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Why do men cheat ?

  1. Wunmi Olugbode profile image60
    Wunmi Olugbodeposted 20 months ago

    Why do men cheat ?

    Men ain't committing and being faithful to their partner.just wonder why.

  2. mike102771 profile image83
    mike102771posted 20 months ago

    Your question suggests (or inferred) that women don't cheat which is not true.  Having typed that I would have to type that everyone is different with different values and views so there really is no one reason other than the reason people steal. Because they think they can get away with it.

    I know a guy whose wife left him and her 5 kids (none of them his) for a trucker who then left her at a truck stop 5 states away. I knew a women who kept a second cell phone for booty-calls leaving her husband to take care of her ailing mother.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Excellent point! Anyone in the U.S. who has watched an episode of "Cheaters", "Paternity Court" or the Maury Povich Show AKA "You are NOT the father!" is aware that women cheat just like men.
      Even (lesbians) complain about having cheating mates!

    2. Wunmi Olugbode profile image60
      Wunmi Olugbodeposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Yes I agree but there are some men who care and love their women

    3. mike102771 profile image83
      mike102771posted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Yes(Committed > cheaters) It all comes  what he or she think cheating is. Some would say "just sex" with no relationship is not cheating while others see even basic friendship = cheating ( men and women can't be friends BS)

  3. FatFreddysCat profile image99
    FatFreddysCatposted 20 months ago

    (Ahem) I'm a dude, I have been in a committed relationship to one woman for twenty years, and I have never cheated, nor have I ever thought of cheating.

    Please don't paint all men with the same brush. Thank you.

    1. Kristie Glass profile image60
      Kristie Glassposted 15 months agoin reply to this

      I know all men don't cheat I know their are good men out there

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 20 months ago


    Neither gender is standing on "holy ground" when it comes to cheating. Even lesbians have cheating partners!
    The goal of most cheaters is to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side.
    Very few people cheat with the idea of replacing one relationship with another. They're essentially looking to "complement" what they have.
    Some people cheat in order to stay in or tolerate bad marriages rather than file for divorce and change their financial living standards.
    Most cheaters don't expect to get caught!
    Having said that I believe there are 3 basic types of cheaters.
    1. The Incessant Cheater
    He/she get bored very easily. They have probably never been faithful in any long-term relationship. They long for the excitement that comes with being with someone NEW. Their view of monogamy is the same as going on a very strict diet. It's not a matter of (if) but (when) they will cheat. Their motto is: "Variety is the spice of life!"
    2. The Unbelievable Opportunity Cheater
    This person is not "proactively" looking to cheat. They may have had a secret crush on someone or thought she/he was "hot". One day this person actually hits on them! or they make it known they're open to hooking up. This could occur on a business trip or some other outing where his/her mate isn't likely to find out. It's an opportunity to turn a fantasy into reality. This person is guilty of caving in to temptation.
    It's not unheard for this type of cheater to confess weeks, months, or years later in order to absolve them self of the guilt they're carrying.
    3. The Discontented Cheater
    He/she blames YOU! There is something you did or (stopped doing) that caused them to be open to cheating. This could range from being emotionally distant, lack of sex, constant arguing/complaining, taking them for granted...etc Someone came along and flirted with them, complemented them, put a smile on their face and in their heart, told them how LUCKY (you) are to have them and made him/her feel "special" and "alive" again.
    This gave them something to look forward to!
    Both monogamy and cheating are choices made by the individual.

  5. Wunmi Olugbode profile image60
    Wunmi Olugbodeposted 14 months ago

    Off course not all men cheat but mist do ,