my boyfriend and i have been together for a while now and were in love even his mom loves me....
now he has asked to marry me and i think we are to young to get married, but i want to marry him at the same time. What should i do??
If you think you are too young to get married then you are too young to get married. So don't rush into something you aren't ready for.
Live together if you want to but hold off on the marriage thing until you feel ready.
There is no firm answer to this. It doesn't help that you don't indicate what you mean by "too young." I was 21 when I married my husband (19). It's been 10 years, and not always easy -- but always worth it. I will admit we married too young, and if I were to advise my younger self, I would advise waiting a few months -- or, at the very least, discuss parenting/ desired number of children BEFORE we married.
As far as age and relationships go -- on the one hand, there are sociological and relationship studies that indicate those who marry later are subjecting themselves to more difficulty. Something to do with being more set in our habits, more independent, and less willing to make the necessary changes and compromise necessary in any relationship.
On the other hand, marrying too young can create a sort of imagined parallel life -- where every time you have a fight, you wonder, "What if? What if I'd waited? What if I'd given him a chance to meet other people? Where would I be now? What would my life be like?" And sometimes those questions make life unbearable, the unanswerable, unknowable dream that life could have been different and better.
You may want to read a few hubs I've written on relationships, some in response to questions similar to yours.
1. To Marry or Not to Marry: http://hubpages.com/hub/to-marry-or-not-to-marry_
2. The 10 Commandments of Modern Relationships: http://hubpages.com/hub/The-10-Commandm … ationships (despite the title, not religiously-inclined. Promise.)
3. Are Soulmates Real?: http://hubpages.com/hub/Are-soulmates-real_4
For me, marriage is a lifetime commitment. Before entering that phase, you must be physically, emotionally and mentally prepared. If your holding back because you think you're too young, then don't rush. If he really loves you, he'll wait until you are fully prepared. Just enjoy the moment being together. I had the same situation like this sometime in the past, I refused to, cause I know that life has many things instored for me. And I know that I made the right decision.
Just get married. There is no such things as "too young to get married" as long as the two people love each other. Marriage will make you both more financially secure, and everything else between the two of you shouldn't change that much.
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