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Why do men Cheat?

  1. mrs.mac profile image56
    mrs.macposted 7 years ago

    Why do men Cheat?

    I always wanted to know Why?

  2. LADYGIRL profile image61
    LADYGIRLposted 7 years ago

    Man cheat for several reason, it could be because they need something different in there life.  Or it could be because they need a sense of direction or they just don't know what they what.  You could be the perfect woman for him, he still will be searching inside. You don't have anything to do with his cheating.  However the question we have to ask ourself, will you stay or go?

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    FortunesTaleposted 7 years ago

    Plain and simple, we men are (most of us at least) stupid and fail to see the good things we already have in life.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    Both women and men cheat for the same reasons.
    Every situation/relationship is different just as every person is different. None the less the person cheating has a "need" of some kind. This is the motivation for all human behavior. We tend to do what we feel we need to do in order to feel good.
    Having said that (there are 3 basic types of cheaters.)
    Once again the reasons are the same for both women and men.

    1. The Incessant Cheater

    This individual has no intention of honoring any vow or promise they make. He or she is always looking for the next thrill or something "new".
    Their motto is "Variety is the spice of life."

    2. The Unbelievable Opportunity Cheater

    This person actually intended to be faithful and is not "looking " to betray their partner.
    They give into temptation when an "unbelievable opportunity" presents itself.

    An extremely attractive person who shows interest in them, a girl or guy they had a crush on in school comes to town and wants to "hang out" and last but not least a famous celebrity or politically powerful person offers what appears to be "A once in a lifetime opportunity" to have sex with someone of their stature
    Their motto is in line with Oscar Wilde's famous quote.
    "The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it"

    3. The Discontented Cheater

    This person believed they found their soul-mate and never dreamed they'd be considering cheating. Unlike The Incessant and The Unbelievable Opportunity Cheater, The Discontented Cheater feels as though his/her partner is forcing them to "seek other options" outside of their relationship. It's not a stretch for them to feel "justified" in seeking other ways to fill a need which is not being met. Depression often serves as motivation to take a risk.

    Octavio Paz said, "A flower without a stem, is beauty waiting to die. A heart without love, is a tear waiting to cry.

    I think the reason most people ask "Why?" is because they hope they can prevent something bad from happening to them or find a way to stop someone from doing harm to them. (Cheating)
    In reality the only people we can completely control are ourselves! You can't stop anyone from cheating who wants to.
    All you can do is look to become involved with people who place "HONESTY" at the top of their relationship acquirements.
    Keep the lines of communication open and never neglect or take your mate for granted. Thats all YOU can do. Your power comes from selecting the right people to be a part of your life not changing people into what you want them to be.

  5. Smaridge01 profile image77
    Smaridge01posted 7 years ago

    Because, in my experience, we think we would be happier with someone else. We don't realize that our happiness has nothing to do with who we are with, usually it has to do with internal emotional issues. But we want to make our happiness your job, so when we aren't happy, we start to think it might be your fault.  Then we go looking for someone else who might make us happy.

    It's an ugly and twisted problem, when someone is unhappy, man or woman, and they don't have the insight to realize that it is an internal, personal thing. So they spend time and energy trying to find external solutions, that never really work out.