Do you think that abusive behavior in men can be changed?

Jump to Last Post 1-8 of 8 discussions (8 posts)
  1. misscoles profile image59
    misscolesposted 7 years ago

    Do you think that abusive behavior in men can be changed?

  2. MCAT4 profile image55
    MCAT4posted 7 years ago

    The question is "Do you think you can adapt to the abusive behaviour in men?", after all, the change really comes from yourself not "them" so to speak.  We can't change others without their consent but we can change ourselves.  I know, I know, easily said than done however, I am living proof.  Been there, done that, got the diploma and will never have to resit that life lesson ever again!

  3. Karen Wodke profile image61
    Karen Wodkeposted 7 years ago

    It's just my opinion, but no. I don't think so. It's best to get far away from an abusive man and the sooner the better. Someday if HE really wants to change, he will get the therapy needed to do so.

  4. misscoles profile image59
    misscolesposted 7 years ago

    I agree with everything you say. I don't condone abuse in my relationships because i can NOT adapt to that behavior. I recently wrote a hub that explored the reasoning behind a man's anger and the effect it will have on the women in question. Thank you for your reply! smile

  5. profile image0
    Butch Newsposted 7 years ago

    It can be changed but they have to become aware of their problem and that doesn't happen easily nor overnight.

    It takes a kind of awakening in them to realize their behaviour is not acceptable.  They have been that way since childhood so it's part of their basic character.  Don't have big expectations because most will not change.

  6. MickS profile image69
    MickSposted 7 years ago

    Yes, in much the same way as abusive behavior in women can be changed.

  7. profile image60
    florence123posted 7 years ago

    It really depends on the individual and the reasons behind his behaviour. Never an easy answer to this, but always worth a good try. Hard for those closest to him as anger will always be present. Depends how strong love really is in the relationship and how much man wants to change. If he dosen't than best to get out.

  8. nifty@50 profile image73
    nifty@50posted 7 years ago

    The reason why this behavior is hard to change, is because it is a learned behavior that was taught by a roll model (usually the father) when the abusive male was growing up. This is what he perceives as normal interaction between male and female in given situations. He doesn't know how to properly discipline children without being abusive.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)