How often do you think married couples have sex? Or should have sex?

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  1. butterflyz profile image59
    butterflyzposted 14 years ago

    How often do you think married couples have sex? Or should have sex?

  2. pippap profile image78
    pippapposted 14 years ago

    I think that depends entirely on the couple.  There is no such thing as "should" when it comes to decisions like this.  Trying to live up to someone else's definition of "should" only causes discontent, dissatisfaction, and disharmony when the person or couple don't reach and/or maintain those standards.

    Married couples should have sex as often as they want to; whether that is once a day, once a week or once a month.  People have different levels of sexual drive and desire.  If a couple has a high sex drive; then, once a day could be right for them.  If the couple has a low sex drive; then, once a week or even less often could be right for them.

    Married couples should have sex as often as is comfortable for them.

  3. racheljenna profile image60
    racheljennaposted 14 years ago

    A question like this is hard to answer, simply because it depends on a couple. There is no "should" or scientific number to give for the number of times per week (or day) that married couples have sex.

    Lots of things come up in our lives - stress, our jobs, school, kids, relatives, and more - and can interfere with our sex life.

    I think if anyone is in a marriage and thinks they should be having more sex, they must talk to their partner about it. Sex is a fun, natural and healthy thing to do, and so it should be something that people feel comfortable discussing with their partner.

    Now, if you want numbers, I think it's fair to guess an average of once or twice a week. It's going to differ from couple to couple, obviously, and for everyone it's different.

    As far as 'should have sex,' again, it's up to the couple to decide what works for them.

    I want to add that while sex every day of the week might not be possible, it is important for a married couple to stay intimate, whether it's a good night or good morning kiss, a hug after a long day of work, a "just thinking about you" text, or a pat on the butt to remind them that you still find them sexy and are attracted to them. There are many playful alternatives to having sex in a busy life when you don't always have the time for it.

    A good idea would be to set aside a date night each week which gives you both a chance to cuddle up to each other, reflect on your week, and share in a bit of romance.

    Hope this helps!

  4. HappyHer profile image53
    HappyHerposted 14 years ago

    Three to four times a week is ideal in regard to health.  This amount is what is determined to lower the risk of prostate cancer and a whole slew of other health related benefits go along with that as well.

  5. RachelLynn profile image60
    RachelLynnposted 14 years ago

    Each couple will be different, and some may need more fornication than others.  Intercourse, however, shouldn't be the main reason the couple is together in the marriage.  They should be best friends first, lovers second.  After all, when you're too old to engage in intercourse, you and your partner should be able to just hold hands and talk to each other, as that's what best friends do.  I hope this helps.

  6. R.Cochran profile image74
    R.Cochranposted 14 years ago

    A lot depends on the age of the couple and life styles. On average a couple in their 20's, married and raising a family will have sex 4 times a week. Then again a couple in their 50's, married for at least 15yrs,  will only have sex 4 times a month. Now, I know this is not true for everyone, but only averages.

  7. terced ojos profile image59
    terced ojosposted 14 years ago

    It depends on the household.

    We have four children so we have a serious household to run when we get home from work.

    We try to get 2 times a week in. Maximum 3.

    Nobody wants to engage that way when you're tired. 3 is plenty for us.

  8. Ask_Nessa69 profile image59
    Ask_Nessa69posted 14 years ago

    Well if your anything like me and my husband and I You have sex every night!!! But studies show most couples that have been together for long periods of time tend to have sex as little as twice a month!! I would go crazy if i had to go that long in between sex!!! We have 4 kids and both work and we still make time for sex just about every night!

    1. bethperry profile image82
      bethperryposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Ah, a woman after my own heart here. Give that man of yours a gold star, too!

  9. profile image50
    Morsi 69posted 13 years ago

    hi butterflyz . how r u

    there is no specific time to have sex , but i think sex should be recharged every now and then , in order not to be forgotten

    and i agree with rachelijenna  that sex every day might not be possible because it will lose it's meaning

    and aslo i agree with RachelLynn that every couple differ

    thank you for the space

  10. Loving_Life profile image60
    Loving_Lifeposted 13 years ago

    I think 3-4 times a week is good.

    Like other people have said though it depends on the ages and also the busyness of each other (jobs, kids etc).
    But stress can also play a part in how many times a couple has sex.
    And also the woman might not feel sexy anymore to her spouse, so that would factor in how many times they have sex as well

  11. NiaLee profile image61
    NiaLeeposted 12 years ago

    I think it is nobody's business how often people should have relationship, they are individuals who have needs and pleasure... and schedules.
    Though limits stated by the Bible are wise for everybody's health, well being and self esteem in the long run. Because the issue in this matter is the all the way performance and impossible satisfaction due to porn and other exaggerations. It is sad how something so wonderful can become sordid and hurtful because of lack of balance and limits.
    Sex is a wonderful experience that part of a whole thing called Love has a different flavor, a great one now, today, tomorrow. When you can, when you feel like, sometimes we start a little tired and enjoy a great experience. All this depends on the individuals and their situations . Love and peace to all...and have a great time!

  12. profile image0
    CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years ago

    Well, let's see here. There are seven days in a week and 24 hours in a day. Let us therefore assume that one needs an hour to prep for work; 30 minutes to drive to work, and then puts in an 9-hour day (including 1 hour for lunch).

    Then if one counts 8 hours of sleep each night and all the showers and meals, that leaves about 2-3 hours each day for a married couple to rediscover the true meaning of "oneness" and about 12 hours on the weekends.  :0)

  13. Byonder5 profile image60
    Byonder5posted 11 years ago

    Three is perfect. Four would be almost excessive. Lol.

  14. suzettenaples profile image88
    suzettenaplesposted 10 years ago

    As much as they want to.  It is up to the couple to decide what is too much, too little or just enough.  I am sure it varies from couple to couple.  Personally, I could have it every day and sometimes more than once.  Is that too much, too little or just right for my partner.  We have to decide it together.  I always think it is best just to let nature take its course.

  15. foreveraloevera profile image61
    foreveraloeveraposted 9 years ago

    every alternative days,. we should be loyal to her and then she will be loyal
    visit why

  16. Anil Nathta profile image62
    Anil Nathtaposted 9 years ago

    new married couple will do it very often 3 or 4 times in a 7 time passes couple will not much interested in one i 7 days is possible .But at a certain age couple will even not think about it

  17. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago

    Depends upon the couples.  Some couples have sex frequently while others don't.  There are couples who have sex for recreational &/or romantic reasons while there are other couples who have sex just for procreation.  There are even couples who avoid sex altogether.


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