How Do you start talking to someone you find attractive, but dont know?
Ok so i've always wondered what techinques others use to get that hot guy/girl that they've been eyeing for a while.
Really, all it takes is a friendly "Hello". Followed by a casual question... Then flirt away! Smile, act interested in what the other person's saying.
If you're really feeling flirty "Hello sexy, nice to see you hear again!".
If the other person is interested they will also try and continue the conversation with you.
Its really a simple process, tell that person you like what you see and you would like to get to know what you looking at. Be your self. Converste, listen, observe and evaluate. You know you, so find out if that person fits who you are. This is coming from a man so take heed. You are a beautiful women, and my imagination tells me you have a wonderful body so match that with a pretty smile, charming personality, and great conversation. Just make sure you ask the right questions, What are you looking for from this person, what are they loking for from you. its has to be a physical attraction cause that is how love develops, thru the flesh, its true. but if its only a physical thing than let be known. See what type of attraction this person has for you. and go from there.
My advice to you is treat them as a person first before you let them know how attractive you find them. Don't lose your confidence. Don't apologize for the way you look. Just flash that smile you have in your avatar picture and find something you two have in common to talk about. If that goes well, you can look them in the eyes, find an excuse to touch them, all that stuff you already know.
Everything listed above works perfectly. I would add another wrinkle to them though: a good wingman/wingchick. It works.
Well...this can go plenty ways. I never have been able to tell a guy flat out that I am crushing or feeling them (I have superfluous pride). So I schemed ways to get what I needed from a guy without saying those magic words...thus keeping my pride and praise!
For me, here on campus I see A LOT of sexiii guys that I may or may not want to say something to. Howwwwwever, the latest attractive guy that I saw was walking by me and I said:
"Hey Sexy!"
Now this may be a little stupid or infantile due to age acceptance stuff but at 19 this helped me in plenty ways. He smiled in return and said "Hey to you too!". (May I add that his smile was longer than Bourbon Street and we were in the middle of campus where everyone hangs!!)That smile showed me that I can make that approach I wanted and he excepted this as well without thoughts of me being a, well you know..........a slut bucket. I'm not saying to go hollering at the next fine man but at least make some type of gesture or attention grasping method to show him that you are interested.
What did this solve, you may ask. Well it gave him the impression that I may have an *eye* for him, therefore accelerating anything that may come forward for us in the future....all because of a greeting.
I agree with a few others here. Be yourself and be friendly showing genuine interest in the person. I wouldn't gush too much at first showing all your cards. Makes you seem less of a challenge. Just show genuine interest in getting to know the person. The rest of that other stuff can come later.
Just relax and be yourself. Smile and make good eye contact, show interest in the other person and casually give them a flattering compliment on their eyes, hair, clothes etc.... but be sincere. This should get the ball rolling. Maybe before parting you could suggest or ask for another get together sometime, lunch, dinner, a movie or something you feel the other person would enjoy, something non threatening in a public setting that would give you both the opportunity to talk and get to know each other. Make it light and fun and for a bonus tip, let them know you like to hold hands and chances are they do to and if things go well, a good time will be had by all.
being with a friend really helps, hopefuly without intimidating the person
by FelineFrance 13 years ago
I am curious as to why it is wrong. I do agree that is there is much more to a relationship than looks. What if you are 5 ft 11 woman and do not feel comfortable dating a 5 ft 2 man? Why is it shallow? Isn't a waste of time going out with a guy who honestly do not find attractive?
by GDiBiase 11 years ago
What makes it easy to talk to someone?
by Georgina Shamon 10 years ago
Is it wrong to stop talking to an ex the minute you find out he has met someone new?Personally, the minute I find out that someone who once liked me ..is talking to someone else, then I just decide right then and there that I will no longer keep in contact with them. I guess it hurts to think that...
by Devika Primić 10 years ago
What did you find attractive about your spouse?The person you chose to marry must have then had something that made you pop the question what made you go that far?
by jagandelight 13 years ago
Does men 40 years old and up find women attractive when they have gray hair?
by missholguin 14 years ago
Is it wrong to have sex with your F*&@ buddy while you are talking to someone?So that you dont have sex with the guy that you are talk to.
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