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Do you think that abusive behavior in men can be changed?

  1. misscoles profile image60
    misscolesposted 7 years ago

    Do you think that abusive behavior in men can be changed?

  2. MCAT4 profile image57
    MCAT4posted 7 years ago

    The question is "Do you think you can adapt to the abusive behaviour in men?", after all, the change really comes from yourself not "them" so to speak.  We can't change others without their consent but we can change ourselves.  I know, I know, easily said than done however, I am living proof.  Been there, done that, got the diploma and will never have to resit that life lesson ever again!

  3. Karen Wodke profile image63
    Karen Wodkeposted 7 years ago

    It's just my opinion, but no. I don't think so. It's best to get far away from an abusive man and the sooner the better. Someday if HE really wants to change, he will get the therapy needed to do so.

  4. misscoles profile image60
    misscolesposted 7 years ago

    I agree with everything you say. I don't condone abuse in my relationships because i can NOT adapt to that behavior. I recently wrote a hub that explored the reasoning behind a man's anger and the effect it will have on the women in question. Thank you for your reply! smile

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    Butch Newsposted 7 years ago

    It can be changed but they have to become aware of their problem and that doesn't happen easily nor overnight.

    It takes a kind of awakening in them to realize their behaviour is not acceptable.  They have been that way since childhood so it's part of their basic character.  Don't have big expectations because most will not change.

  6. MickS profile image71
    MickSposted 7 years ago

    Yes, in much the same way as abusive behavior in women can be changed.

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    florence123posted 7 years ago

    It really depends on the individual and the reasons behind his behaviour. Never an easy answer to this, but always worth a good try. Hard for those closest to him as anger will always be present. Depends how strong love really is in the relationship and how much man wants to change. If he dosen't than best to get out.

  8. nifty@50 profile image74
    nifty@50posted 7 years ago

    The reason why this behavior is hard to change, is because it is a learned behavior that was taught by a roll model (usually the father) when the abusive male was growing up. This is what he perceives as normal interaction between male and female in given situations. He doesn't know how to properly discipline children without being abusive.