Is it true that you can tell what your new wife will be like by checking out her

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   Pearldiverposted 14 years ago

   Is it true that you can tell what your new wife will be like by checking out her mother?

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   selrachposted 14 years ago

   After 34 years of marriage I can tell the answer is yes.

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   wychicposted 14 years ago

   I think if my husband believed that we wouldn't be married. That said, there are certainly a lot of personality traits and characteristics that mothers and daughters have in common. I think a lot has to do with what kind of relationship the mother and daughter have had, how much time they've spent together, what kind of relationship the daughter has had with her father and other authority figures in her life, etc. in determining to what degree mother and daughter are alike.

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   Anolindeposted 14 years ago

   There is a Thai saying that goes (translated) "For elephants, check the tail; For women, check their mothers", so I guess this belief is true in at least some other culture around the world.
   
   I think it is partially true to a certain extent.  I wasn't very close to my mother and she wasn't a very good mother.  She was an alcoholic and pretty abusive and my parents divorced when I was 13.  I chose to stay with my dad (of course) and haven't seen her or talked to her since.  Knowing that, I am happy to say I am not too much like her!   I am a very good mommy to my daughter and a pretty decent wife, I would say   HOWEVER, there are some traits that I suppose I inherited from my mother like the tendency to get hysterical when really angry, but I've gotten much better as I age and especially since I got pregnant.
   
   So, long answer short, what wychic said   But in the end, it's you who have control over what kind of person you choose to become, I think.

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   MickSposted 14 years ago

   I don't like stereotyping; but, I often find myself telling my wife she is just like her mother.

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   dracaslairposted 14 years ago

   well my mother trained me to be submissive and devoted to a husband.well that got out of hand i got abused as some women in my family.yes!!men need to check out family background,personal backgrond as well as anything.if your getting married check things out.i wished i did.

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   Jarnposted 14 years ago

   The answer is an unequivocal, loud, and forthright "YES!" So suitor beware.

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   Wayne Brownposted 14 years ago

   Maybe not in totality but you will sure get a good indication especially if you now see similar aspects in their personalities.  I think this is true more so in terms of emotion, personality, and actions as opposed to just the physical side of the discussion. Choose carefully! WB

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   ladyjojoposted 14 years ago

   My dear everyone has different personalities, even if she has some of her mother's ways all will not be the same. That is MYTH about finding out how your mother-in-law is to know your wife. If you go that way you'd never find out. Why don't you query more about her personality, characteristics ,likes and dislikes that will be better ask her, she's the best person. Also you said your new wife, if you are already married it's to late now to find out, should have been done during courtship.

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