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if youre giving a relationship your allwhy isnt he

  1. lakamdra profile image54
    lakamdraposted 7 years ago

    if youre giving a relationship your allwhy isnt he

  2. M.s Fowler profile image39
    M.s Fowlerposted 7 years ago

    He may not be ready for a relationship and he doesn't know how to go about to help it out!

  3. urs_dipak profile image58
    urs_dipakposted 7 years ago

    A person devoted all thing for a realtionship for love, might be the person you r talking is not in such love with you.

  4. MickS profile image72
    MickSposted 7 years ago

    how do you know he isn't giving his all, people don't live in each others pockets, there's a big world out there, other things to do, that doesn't mean one partner loves the other less for doing other things.
    Bob Dylan probably said it best, a little snippet:
    You say you're looking for someone who will promise never to part
    Someone to close his eyes for you, someone to close his heart
    Someone who will die for you and more
    But it ain't me, Babe,
    No, no, no, it ain't me, Babe,
    It ain't me you're looking for, Babe.

  5. wychic profile image88
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    What would "giving his all" look like to you? Now, if you turned around and asked him what you giving your all would look like to him, what do you think he'd say? What would he say if someone asked what you want from him in the relationship? He can't read minds, and it's very likely that to him he is giving his all, just like you are, even though he may not see it in you. No one is perfect, and everyone understands and expresses love a little bit differently. If you don't know what he considers an expression of love, you won't catch it when it comes by unless it fits your definition of an expression of love. That said, too, giving someone's all doesn't mean completely losing themselves within a relationship, and if he's expected to relinquish his individuality and control of his life then he's not at all likely to do it, and is pretty likely to be resentful and push back if he feels like that's what's expected of him. Try focusing on the positive things, talking to him honestly about things that bother you and both of you can discuss why it bothers you, and look for the ways he does put effort into the relationship as a way of identifying what he considers an expression of love. Maybe he feels that bringing home a paycheck or putting away the dishes is an expression of love, whereas you feel that spontaneous gifts and romantic evenings of cuddling are that expression.

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    jasper420posted 7 years ago

    men see things differnt than women do he may acully be giving it his all and were just not seeing it