what can i do to avoid this heartache?

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  1. May27 profile image59
    May27posted 8 years ago

    what can i do to avoid this heartache?

    i have this ex boyfriend of mine and i still love him. i broke up with him for almost about 4 years ago because he's going somewhere far far away from me..im here in the phil. and he's in italy now, i regret it because he loved me but now i want him back but he's now with another girl and he got her pregnant.. i feel so bad.. what can i do to lessen this heartache? i feel so sad..

  2. internett1t3 profile image60
    internett1t3posted 8 years ago

    You know life is a matter of choice. And we must remember that God takes away when he has something better to give. About how to lessen your heartache? Learn to accept things that you are not meant to be. You are beautiful and young you can find someone else just open your heart.

  3. blondey profile image79
    blondeyposted 8 years ago

    Hi May, sorry to hear that. This is a tough one. I would say, since he's basically out of the picture now....you will have to get over him for good. So try and use some coping skills, like tell your friends and family and get as much support as you need and can. Asking here was a good move.
    Try and put yourself into your studies or work or whatever you enjoy--stay busy as possible, let yourself cry, as much as you need, writing poetry helps alot even if you aren't good at it--it lets the feelings in your heart come out and be released.  Other wise write your feelings in a journal.
    Try and use these coping skills.....you should eventually feel better and tell yourself he's with another girl now.....most likely they will be together and most likely you will want to move on and so forth. If you think he will go for you....well, you should ask him for real. Then maybe you'll have closure and can move on! Take care!

  4. profile image56
    SpaceAgeposted 8 years ago

    I'd move on. In time u'll 4-get all about him. He may not b worth dwelling on. U'll find some 1 far better. Healing happens w/ time; God can heal ur heart now. Let Him lead u 2 the right 1.

  5. sofs profile image89
    sofsposted 8 years ago

    May ,

    You made your decision and he has made his.. looks like you missed a point here..

    Four years is along time...

    Are you sure you love him?

    Where was your heart ache for four years?

    why didn't  you care enough to change your decision... earlier than this.. 

    May be now  you just want to have him back because he has found another....

    I am not passing  judgments... I  invite you to think..

    Think about your motives and release yourself from the past

    Now he is going to have a baby  would you want to upset things  for everyone..  will you be happy??

    Thinking through your problems will help you make the right decision.. do not act on impulse..

    My best wishes to you!!

  6. onegoodwoman profile image72
    onegoodwomanposted 8 years ago

    Woman, wake up........even your first sentence is misleading.........either you "have" or you "had".......

    Make up your mind, is he "now" or is he "past".........

    WE all have memories.


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