If your significant other lies to you for no reason, doesn't that mean he/she is

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   Tranitaposted 14 years ago

   If your significant other lies to you for no reason, doesn't that mean he/she is hiding something?
   
   You ask for the blank truth and they lie and say they lied because they wanted to prevent what happen the first time(the real conflict).... But they lied the first time and this time is just like the first time, which is only the point that you're mad because they lied instead of just telling the truth. Then they wonder why you have trust issues. smh. Hope that wasn't too crazy the way I explained it.

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   wychicposted 14 years ago

   Personally, if someone lies about something that may be insignificant I wouldn't necessarily think they're hiding something...but I would wonder what else they've been lying to me about. Lies of any caliber are still lies, for whatever reason they were told, and if a significant other doesn't see a problem with telling them or thinks it's better than the truth for whatever reason, it would make me nervous simply that they even consider intentionally lying as an option.

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   humagaiaposted 14 years ago

   Perhaps they believe you cannot handle the truth. Without context this question cannot be answered. What was the issue that was lied about?
   Does my bum look big in these trousers?
   or
   Did you have sex with your secretary?
   Telling untruths in these two situations are indicative of different levels of untruths within a relationship.
   If you don't want lies don't ask the question.
   If you are not married then beware - you are treading on glass here. But then again why should being married make a difference. Keep on asking the questions and eventually the significant other will decide to answer the question truthfully and you may not like what you hear. I wonder if you want to keep the relationship going - if you ask questions that get you lies as answers then what is your motive for asking the question in the first place?

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   ptosisposted 14 years ago

   I don't have enough information to tell whether the guy is a pathological liar -
   http://hubpages.com/1528ac
   or a sociopath
   http://hubpages.com/t/14c4d5

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   Tranitaposted 14 years ago

   No lie is justified in my mind. I ask for the truth because I can handle it and it's better than finding out later. It's worse for him if I find out later no matter what the situation is. I shouldn't have to ask for the truth over and over. It could be the fact that he cant handle what will come from the truth. It's settled now though.

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   Absent Friendposted 14 years ago

   Are you with the right 'significant other', is s/he ready for a significant relationship, are you?  That is are your questions derived from some kind of feeling inferior, s/he may be party to this but it often has roots in upbringing.
   A complex question to answer properly in vague terms.  I hope it gave genuine food for thought, which your question did for me, hence above.

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   RevLadyposted 14 years ago

   To my mind, the issue is not whether he is hiding something or not, but the fact of lying.
   
   Sharing A Thought:
   
   Trust is the basis of all human relationships and a necessary ingredient for stable interpersonal relationships of any kind. When trust is absent or unstable, deep and hidden animosities that may develop; respect is lost and your relationship is compromised. Lying and trust cannot co-exist in mutually satisfying relationships.
   
   Hope this helps!
   
   http://aiel.amen4me.com/grcourse.htm

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   reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

   yes.......and it also means they do not respect you.  Repetitive behavior says so much.  Selfishness, inconsideration and immaturity is written all over that.  I see nothing wrong with people who behave like this, I just don't believe they should have good people in their lives that have to suffer because they choose to act this way.  It is fair that they have people just like themselves because somehow they will condone each others dysfunctions.  More than likely they have a unique understanding as to why they do the things that they do.  With people like themselves in their lives they are never happy.  But having someone that does not behave like them not only makes them happy but they feel that they have all right to disrespect them.
   
   vonda g. nelson

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   Christopher Priceposted 14 years ago

   When lies come easy, trust comes hard.
   It doesn't take many lies before there is no trust at all.
   If you can't trust your partner it's up to you to decide if you can a maintain a relationship based on lies.

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    cherrycrime26posted 13 years ago

    Yes, when people lie they are def hiding something, I wouldnt trust him, maybe you should confront him about his lies, of course he will become angered but you will feel better getting the truth out, if it comes out.

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    Man from Modestoposted 13 years ago

    It can mean that.
    
    It can also mean they are ashamed of something. More rarely, it can be a surprise. I have seen men hide money from their (over shopping) wives in order to surprise her with a vacation or a special gift.
    
    But, pray and ask God to reveal the truth to you.
    
    It is also important to ask God why you have found such a man. Personally, I had to address my own inner pain, and go to the Father for important healing before I could become a man worthy enough for God to give to a good woman, and her to me.
    
    A marriage is very, very important. Even a casual friendship can impact our life. We must pray about relationships, especially marriage. Casual sex partners are not good practice.
    
    Please consider seeking God and building the Temple (you & God) before seeking the riches of life. (Nahum).
    
    Peace, MFM

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