WHY are new comming LGBT so afraid to come otu of the closet? Also and why does

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  1. LOVE09 profile image58
    LOVE09posted 8 years ago

    WHY are new comming LGBT so afraid to come otu of the closet? Also and why does the public judge us?

    I mean i can answer my own question but i just another point of veiw.


  2. poonamhubshere profile image59
    poonamhubshereposted 8 years ago

    Hi Love09,

    I'm gonna give you my take on this very valid question.

    People are coming out younger and younger. So they are more unsure of themselves. That is reason number one.

    Reason number two is that the public is still this vague and anonymous thing that basically puts homosexuality at the margins in not out side the borders of acceptability.

    Then of course there is this, that for every one who comes out there is a unique story. As an Indian lesbian believe me my coming out was a cake walk. Many people assume that its harder in Asian communities.

    I say its the unique characteristics of the story. I came out to my friends before my family.

    The fifth thing I'd like to say (I hope you are keeping count) is what I told my sister when she worried over my life being hard and society not accepting me. I said: "I don't need acceptance from society as much as I need it from you."

    Saying all this I'll conclude by saying it really is getting much better since the card catalogue days in my high school library looking up sexual deviance.

  3. calpol25 profile image64
    calpol25posted 8 years ago

    I agree with poonamhubshere, as a gay man it was very difficult for me to come out, however once i did I was fine, but many people trying to comeout also have issues with Denial, acceptance of them selves and other peoples opinions and some times they are not sure of themselves.

    The public will always have issues with us because in certain parts of society they are afraid of change, or have not seen the LGBT culture before as it was closed for years, because of danger and imprisonment. It is not there fault, you understand, it was how things were and therefore they are not used to it.

    However slowly we are making progress in bringing total acceptance but it is a very slow process but its getting better thats the main thing.

  4. johnnymission profile image59
    johnnymissionposted 8 years ago

    It's a big risk to disclose information like that about yourself to others, so its natural to experience some feelings of anxiety. And its also not like we are raised with "coming out" as a universal experience, so they don't cover it in sex ed during high school.

    The public judges us because many of them have read a certain book and they have misinterpreted the book to mean that as long as they sleep with members of the opposite sex, they have a right to say how others live.

  5. xethonxq profile image68
    xethonxqposted 7 years ago

    I think it's because we feel insecure about the possibility/probability of others, specifically our loved ones, judging or rejecting us. Society tends to judge us because heterosexuality is what we were all taught was right...normal....expected and when people deviate from the norm it throws societal beliefs for a loop. People's reactions when their core values are shocked tend to be judgmental. Anyway...that's my two cents worth.

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    kathyann0026tsposted 7 years ago

    I came out when I was very young, and I paid a very big price for that disclouser. I was 6 years old when I realized finally that I was born in the wrong body. With my one and only sister who is older than me, I tried to tell her how it was with me. She let me dress in her clothing & dressing this way made me feel much better. It was another year before we told our mother. Since I was 7, I dressed as a girl full time. The first day back to school after summer vacation, this time dressed as a girl. I paid a terrible price for wanting to be what I was denied at birth.

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    Christafayeposted 15 months ago

    I want to come out i am a crossdresser and i fill like i was born in the wrong body i want hormones to become female and yes i have been with males just oral but i want to go all the way and see if i like it better than sex with a female but i love wearing female clothing and i would love to be out as transgender


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