Should I stay married to my uncaring husband or divorce him?

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    akoboat3posted 8 years ago

    Should I stay married to my uncaring husband or divorce him?

    We have been married for the past 6 years. We have 3 kids. We live in one of the countries in uae and we are 100 africans. My husband takes advice from friends all the time. If he has to do something for me, his friends had to give him advice on it. He will not give me money to send to my parents but he will hide and send money to his parents every month. He explains if he has to buy something for me. He always forget my birthdays and if I remember him, he will tell me his work is important than my birthday, but I try to do otherwise. He has a good job and his pay is good but dont know why.

  2. Anamika S profile image67
    Anamika Sposted 8 years ago

    If you should stay married or not is your own personal preference.
    From what you have said
    1) I don't think taking advice from friends is a bad thing as guys are very bad when it comes to buying gifts. May be that is his way of making sure he is doing the right thing for you.
    2) While he may be under obligation to send money for his own parents i don't think he is under any obligation to send money to your parents. You need to find a way to earn money so that you do not depend on him for money to be send to your parents.
    3) Men are bad with dates. You can remind him by giving him hints. Also you need to understand that if you are not working he has the responsibility to run the family so he may not want to create problems at his work by behaving irresponsibily.

    Have an open talk with him and try to understand the reasons why he is behaving that way with you. You need to communicate, weigh your pros and cons and then decide what you want to do.
    http://hubpages.com/hub/Divorse-unhappy … ge-reasons

  3. evansex profile image52
    evansexposted 8 years ago

    that is a question you need to ask yourself only, because no matter what answer someone on here gives you it is all up to YOU.

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    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    unless you have no respect for yourself, or feel like you are not deserving of anything better..stay.    If you want what is best for you and KNOW that you deserve it.  Leave his dumb ass!

  5. tinmoelintun profile image52
    tinmoelintunposted 8 years ago

    His friend influences on him more than you is not good. Why don't you approach to his friend to tell all those? And then his friend can give any advice for him and you. Hope he (his friend) is a good guy and he wants to see both of you happily living together.

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    Always Greenerposted 8 years ago

    Maybe it's time for a pros and cons list, to weigh up whether to stay with him or divorce him.  Whichever list is longer will tell you what to do.

  7. CMCastro profile image77
    CMCastroposted 8 years ago

    I know what your talking about. Living with someone who does not love you can be very trying to the emotions. Eventually it will effect your behavior and the way to communicate with him. It is hard not to be judgemental. If you continue a relationship with someone who has poor communication with you, then other forms of distress will occur. It is not healthy to live with someone without love especially in the household with children. Search your heart, ask God for wisdom, and attempt to discuss matters with him, unless he gets violent in temper.Its really time to leave if violence in temper exists. May the best work out for you.

  8. mjhmorris profile image55
    mjhmorrisposted 7 years ago

    First of all you have 3 children and so does he. He is responsible for there welfare... this is the Law most every where .../if you go to work  . who will care for your Family???  Would you have to pay a sitter??  If you can reason with him let him know now that your entitled to a portion of his earnings after your bills are paid, If he has enough funds left you can split the difference. I would advise him that if you have to work outside the home he has to pay for child care. or else if you split over this it will leave him with very little.  Stop letting him know it bothers you that he forgets your Birthday. and ignore his. He will wonder why. Be more sure of your self and keep up your appearance. also get to know his Friends  invite them to your Home. since there controlling your Marriage they should be available for you to question.and it is my guess they will be loss for words/   I  would not let this continue. Some times you think you have no recourse but you do be calm, no tears, but assert your-self he is not your Lord.

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    Alice22333posted 2 years ago

    It clearly sounds like you've put a lot of thought into the possibility of a divorce. And like a previous commenter said, it's ok to listen to advice from friends, as long as it doesn't dictate his life. And for you, I think that as long as your decision isn't a rash one, I don't see why not. Make sure you know what you're getting into though, to make sure its a fair divorce.  Get educated about divorce before you jump into it. I'm also in the process of getting a divorce. Haven't used it before, but it looks pretty good. If you use it, let me know how it goes! https://thistoo.co/

 
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