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Why most boys always look for physical appearance, not in attitude?

  1. Josie Cleoford profile image58
    Josie Cleofordposted 6 years ago

    Why most boys always look for physical appearance, not in attitude?

    Physical Or Attitude?

  2. CBM1987 profile image67
    CBM1987posted 6 years ago

    Honestly attraction is always the first step , its hard for me to picture myself making a life or spending my life with a girl I am not attracted to at the least bit.

    Not because I'm shallow, but because could I hold her at night? Could I wake up to this girl and kiss her goodmorning? Will I really want to make love to her or even get intimate at all?

    I think the biggest thing really comes down to this... Appearance doesnt mean everything , but a man or woman needs that physical attraction to fullfill a segment of the relationship they want with the opposite sex.

    I could ask you... why do girls go after physical appearances with a guy? I.E. Scrawny vs Buff ... Fat vs Fit.. we all choose our partners... but honestly if im going to be having a life with someone i'd love to have that life with a female im not only attracted too but just amazes me when im around her... Amazes me the way she thinks talks acts walks... you name it.

    And if your selfconcious and thats why your asking this question... ill be honest I think your pretty from the pic you got as your avatar. You have nothing to worry about

  3. epigramman profile image68
    epigrammanposted 6 years ago

    ...welll I'm an older boy, but still a boy, lol, and most definitely attitude and sex appeal is intangible behind the tangible, naturally ..... lake erie time ontario canada 5:35am just got off work/night shift and listening to the Sex Pistols, Ben Webster and the McGarriggle Sisters ......

  4. ajayshah2005 profile image55
    ajayshah2005posted 6 years ago

    Physical appearance can be seen very easily. Sometimes, our eyes stop on physical things unknowingly. Physical thing takes very less time to be noticed but to know someone's attitude, it takes time.This theory is applicable to both boys and girls.
    I think, though your complain about the boys is somehow correct at some extent, but for longer or stable relationship, attitude is more important than the physical appearance.

  5. Josie Cleoford profile image58
    Josie Cleofordposted 6 years ago

    Well you have a point @CBM1987 and I definitely agree with that. What if you know that the lovely women has a bad traits, would you still accept her?

  6. brandasaur profile image60
    brandasaurposted 6 years ago

    Most of them looks after the personality after being attracted to physical appearances. Moreover, girls like us are mushy, romantic and emotional unlike boys, so we are the ones who always expect for Mr right in our every boyfriend prospect.

  7. Allen Williams profile image84
    Allen Williamsposted 6 years ago

    Your question has the answer within it.  You made the distinction that they are boys.  Boys will be more attracted to good looks, a hot body, and a girl that is more promiscuous.  The simple fact is that they are still maturing and the hormones are raging, so no matter if you believe it is right or wrong doesn't matter, it is a stage of growing up. 

    Once those boys start to mature into men they will be more attracted to the person, her personality, attitude etc., and what she has to offer intellectually.  Not only that but as they mature and start to see a woman for who she is inside as a person, the looks or body style become less significant.

    The same thing can be said about girls vs women.  Why do girls only want the super jocks in high school, or the bad boys?  Once they start maturing into women, they seek out a man that has more to offer than just a cool car or being a superstar on the field.

    So to sum it up, I believe it is just a stage of growing up.

  8. wedmed profile image59
    wedmedposted 6 years ago

    this is mother nature. boys are not blind. besides, all our society is based on the belief that a girl should be pretty...

  9. engelfantasydream profile image59
    engelfantasydreamposted 6 years ago

    guys are visual and superficial..while we women are more into the so called emotional thing,intangible thing..like the attitude or personality thing..do looks is very important in making a first impression..but first impression don't always last...you can be attracted to a person but not necessarily that you want to be with him..you are not attracted to the person but you wanted to be with him..cos u find something so special to that person..looks play a vital role in attraction thing specially on a physical kind of relationship..but personality is valuable in a deeper kind of relationship "emotional "relationship in the long run..well as long as the person is hygienic that's says a lot to the person..rather than attractive but dirty ,don't even take a bath omg lol hahahah..smile

  10. juiwei2000 profile image61
    juiwei2000posted 6 years ago

    When it comes to relationship, guys and girls work on very different wave length.  Most research suggest, that for girls, relatioship is more as an emotional thing, where for man, it is more as a practical thing.  And this is biological, not psychological, so it applies to both gay and straight people, a genetically coded personality. 

    As a result, when it come to determine whether a guy would date a girl, girls become more like the goods/product within the transaction (Sorry, to be so bold, but that is the fact, for guys, when it comes to dating, girls are weighted very much as an object, in determine whether the guy want to get involve with her, sorry.), it is mostly to do with the ide of "by getting into this relationship, what do I get in return."  Quiet frequently, good looking, is something that a guy want within the girl they are involve with (At least good looking when they were younger.)  But the idea for physical appearance to be the only thing a guy care about is also not true, for example, if the girl is somebody that would sleep with all your friends, most guys will consider her as damage goods for marriage and as a resul, the chances are you won't want to get married to her, at most you want to sleep with her, only.  And because, sooner or later, all girls will get old and ugly, in serious relationship, they do consider other attribute, which they believe my be good for them too e.g. is she good to your mother, does she love you, is she good to you, will she be a good mother, is she a gold digger, will she spend your money on expensive shoes and while man of older generation do not want to, most men these days, perfer a girl who have a decent job, this way the family can have two paychecks coming in or the couple can therefore keep the money seperate and only use their own.