When you realized you were in love, true love, how did it come about or how did
When you realized you were in love, true love, how did it come about or how did you know for sure?
Was it love at first sight? Was it slowly realized over time through a friendship that developed into love? Was it an overwhelming feeling in your heart that you just could not explain that you have never felt with anyone else? Did your heart beat faster when you were around the one? Were you just goo-goo eyed over the person ...? In other words, how did you know it was true love and not just a crush? What were your physical symptoms, if any? Did you ever believe you were in love, true love, until one day you met someone else and then felt something you never felt before? Thanks!
Excellent question indeed, I have contemplated this significantly about my "Aine True Love." I contend it was an overwhelming feeling in our association-based brain although more commonly referred to as our "heart" that could not be explained that was unique or more significant than ever before. It did indeed manifest physically, most commonly exemplified by increased heart rate at times. A state of anxiousness would set in when we were near or in communication with each other.
I am a psychologist, thus one could argue through a psychologist-lens it was a mutual compulsion for each other. This brain-association brought euphoria to both of us and drove us to plan our lives together as much as possible. I must also mention we brought no "baggage" to this relationship. Neither of us had broken-off with significant others prior to our meeting. We had both dated; however, we were not involved in a long drawn-out relation...
I met Kate when she was 16 and I was 17 while on a 2 week vacation and by the time I arrived back home I was convinced about how unique the bond was between us. We had both dated others before; indeed, this relationship was on a higher plain then others.
I must confess, that although we were infatuated with each other; after I returned to my country I encouraged her to date others and I continued to date others to be able to compare and contrast our experience to other relationships. This simply reinforced about how unique, significant and euphoric our relationship was for both of us and convinced us to make plans to become one...It was slowly realized over time through dating/romantic courtship and NOT friendship. I've never been in a situation where I was only interested in a platonic friendship and things went from the "friend zone" to love. All of my serious relationships began with attraction.
The older and more experienced we become in relationships the better we know ourselves. Most people experience their first heartbreak in their teens or early 20s. Much of that was "infatuation" and "romantic projection". Raging hormones and the desire to be seen as adults also contributed to having unrealistic expectations.
Falling in love a second or third time is not so much about experiencing a "feeling" (you've never had before) but rather "recognizing a feeling you've had" in the past along with having a better insight into yourself with the wisdom you've gained.
During your youth you allowed "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate your relationship choices. You more or less simply "went with the flow". With relationship experience over time we develop a sort of "mate selection" process where we choose to engage with others from a point of awareness based upon the traits they display and knowing what it is we are (looking for) in a mate.
We also learn to look out for "red flags"!
Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart. One man's opinion!
Faith, my story is so unique that I will have to send you an email about it.
I'll just say that the first time I saw David Tartanian, I could feel the attraction. Immediately. I could probably write a book about it.
NOBODY can believe we are together. And I love him just as much today as I ever did. 40 years of marriage.
In the meantime I will try to answer a couple of your questions:
Yes, it WAS an overwhelming feeling in my heart that I had never felt with anyone else.
Yes, I was goo-goo eyed.
As time passed, I remember writing a letter to God, "God, I am madly in love with David Tartanian." I knew it was not a crush.
The love I had for Dave was something I had not felt before.
I cannot begin to describe the physical feelings, I cannot put it into words. I only remember that when we started dating, I could think of nothing else all day. I longed for it to be the time he would be picking me up.
When we ate at a restaurant, we would sit in a booth...both on the same side.
In the car I sat next to him. Seat belts were not a law then.
We held hands every minute.
When I was with him, the weather did not matter.
Pouring rain? Gloom? No problem, I was with the man I loved. He was my total world, I loved him that much.
Two years ago when I was so sick in the hospital, I remember my husband walking into the room and I looked at him as he laid his coat down. My heart spoke, but I couldn't in my weakness...it said, "I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!"
As I lay in bed and he sat next to me, Thanksgiving day,-holding my hand - (I could not eat as I had a nasal gastric tube in my stomach), I asked him, 'honey, what do you want for Christmas?' Tears streamed down his face and he replied, "All I want for Christmas is for you to get well."
And I did. And here we are.
Blessings, Sparklea Great question- AC-DCposted 9 years ago
0 The moment I met him, there was an attraction/connection. We're the perfect example of how opposites attract, there was just something about him that was different from any other guy that I've met but I couldn't explain it, at first I used infatuation as a justification for my feelings.
I didn't even think about the subject of love until one day my old boss and I were having a conversation about the people we were seeing. My boss had asked me if I loved him, and that's the first time I've been left speechless, I told him we hadn't said it to each other yet, but at that very moment I realized that I did love him, my heart and bran finally clicked with one another.
This is a love that I've never experienced before, it's unique, special and I am very fortunate to have experienced it. It's truly one of a kind because this type of love and connection really doesn't come around everyday. And as corny as this sounds, I never really believed in soul mates until I met him. I actually believe that we are meant to be together and I only hope and pray that this lasts forever.
Side Note: It's quite amusing actually, maybe 6-7 years ago while I was in a committed relationship with another man, my coworker randomly asked me to physically describe the perfect man that I'd want to be with if I had a choice. I actually went into detail describing the hair, eyes, height, race, speech, everything. It didn't hit me till later, but I realized that the love of my life matched all those qualities described, a bit freaky how that happened!
Thanks for asking this question and allowing me to share my love experience with you all!
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