It is absolutely ironic and somehow stupid. I'm 43, I've been married , had a c

  1. profile image46
    lalalrusposted 7 years ago

    It is absolutely ironic and somehow stupid. I'm 43,  I've been married , had a couple long term...

    relationships and had no idea that such thing as casual dating even exists. I'm Russian, and this is part of American life and culture was never introduced to me. So, five month ago I met a man. He is not my usual type but I decided to give it a try. Whatever we have was good, very good. At some point I started thinking why he is hiding me from his friends. So I just asked ,and I got answer "we are casually dating but relationship may happen between us" I'm just shocked. I was absolutely sure we are a couple. Why he didn't tell me that from the beginning? And what should I do now?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    If you are not happy you should stop seeing him.
    You have nothing to lose. After all you stated he wasn't your type to begin with. Apparently he also does not see you as being his type either.

    Awhile back I posted a hub titled "How do I avoid becoming a booty call?"
    The tricky part about being a "booty call" is one is lulled into feeling like they are in a "real relationship".

    It's only natural not to bring "everyone" you date around your close family, friends, and co-workers. However I would say if you have been seeing someone for over 3 months and you have not been introduced to anyone close to them then it's because they see you as being a "booty call".

    Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder so is a booty call.
    We really have very little say in how people view us.
    One man's "booty call" is another man's dream girl!
    You want to find a guy who shares the same vision as you!

  3. mdlawyer profile image38
    mdlawyerposted 7 years ago

    He has openly told you his stand.  If you are okay with that, you can proceed as it has been.  Or, you can stop.


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