all the time, but it's not often over envy. I've learned to take it all constructively. I believe everybody has the best intent in all they do. Whatever is best for them anyway. If they're interested in a cooperative way of living, they'll find a way to get along with me. I, personally, don't get along with people who have a 'victim' mentality. I may play along with a 'victimizer' type for a little while though, if it amuses me to do so.

    1. chuckandus6 profile image74
      chuckandus6posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      some criticism i could take fine its when it ks overally done

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      Joshtheplumberposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I know the feeling sad

      sometimes people don't know when to stop. I've been on both sides more times than I like to think about

  6. peachpurple profile image82
    peachpurpleposted 2 years ago

    Jealousy and envy but couldn't get it out of her chest. She is trying to bring down that person with evil deeds

  7. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 2 years ago

    Not necessarily.   Sometimes people think too highly of themselves and their own thinking, and if others aren't they (in all their "highness" ) approve of they presume that their thinking is the one and only gold standard.

    Also, some people pretty much get into a habit of criticizing "as conversation".  I've known people who seem only to have their opinions about one thing or another as conversation material.

    Some people who view themselves as "knowing better" and/or as "above" someone else (like a spouse or a grown child or a parent) criticize out of seeing "flaws" in that other person.

    Some people may have even learned "the rule" in, say, school or work, that one should be able to accept constructive criticism from a teacher or supervisor; but then those same people see themselves as "teacher" or "supervisor" to others in their personal life (maybe a friend, maybe a spouse, may a son or daughter, whoever).  In other words, people learn that  "rule" within the context of being a student in school but lack the "human skills" or general "well adjustedness" to know enough to separate the context within which they think criticism is appropriate.

    Also, if someone expects another person to say what he wants/needs them to say (maybe because someone wants the other person to make him feel better about something, or maybe because the person has built up something about his own "identity" in his own mind; and when the other person says/does something that "shakes" what he's created in his mind but what is not real;  it can become a matter of "It's you or me".  If it's something that matters very much to that "critic" he's more likely to do the "...you or me" thing.

    People also criticize when they judge others without knowing what others are going through (or worse, without even thinking that others exist beyond just what the critic sees/knows.

    Some people seem to just be in the habit of criticizing.  Maybe their mother didn't tell teach them well enough.

    Some people actually thinking that they're "trying to help" by trying to help others measure up to their self-defined "gold standard" of what people should be/do.

    There's also the "mean-girls" type of behavior that can involve some people getting together to "dump on" someone else; and therefore boost the egos/sense of self-rightousness/superiority of all in the group.

    Then, too, there are critics who are just clueless in general and don't know how clueless they are before criticizing.

  8. MonkeyShine75 profile image75
    MonkeyShine75posted 2 years ago

    I doubt it's envy because we usually hate in others what we hate in ourselves. I wrote a hub about this called "People Who Mirror Us"