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Is it wrong to stop talking to an ex the minute you find out he has met someone

  1. Georgina Shamon profile image60
    Georgina Shamonposted 8 years ago

    Is it wrong to stop talking to an ex the minute you find out he has met someone new?

    Personally, the minute I find out that someone who once liked me ..is talking to someone else, then I just decide right then and there that I will no longer keep in contact with them.

    I guess it hurts to think that the things a guy said to you, he will easily say to someone new as well.

  2. OregonWino profile image70
    OregonWinoposted 8 years ago

    I think that unless the ex is a REALLY good friend AND you ahev ahd time to be over them, that you should not be talkign to them anyways.

    If you still have feelings, which it sounds like you might since them meeting someone else is the cause of the question, then you need your space anyways!  smile

  3. stricktlydating profile image81
    stricktlydatingposted 8 years ago

    Good for you! Even though you said it's due to feeling (naturally) a little hurt, I think it's a sign of respect to the new partner that you stop talking to your ex when he becomes involved with someone else.  Also by doing this it shows you're not prepared to "share" any kind of relationship with them while they're seeing someone else! I think it would be more 'wrong' to stay involved with them.

  4. 1woman profile image56
    1womanposted 8 years ago

    It's only wrong if you were hoping he would eventually become something more than an ex again. Be true to yourself and your feelings, but be mature about it, too.  When he asks what's going on tell him simply you thought the two of you might work it out, but now that he's found someone else, it's time you moved on as well.

  5. ___RaeRae profile image58
    ___RaeRaeposted 7 years ago

    hay girl it isnt wrong to stop talking to him if your heart is telling you to stop. i broke up with my ex a few months ago at the time he was talking with other girls. as much as it pained me i knew there will be a brighter day. so you do what you feel is right your a beautifull girl and you have alot more potential then your ex has xx

  6. profile image48
    rakeithaposted 7 years ago

    Yep, he has moved on, and you should do the same.  You're still young and you're going to fall in and out of 'love' until you get it right.  Live your life as if this was your last day on earth and have some fun in life.

  7. jaysjots profile image56
    jaysjotsposted 7 years ago

    It's not necessarily wrong, its just a normal reaction.
    If you're still good friends with you ex, why cut the contact just because he likes someone?
    I know alot of girls cant understand why a boy will be all over you and telling you that you are SO important, and then just turn around and say it to another chick. The answer... no idea.
    Its really just that feelings come and go I guess. If you feel you cant let go of him, definitely take alittle bit of a break from talking and let him come to you, but otherwise, just keep some friendly communication : )

  8. NYKitten82 profile image61
    NYKitten82posted 7 years ago

    I understand how you feel. It can be a hurtful feeling when your ex can move on and be with someone else. But ask yourself, you were able to be without and perhaps find someone else. Do they not deserve the same thing?

    It's a feeling of control that you have lost. I would think that you broke up with him. You had the control and you being the breaker and he I am sure had feelings for sometime. You had a powerful feeling if you were the only one he could care for....This is not true.

    There will be a female that he will finally be able to be himself around. Don't sit there and remove him completely. You may need to take time to disconnect for awhile so you can get your emotions in check...which can be vey normal. But if you stil think about him and want to keep contact with him, then do it.

    If you are the person who needs to just no longer talk to your ex to get rid of them completely then go ahead. I have ex's I will NEVER speak to again, then again I have a few I still speak too. Because they are a good person and I want them to be happy...but I did need to remove myself from them for awhile to get over the fact  they have someone new.

  9. Just-real profile image61
    Just-realposted 4 years ago

    Mad as this response might sound- on the flip side of the coin- I stop talking  so frequently with my ex -only if I like his new girlfriend -& purely out of respect for him/ her & their potential future- if on the other hand I don't like her & I'm truly hoping I will as I want him to be happy- then I talk & spend as much time with him as either of us might like which I must admit is ve-reeeey disrespectful to her & ( oops...very gratifying for me lol!
    That said--fully secure in myself - with no axe to grind, normally I'd be the first to be mindful of the other females potential insecurities feelings  over our continued association but given I'm a matching personna chances are if I don't like her she would have bought it on herself & thus I'd quite unashamedly let her deal with the fact that my ex still wishes to keep me in his life..Hmm... ;personally not sure if shoe was on other foot .. I'd be cool with my man's ex- being so tight with him still...

  10. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    I don't believe it's necessarily "wrong" however it does indicate on some level you did not truly view him as "platonic friend". If they were just a "friend" then you'd be happy for them and the friendship would continue.
    However if you were just staying in contact so that you had them as a possible "option" to get back with or simply enjoyed the thought of having someone you believed (secretly desired) you and you could have them with the snap of your fingers......etc The sudden news of them finding a new love would be a blow to your ego!
    Having said that there is a good chance that his (new love) may not want him to be friends with his ex. Eventually he may have dumped you! Given an ultimatum to drop an ex who is a "platonic friend" or the love of your life, most people are going to let that ex friendship go.