I live in missouri the guy I have been talking to lives in NYC

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   ldmeyersposted 14 years ago

   I live in missouri the guy I have been talking to lives in NYC
   
   come for a visit. The flight is about $400 not including hotel. As a women meeting and going to somewhere for the first time I prefer to select my own hotel. Should I be expected to pay for the whole trip?

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   MickSposted 14 years ago

   There is no way on this planet that you want to feel beholden to this stranger, so pay your own way.  You do not want him to know where your hotel is until after you have met him, several times, in very open, public places.  After meeting him in the flesh, several times, and then, only if you think he is trustworthy, do you bring up the question of how much this meeting has cost you.
   We have to remember that any strangers we meet on the Internet, even after many months of electronic contact, are just signals on our monitors, in the flesh meetings need to be carried out with caution.

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   reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

   that's up to you.  You have to make the decision, are you not aware of how you would like or in which direction you would like "this relationship" to go.  To be honest why are you going anywhere to meet a strange man in the name of a relationship.  If it were that serious he would have taken the initiative to come to you, Just sounds too shady.  He doesn't seem like he is worth it, and I don't know much about him

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   EllenDeanposted 14 years ago

   I agree with MickS. I met my husband over the internet and when we first met (after 6 months of being pen pals), he stayed at a hotel and we just met in the open for a few days so we could check each other out.
   
   Going on 5 years and newlyweds, it all turned out very well.  This is not always the case.
   
   Use caution, hang out in public places, let friends know where you'll be - or agree to call them at specific times or give them your number so they can check in on you.  Be intuitive and if you have a bad feeling - there's a reason for it.  If you have a good feeling, have a great time!

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   Veronicaposted 14 years ago

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