Why do men lie?

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  1. feeweewv profile image59
    feeweewvposted 9 years ago

    Why do men lie?

    Why does a man tell you he is interested when he is not, Why does a man make promises he has no intentions of keeping, Why can't men confront these issues after the fact with the female they have betr

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    mdawson17posted 9 years ago

    I am a man and I can say that allot of times it is pride that us men do not want to speak the truth!Also most of the time men are frientened to face the fears of what they have done wrong! They are afraid it will only belittle them and make them inferior to the opposite gender! Are all men this way no!! But allot are!!

  3. ShortSalesMVP profile image59
    ShortSalesMVPposted 9 years ago

    Well lol that's both gender both men and women lies, I do believe that men lie most of the time due to pride, some of us find it hard to put our pride in our back pocket. see that's why I believe one should not make promises because we can't foresee the future, and love is more complicated then we think.

  4. Lucey Knight profile image79
    Lucey Knightposted 9 years ago

    Men like women alike lie often for various reasons.  People lie to preserve pride, they lie in an effort to help them get away with something, they lie because they can get away with it, they lie out of fear of the truth.  Some people make promises to gain a benefit for themselves.  Once they get what they want they feel it is ok to dismiss the promise previously made.  Sometimes they lie because they are weak.  It doesn't make it right or okay by any stretch of the means.....but it does happen.

  5. marisuewrites profile image55
    marisuewritesposted 9 years ago

    Well, obviously I'm not a man, and probably can't speak for one with legitmacy...

    However, experience has taught me that of the two species....male and female...I think females keep up their end of the lying habit.  I've known many who couldn't tell a boyfriend/spouse the truth if it sounded better.

    A  man probably lies for the same reason anyone does:  there's an expected pay off somewhere in their mind for the lie.  Either they think it's better to tell someone they're involved with what they want to hear, or they think the truth will hurt the one they are with, or it will hurt themselves. 

    Sometimes it's just a lazy habit.  There was a couple we had been friends with "forever" and the man told more lies than he could count.  If he was opening his mouth, he was lying somewhere in the sentence he spoke.  For him, I think it was a compulsion, a disorder; he always spoke in words what he wanted to have happened.  This lifetime habit caused him and his wife, and children much misery.  He had other redeeming qualities, and we could walk away when we got our gut full, but his family of course, could not.

    Encourage truth by being strong enough to handle what we may not want to hear.  Praise truth and model it in our own lives, and I think we'll see it more in those who mean so much to us.

    If not, walk away.  Habitual bad lies are harmful.

  6. Shil1978 profile image92
    Shil1978posted 9 years ago

    Know why men lie? Read on to know some reasons why men lie!! read more

  7. Amy M profile image53
    Amy Mposted 9 years ago

    I think in the beginning of relationships both genders misrepresent themselves for whatever reasons. Years ago I read a really good book, "Men Who Can't Love". It was very good and I only wish I had read it when I was younger and 2 marriages earlier.

  8. kmackey32 profile image68
    kmackey32posted 9 years ago

    They are scared they will upset you and think you wont find out the truth.

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    Hannah Whatleyposted 9 years ago

    A few months ago my response would've been "Because it's men we're talking about here.." but within the past few months I've done some more growing up and observing and I think that some men feel the need to lie because they think we can't handle their cold truths or because they're not that into us, they're just telling us what we want to hear to get us to "shut up". Hope I helped! Feel free to contact me!
    -h

  10. kmartel profile image54
    kmartelposted 9 years ago

     
    Most men I have known would rather tell a little white lie or stretch the truth instead of just coming plain out and saying what they really wanted to say!
     
    It is so difficult for them to tell the truth, especially when it comes to dating... read more

  11. Heym0mxtwo profile image49
    Heym0mxtwoposted 9 years ago

    Beacause if they tell us the truth we get mad at them. LOL

  12. Crawling Surface profile image60
    Crawling Surfaceposted 9 years ago

    A man tells you he's interested because he wants to get laid.

    That same man makes promises to get in the panties.

    Once you gave up da Punani there were no issues left to confront.

    Beat it!

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    urimiddenposted 9 years ago

    Well, regardless of what intrinsic formalities and propensities one may attempt to place upon either of the genders, the fact is that lying is sociological and is affected by the many common policies employed throughout society, either spoken or unspoken. If it is acceptable to select mates according to social status, economic status, purely physical attributes, etc...then humans will continue to seek inter-relations as a form of entertainment and pleasure. This form of sociological penchant will demand that deception be a common tool. As well, there are far too many women who will make snap judgements about men according to a plethora of cookey cutter, and many times illegitimate, parameters rather than actually take the time to get to know somebody and be friends for a logical portion of time before expecting to find mr or mrs rights. Really, people should give people a break, then there would be much less lying. Most women appear to be ridiculously intolerant.

    Unfortunately, much of the dating scene is rampant with exploits seeking one aim only, casual sex with as little consequences or accountability as possible. This is being engaged in by both genders and only adds fuel to the flame.

  14. lkeipp profile image56
    lkeippposted 9 years ago

    Why do women do the exact same things?  Maybe to keep from hurting the other person's feelings, maybe to keep from having to make a definite decision, maybe out of fear of committment.

    The point is, to try to pin it all on men is unfair, because women are just as duplicitous.

  15. mglamorgan profile image69
    mglamorganposted 8 years ago

    I like HeymOmxtwo answer. smile

    I would say that men lie because it is part of human nature, try to protect themselves...exactly the same reasons as women lie. smile

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    Dog On A Missionposted 8 years ago

    Some men behave like this because some women are foolish enough to take everything they say as the truth in the absence of any supporting evidence.

  17. dabeaner profile image54
    dabeanerposted 8 years ago

    Because women can't handle the truth.  And women have unrealistic expectations.

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    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    because they don't care dear.....call it like you see it, it's not that difficult to see.  A lot of men use women that make themselves readily available for whatever.  If most women were as shrewd to men maybe they would come together with their behavior

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    PIayboyposted 8 years ago

    Only one logical reason is because he wants to bang her and leave her...

  20. domaincomebuy profile image53
    domaincomebuyposted 8 years ago

    It can be due to many reasons. To make a woman happy, to protect his own self-esteem, to take advantage, don't want to disclose himself, to hide sth......

  21. CreativeOrange profile image69
    CreativeOrangeposted 8 years ago

    Men just want the milk without committing to buying it or milking it everyday.  Unfortunately, many males are so undeveloped and desensitized that they really do not consider the side effects of their actions. However, I have found that this is not just limited to men.  I have dated women that do the same and can be minipulative monster similar to the men you speak of.  I look at it as a learning process and test.  It takes time to heal from wounds of the heart.

  22. CheapInMadrid profile image58
    CheapInMadridposted 8 years ago

    Not all men lie,and if one is found lying it could be a good opportunity to find out why...

  23. bill yon profile image73
    bill yonposted 8 years ago

    Men tell lies tell you what you want to here because they are trying to put your legs up in the air.

  24. MickS profile image69
    MickSposted 8 years ago

    For all the same reasons women lie in this situation, this question is negatively gender specific and, therefore, sexist.

  25. mathslover profile image85
    mathsloverposted 8 years ago

    I think that men lie for the same reason anyone else lies, to keep from causing trouble, not thinking that by lying they are making more trouble. But there are some men that just tell women what ever they think they want to hear, just to get close to women.

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    ahorsebackposted 8 years ago

    I swear it's something in the air, but  you have to understand this first. When you  are  searching  for a relationship  while in a fit of desperation , you are dumbing yourself down  by wearing rose colored glasses . Both sexes begin by costume role playing , "Falling in love", ...... Untill fully involved , kind of like a structure fire,  and then it's too late , both begin to lie in order to cover the fact that thier not in this for the long haul...........looking for a way out......

  27. Asher Fallen profile image54
    Asher Fallenposted 7 years ago

    Because we hate being wrong.  We hate ourselves for failing, especially when we know we should succeed.  If we lie, for a moment, we have changed that fact and once we have lied, coming clean only further points out how terrible we truly are.

  28. gulnazahmad profile image59
    gulnazahmadposted 7 years ago

    I think that they lie more than women because women's are so emotional that they cannot bear the truth in their point of view
    but in reality they are very strong and are better able to cope any truth that is bitter in the first instance.........

  29. aheil profile image61
    aheilposted 7 years ago
  30. stanwshura profile image73
    stanwshuraposted 5 years ago

    SOME men lie for the same reasons SOME women lie:  to avoid accountability, for personal gain, fear, habit, et cetera.  It is a human frailty not specific to gender.

  31. DJ Beatty profile image60
    DJ Beattyposted 4 years ago

    Because they don't want to hurt you. They feel its better you don't kno beacuase the way you react?

 
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